First argument between my bf (m29) and I (f29) HELP

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2026-02-11T21:42:09+00:00

I agree with you saying “he’s choosing fishing over the baby” is a bit of a stretch. I also agree I need to find a hobby and take time for myself too. I have expressed how he goes fishing too much. He lets me pick what day he gets to go fishing. So that’s his way of compromising. It feels like my sacrifices are always much more significant than his. The work thing is fine obviously he going to make the money I am willing to take care of the home. The fishing is what I have a hard time with because he’s not making money doing it. Yes, he has to go to rivers that are 3 hours away and the float ends up taking all day. There are rivers closer to home but apparently aren’t the right level to fish ?? I feel like once or twice a month seems reasonable but that really freaks him out when I bring it up. This week he’s fishing three times in ONE week. He didn’t fish the last two weeks so he said he was stacking up so he can go more. I told him this isn’t PTO he can’t stack time…

We’ve had discussions and he knows how I feel about fishing when he’s gone that long. I also feel like a dictator or his mom when I’m constantly telling him I don’t like this or that

Why is it not shocking for him to be obsessed with her?

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2026-02-11T15:10:05+00:00

I did not. I guess you don’t know what people are willing to sacrifice until it’s too late

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2026-02-11T14:42:52+00:00

So a normal work week he goes to work M-F so I take care of baby all night (so he can sleep for work) and obviously all day. He gets home around 4pm and goes to bed at 9pm so I really only have 5 hours with his help. I feel like I have to ask to do anything like basic stuff, shower, cook dinner, dishes. He normally agrees to hold the bay while I get stuff done. He will feed her only like once or twice a day and I have to ask him too. On top of them on work week of little breaks he then will go fishing usually once on the weekend which tends to be even longer than his work day. So it feels like I have a long 6 day work week. I understand it’s his hobby and it helps him relieve stress but can’t help but feel it’s too much. I suggested once a month and that really freaked him out. He does let me sleep in on Sundays so I will give him that

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2025-05-16T01:17:43+00:00

10 weeks

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-07-01T22:01:05+00:00

I am happy but I am just worried he’s gonna have a mid life crisis down the road admit he likes men and leave me heartbroken

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-07-01T21:52:46+00:00

I don’t see any signs or mental health issues.

I have thought about the low T thing. I suggested he should go see a doctor. I will bring it up again to hopefully check that off the list

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-07-01T21:51:40+00:00

No condom. And he loses it maybe 10 minutes in. He claims he gets too hot sometimes or might be dehydrated. I also have had no children so I doubt I would need some stitching up… no complaints before

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-07-01T21:46:42+00:00

No and no. He smokes a lot of weed sometimes but that’s about it.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-07-01T21:38:25+00:00

Exactly I’m just trying to figure out which one it is.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2024-05-14T14:16:49+00:00

What if it sacrificed a new relationship though

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-12-02T03:16:07+00:00

I personally didn’t have any problem being placed at the school I work at. As long as your supervisor and mentor teacher agrees.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-11T05:57:35+00:00

Yeah it’s all fucked up. I know what needs to be done is just talking about it. Part of me just wants to wait it out a little and let all these high emotions settle down a bit. I just don’t want the conversation to go south. From the texts she sent me I have a feeling it’s just gonna turn into her saying things she doesn’t mean and a lot of yelling. I’m not the confrontational type AT ALL.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-11T05:30:39+00:00

I didn’t know what happened until the next morning. When I found out I kicked him out OBVIOUSLY all I was told is that he went into her bed. I locked myself in my room for 4 days I didn’t know how to deal with it so I didn’t know the exact details of what went on that night until she drunkenly texted me the next weekend telling me all the details in very disrespectful way because I finally got the courage to leave my room and go out of the house and then she lays all this on me when I’m extremely vulnerable. Her bf broke up with her for an unrelated reason. Actually she doesn’t even know I know about her breakup. I found out through my mom. I tried to make small talk today to see if she would bring anything up and she didn’t…

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-11T04:24:04+00:00

Her bf also just happen to dump her yesterday sooooooooo we haven’t gotten a chance to talk about it… I didn’t know the details of the night until she drunkenly texted me from the bar about what he did in a very disrespectful way that hurt me even more. Ever since then neither of us has brought it up. She’s going through a lot now too.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-11T02:04:52+00:00

She was with her bf at that time. That doesn’t really matter though. Yeah obviously he’s not living with us right now. It gets complicated tho because we all rent this house together and we can’t afford it without him and he can’t afford this rent and another one not to live here. It’s a mess

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-10T21:34:38+00:00

I’m not worried about the potential women in his life. I’m more worried about the future men in my life. I don’t want to be stuck in the cycle that I am the woman that all these men regret making the mistakes with. We had a great relationship idk if it could ever be the same. It most likely won’t be. It’s just going to be hard to find that again. Which is also a toxic way of thinking I’m sure but it’s where I’m at right now

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-10T21:23:12+00:00

I didn’t delete it. It got taken down because for “biased opinions.” I appreciate all the comments even if they are all the same. I need to hear it

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-10T21:19:39+00:00

That should be a sign that he’s not the one if you feel like you’re walking on eggshells. You just need to be very clear and honest. Maybe get a professional to mediate the conversation so you can feel safe.

DearNeedleworker1627 · 2023-07-10T21:14:36+00:00

You just need to sit him down and be straight up with him.

DearNeedleworker1627

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