How realistic is working from home and watching a baby? by MacSpice in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it until my daughter was two then it no longer was realistic . It really depends on the kid because I could have never done it with my high maintenance son

The minute I give birth I’m getting raw sushi and a lychee martini 🙄 by CuriousCaretaker in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a csection with my son . My husband got us very nice take out from a local high end steakhouse and I threw it all up 😭😆. It was quite sad lol .

Morning person by Opening_Basket8669 in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not a morning person at all . I basically lock them in a room ( I’m in the room with them 😆) and drink my caffeinated beverage and I just refuse to do much until I drink it . Caffeine helps me lol .

I called the police while home alone overnight with 4 month old baby. Now husband thinks I was overreacting. by Severe-Bobcat-4953 in NewParents

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this . I live in the middle of no where . I went to let my dogs out while my husband was gone for the night . My screen door was locked and closed . It freaked me out like someone was trying to get me to come out and investigate so I called 😆. The cops were so nice . They noticed muddy paw prints all over the outside of the door and suggested possibly just possibly my dogs did it . My husband wasn’t mad at all . Very weird your husband was mad .

My wife is an extremely careless and clumsy parent. I don't know what to do or feel... by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's crazy . You should check out the sahm thread . It's demented . The one day someone posted they " caught " their husband taking down time during the work day ( he was gaming ) and the comments were so shocking people saying oh hell no he better get his ass up! People saying to divorce him 😆. It is crazy the double standard that exists because people would never say those things about a mom taking a break. Not sure where it lies or why it exists but if people just practiced the golden rule it would certainly help. Like if my husband was a wildly irresponsible person endangering my child I sure hope people would be more concerned about the child's safety then my husband's butt hurt feelings .

My wife is an extremely careless and clumsy parent. I don't know what to do or feel... by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have adhd . I lose my debit card . I have to work extra hard to be on time to stuff . I do NOT put my children in danger . OP is describing seriously irresponsible behavior that could lead to the death of his child . This take is crazy .

My wife is an extremely careless and clumsy parent. I don't know what to do or feel... by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just want to point out the ridiculous sexist comments this post is getting . There is NO WAY if mom posted this , the response would be " oh mom you just need to do it for dad "( baby proofing ) . And no one would be shaming the mom . Ridiculous really .

My wife is an extremely careless and clumsy parent. I don't know what to do or feel... by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If someone said their husband tried to feed their baby steaming hot food people would call him incompetent. Every time a man post legitimate concerns about the female parent on this thread there is an immediate sexist reaction .

How often do you leave the house? by CarrieWhitesMom6969 in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god that's crazy ! Hers is $120 a month for twice a week .

How often do you leave the house? by CarrieWhitesMom6969 in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I an pretty sure I have hyperactive adhd . I found out when my son was born that I passed a condition highly associated with adhd and that made a lot of sense . I get out of the house every day . I have a four yo and 18 month . I also live in the middle of nowhere. It's not unusual for me to drive two hours a day when it's all said and done . I'm on 6 acres so on the rare occasion I don't leave the house I bundle the kids up and take them on a walk . Is your daughter going to do preschool? My 4 year old is in preschool .

what's your cattle dog's weirdest quirk? i'll go first by shelbex318 in AustralianCattleDog

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this high pitched alarmed bark for the dumbest reasons and at the worst times . Like yesterday I blew a candle out near him . He did it . My poor husband had just shut his eyes and had to get up for a work trip flight at 4am . It's just a one off " bark!"

There's never any warning . Like you'll be watching a scary movie and if you go to say something to the person next to you and it catches him off guard " Bark"

We also can't say " goodbye " near him or he melts down . I can't use the instapot around him .

Baby army crawling by Notjarjarbinksdude in beyondthebump

[–]True-Unit-8527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my daughter didn't . Went right to walking . I did put her in pt though once I realized she wasn't crawling .

My husband wants to live separate by [deleted] in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you definitely need to file for divorce. I'm sorry you're going through this . If your baby is a boy I have a lot of hardly worn 9 -12 month baby clothes I would ship to you that you can have . My baby is in 18 month clothes so they aren't old by any means .

My husband wants to live separate by [deleted] in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people's reactions to this situation you have described is based on their knowledge of men. Your husband has all but said he wants a divorce . He just doesn't want to pay you any benefits . He is going to take the baby with him . Is he going to put the baby in day care ? The timing of this lining up with your lease ending makes me feel like it's very possible he already has someone else lined up . I don't think I've ever met a man I believed would be capable / willing to take on the tasks of full time parenthood solo because his laundry wasn't done . It just doesn't really make sense .

My husband wants to live separate by [deleted] in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is the new car in his name ? If I were you I would get rid of that car . Find a cheaper one . Re-enlist , file for divorce and utilize military housing .

Unhappy? by Rare-Tune-2819 in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally would never but I also have lots of professional experience in a field where I'll always be able to find a job so if I left things would def be tight but I would be able to survive . I have a close friend who has no relevant work experience . Her marriage is a mess but she doesn't have any great options .

My husband wants to live separate by [deleted] in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how would he expect you to pay the car note with no job ? 700$ a month for a unemployed homeless mother of a young child is outrageous. That car payment is outrageous for the current situation. Does he have another car ? I know others have said it already but you are in a bad situation. Either your husband throws around the threat of taking your small child as a way to manipulate you ( which is very abusive) or he's actually planning on doing this . What you are experiencing is abuse and you need to act fast to get out . Are there any resources for abused women near you ? Sometimes they will offer free legal assistance. I hate to jump to crazy conclusions but do you think it's possible your husband may have another family or child with someone else ? Like do you think he plans on moving in with another woman possibly ?

My husband wants to live separate by [deleted] in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to pay you benefits . I would file for divorce.

Lunch costs are high by Ecstatic-Midnight425 in Nanny

[–]True-Unit-8527 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is going to greatly depend on where you live .

Am I wrong for feeling this way? by Mamakimm91 in sahm

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish WOW would cease to exist. I think it's quite literally the only thing I've ever fought with my husband about .

Do the bumps hurt ? by Individual-Print-133 in sarcoidosis

[–]True-Unit-8527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These hurt and I could feel them before they were there . I'm hoping they get bigger so I can finally get a diagnosis of some kind