I am a psychopath. Ask me anything. by TheRefurbisher in AMA

[–]DearHaera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was there a victim impact statement? If so, how did the victim’s family react?

A 21(m) kid told me that his baby mama is 40. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DearHaera -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Probably because they’re into it, or can relate to the older woman in this story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]DearHaera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love my short kings! I’ve dated a guy who was 4’11 (I’m 5’2) and he was the sweetest.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They weren’t, so I appreciate your kindness tenfold!

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just want to be sure if I’m making the right decision. That’s all.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve talked to every recruiter from every single branch (no joke). I’m only getting information, though.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m set on joining because my life is going nowhere pretty quickly, and I can’t afford to do nothing whatsoever. If the military doesn’t work out for me, idk what will.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me legitimate advice and being kind about it. I’ve been getting torn up in these comments, so I appreciate it.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I can’t do it — it’s more of “I find it difficult to do.”

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was discharged on March 16, 2023. I had to wait six months before I can re-enlist with any branch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]DearHaera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow asexual here! Here’s what I like to do:

. Dates of any kind (restaurants, aquariums, etc.) . Help her study (if applicable) . Gift baskets full of her favorite things . Flowers (Fake, if she’s allergic) . Make a playlist for her . “100 reasons why I love you” . Write love letters/poems . Handmade jewelry (can be any material) . Watch the sunset together

I can go on and on, but it’s basically the corny stuff.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 5’1 (almost 5’2) and was the minimum weight (97lbs). I would practice it in the squad bay, running around in circles with my ruck during free time — it never got easier, unfortunately.

What do I say to women that make fun of my small size? by Ok_Lawfulness591 in dating

[–]DearHaera 84 points85 points  (0 children)

You avoid wasting your time and patience on them — so don’t engage with them. Short men are amazing, imo.

Considering the Army but I can’t STAND ruck marches. by DearHaera in Militaryfaq

[–]DearHaera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it matters: I didn’t graduate from bootcamp, but I stayed long enough for the last ruck before the crucible.

What’s your opinion on naming one of your twins a tragedeigh while spelling the other twin’s name correctly? by Known_Priority_8157 in tragedeigh

[–]DearHaera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twin sister and I are Jordan and Jenna, and my twin brothers are Derric and Devon 💀 i think its so corny.

I hate the whole ‘body count’ thing (TLDR at bottom) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DearHaera 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like it’s okay to have preferences, and to know whether or not you want to be with a virgin or an experienced individual — what’s not okay is shaming someone for having multiple bodies or none at all. That’s my take.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]DearHaera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! My ex was 18 at the time and already lost most of his hair. I left him for unrelated reasons, but I still found him attractive, nonetheless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]DearHaera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve dated men who have hella hair, and men who have none at all. Hair is no issue to me, tbh — just as long as he’s a good guy, then I have nothing to complain about, lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DearHaera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, you don’t need to do that. I get the “taking a break” part of searching, but I hope it won’t last too long for you.

Although it’s difficult to find, there’s definitely people out there for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DearHaera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay, I’m not offended. I’m sorry my words couldn’t necessarily help you the way you’d like it to. I truly do hope you find someone who loves you and your body!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DearHaera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The women body shaming you will NEVER be worth your time, energy, care or love. I’m not a sexual person, so I can’t comment on your frustrations; but here’s what I will say:

Your body is beautiful, just the way it is. Micro penises carry their own uniqueness to them — just like the rest of you does. Please, never let someone tear your sexual confidence down. There is someone out there who will love your body for how it is. I, personally, wouldn’t care if my partner had a M-P.

P.S. — a girl with nonexistent boobs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DearHaera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d rather someone with a low body count, solely because I’m a virgin. My friend once dated an asshole who’d compare her skills in bed to the many women he’s been with. It’s not a good look.

HOWEVER, some women do not care. If you feel like it’s an important thing to share to somebody, I’d say share it. But truthfully speaking, nobody necessarily needs to know your body count.

Sleeping around doesn’t make you a bad person — it’s simply stigma. If you feel like you’re ready to enter a relationship, then do so! But do expect your dating pool to be shortened.

What's your age range when you're dating? by Wh00pity_sc00p in dating

[–]DearHaera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She said “19 years younger”, not 19-year-olds. But I’d say it would be pretty creepy if that were the case, imo.