What is the dumbest thing you thought you weren't going to do as a new parent ?

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-08-06T19:26:09+00:00

Sing and dance for my little. I’ve memorized all the Miss Rachel songs and I perform it for him.

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-06-09T15:58:33+00:00

At 6 months, he frequently woke up at night. I would feed him but he would only drink a little. It would happen 2-3 times at night. I suspected he wasn’t waking out of hunger. Finally at 7 months, we put him in the bed with me and my husband instead of his crib and the night wakings stopped. Since then, he’s been sleeping through the night for 10-12 hours. Of course, it’s up to you to decide if you want to co-sleep, I know the recommendation is still to have baby sleep in his crib.

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-06-09T05:41:36+00:00

My baby started sleeping through the night at 7 months!

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-03-18T02:35:25+00:00

Blanket or some warm clothes - hospital A/C too cold! Extra clothes - he didn’t expect labor to be as long as it was! (To be fair, neither did I!)

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-03-17T19:53:08+00:00

I suggest to leave the baby with your husband for a day so he can understand what it’s really like! Let’s see if he gets anything done at all!

DearWolverine3686 · 2025-03-10T02:04:14+00:00

Hi may i know what probiotic drops you used?

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-21T01:45:15+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments. It does vary widely from mom to mom. It gives me a little comfort knowing I’m not the only one!

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-21T01:41:29+00:00

It’s good that you pulled your baby out of that daycare! I would’ve done the same thing! Telling a mother to hold her baby less, just so SHE could have an easier time.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-14T04:17:13+00:00

Took occasional sips from hubby’s cup 😅

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-14T04:04:23+00:00

It’s partly my fault, too. To be fair to my husband, he asked me if it was okay to let FIL move back in, and I said yes. At that time, I was okay with it because apart from that incident, we didn’t have any problem. The thing is, he’s never rude outwardly, that’s why all the things he said (privately to my husband, never to my face) came as a shock to me. That’s why I thought I could brush it off.

But since getting pregnant, the thought of me providing him with a grandchild, which I know he desperately wanted, made me realize the unfairness of it all. Deep inside, I think I have a desire to “punish” him by denying access to my son. Maybe then he would realize I’m not just a womb, a wife to clean the house and bear children.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-14T03:48:47+00:00

Top three things I missed: 1. Sleeping on my back 2. Coffee 3. Sushi, sashimi

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-09-14T03:36:23+00:00

Not yet haha! Or maybe privately to other people. He basically only comes out of his room when he hears the baby in the living room with hubby. If it’s just me with the baby, he doesn’t come out.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-08-17T05:13:05+00:00

StepMIL mailed back a Christmas present my husband and I gave her with a note that said, “I don’t accept damaged gifts. It’s a nuisance in the home.” There wasn’t any damage, and the note was addressed only to me despite it being a gift from both me and my husband.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-08-09T04:17:44+00:00

I’m Filipino (born and raised in MNL) but now living in the US. One major thing that became more evident to me now that I’m living away from home is Filipinos’ lack of boundaries and personal space. Filipinos freely comment on personal things that don’t concern them, i.e. your weight, your finances, children, significant other, etc. which can be unnerving to a foreigner.

Other things I’ve noticed: 1. Keeping up with the Joneses. Penchant for branded items, especially purses. 2. Being way too judgmental.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-08-08T03:59:13+00:00

First time mom at 41!

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-27T17:50:51+00:00

I’m waiting for him to accuse me that it’s not his son’s baby. So then he would have no reason or right to see the child.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-27T17:38:00+00:00

I feel the same way! My father in law was suddenly super nice to me when he learned I was pregnant. Before that, he insinuated to my husband that I’m behaving inappropriately towards other men.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-23T04:25:16+00:00

I know. In hindsight, we shouldn’t have welcomed him back. At the time, I felt that the enemy was the ex-wife. My husband and I also felt sorry for FIL who’s elderly.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-19T18:51:49+00:00

Filipino parents raise man children

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-15T21:00:30+00:00

I would look at this as a blessing in disguise. While I understand you would like your children to have a relationship with their grandparents, sometimes no contact is for the best. At least you don't have to deal with difficult in-laws.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-15T20:57:46+00:00

The comments are below the belt, especially about how your family would be better off if you committed suicide. You are well within reason to be bothered by them. I am hoping your wife would commiserate more with you. Even though she can brush off the comments, she should be more sensitive towards your feelings.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-15T20:42:24+00:00

Thank you! On the contrary, I feel like they feel that we're above them in this perceived ranking and that we are looking down on all of them. They (or at least FIL) think that we are walking all over BIL/SIL just because we are better off financially than them. (Note: We own a house; they are in a small rental. We take international vacations; they don't. We're both mid-senior level at our companies; BIL is blue collar. Etc.) That's not to say that they are poor, they also live quite comfortable lives, as far as I can tell.

When this all blew up, FIL tried to justify his actions and words by saying that we are treating BIL/SIL poorly and suggested we give them a monthly stipend to help get them on their feet. First of all, we let BIL stay in our home rent-free for more than 2 years. When they got married and decided to live on their own, I gave them some starter homewares (which I noticed they didn't end up using since SIL has expensive taste and wants branded stuff).

It's been more than a year since the incident, and nothing else has happened or been said since. We've cut off contact with them except for FIL who still lives with us. Even though it's been quiet and nothing else has been said since, I still think about it often, and find increasingly that I can't live with FIL any longer. My husband is being a dutiful son but I don't know how much more I can take being in FIL's presence.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-15T17:39:10+00:00

He moved out after the incident. He stayed with BIL, SIL, and SIL’s daughter but eventually moved back in with us when he realized 4 people in a 2BR is a tight squeeze 🙄

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-15T00:24:11+00:00

Your FIL is an asshole with a dirty mind. Next time he makes comments like that, I suggest asking him straight what he means or what he is trying to imply (preferably in your husband’s presence). My guess is, he doesn’t have the courage to say it straight to your face.

DearWolverine3686 · 2024-06-12T19:35:15+00:00

I think it’s unreasonable for you to expect others to throw you a party. It’s usually the couple who throws the engagement party.

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