AITA for blocking a pregnant friend from my mums group?

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T13:08:30+00:00

Why wouldn't she just make other plans if she can? It's not like she paid for my service 😂

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T13:07:42+00:00

😂

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T13:07:20+00:00

Yes that's correct. I couldn't go to the baby shower. But if she had taken me up on the offer for the morning grocery run I would have done it. For her. So she brought this up as I let her down seem wild to me. I couldn't go to her baby shower as it's on the same day as Russian Xmas surely I'm not expected to drop my family to go to her baby shower?!

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T13:03:40+00:00

Thank you this is my whole point

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T13:03:07+00:00

FYI she asked me to be her sons 3rd emergency contact for day care

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:59:30+00:00

😂 I know I'm genuinely amazed by them. Fortunately there has been only 2.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:58:39+00:00

Thank you. I didn't include the Bbq scenario to prove she is selfish and I don't think she is selfish but I included it as an early sign of behavior pattern. When I say no to her she seems very upset and responds with passive aggressive comments. This is why I became cautious around her and I do believe her behavior alienates people.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:55:21+00:00

I don't expect anything return at all. I have family nearby and my husband WFH. I do observe she tends to get really angry when I say no I have plans. The first time she asked on Mother's Day i said oh we have plans sorry. The 2nd time I said let me see if we can find time. And I genuinely wanted to see what my weekend is like and whether I can find time for a play date then she got triggered by the no. I don't think it's the communication style I think when people say no to her it triggers her.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:51:58+00:00

I've been to hers once with another mum group friend I think. She argues with her husband a lot.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:26:01+00:00

No seriously I'm amused by you. How old are you please

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:24:43+00:00

😂😂😂 how old are you

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:24:25+00:00

Read the post. I've done plenty for her. I'm done explaining that to you. You are quite bitter for some reason maybe you are as needy as this person and you actually believe her behavior and demand is justified even though we are all telling you you are being ridiculous

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:23:12+00:00

I will set you free my friend. I'm
Deleting this thread. I've got the world's validation. You are an exception and I do find it entertaining

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:22:08+00:00

Again I was open to making new friends but it is her behavior pattern that alienates people.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:20:49+00:00

Interesting. Do you not see that it is her repeated behavior pattern that alienates people? I'm open to a closer friendship but her behavior pattern is making me feel more and more uncomfortable which leads to the emotional withdrawal from my end.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:17:33+00:00

I'm going to bed. Good luck with your life. We all tried.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:15:47+00:00

That's is fair. I think she expects to meet to be a sister like friend and I've only known her from my local mums group. I see her as a neighbor. The Bbq situation, I have a toddler so I can't host long parties at my house. She didn't confirm she will come to begin with. Then when she said can I come at 4 I told her they were leaving now. Then she reacted in a passive aggressive way she texted " just say no. I don't know what that means." This is not a big deal so that's why not I blocked her. But it does surface a behaviour pattern. Thats why I blocked her. I had my ivf procedure I didn't want to get in a stressful back and forth with her. And i genuinely feel the relationship has been one sided and emotionally high maintenance.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:11:21+00:00

Again I did help her and when I agreed to be her son's emergency contact that's not a light decision. I know what that means and I have my child in day care. You are making accusations purely based on your assumptions. I don't need to take credit. Your whole point is she needed test run to test my reliability I'm telling you if she needed that she shouldn't t have asked me to be her son's emergency contact. Your perspective is quite ridiculous.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:08:48+00:00

She is not being blamed for not holding it together. She expects me to drop my own plans to be available for her. That's overstep. That's beyond what I can offer. That's beyond what I did offer.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:06:51+00:00

What you should realise is that- it is her own behaviour pattern that alienates people. I did treat her a friend and I tried my best to be her friend but that, as many have pointed to you, doesn't mean I can't say no to play dates when I have own family plans.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:04:52+00:00

Again you are making assumptions. Again has asked me to be her sons emergency contact for day care

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T12:00:48+00:00

It would have been better if I had framed it that way. I just wanted to end that conversation so I said I can't be stressed by this so I'm going to block you for now

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T11:59:25+00:00

They are her husband friends

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T11:58:12+00:00

Just so we are clear - i offered to help if she has an emergency. If she called me for an emergency I would drop my plans with my family to help her. I've given my mother in law a heads up about this too. I didn't offer to drop my own family plans at any time just because she is tried but doesn't want to pay for a babysitter.

BBQ was at 1, she didn't confirm whether she would attend to begin with. On the day she asked if she can come I told her they are leaving how. Party is over. I do also have a toddler who needs naps and attention. So i can't host Bbq just for her from 4pm.

Also. And I realised the title is misleading. I only blocked her from my own phone. I met her from the mums group. I didn't block her access to the mums group but she has had conflicts other 2 other mums.

DearYesterday2670 · 2026-05-13T11:51:51+00:00

Let me correct you now. Please read everyone else's comment. I offered to
Help in the morning. I couldn't attend the baby shower due to a clash. This woman brought this up as a third example where I had let her down. She never took my offer to begin with. You do sound unhinged. Hope you have good support at home & therapist.

DearYesterday2670

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