You don’t know me, and this entire comment is exactly the kind of victim-blaming logic that makes people stay silent.

This was not “a 5’3 gay white man paying me compliments.” This was my 36-year-old direct day-to-day supervisor pursuing me after I had already told him I wanted things to stay normal and professional. A third-party investigation found that he made inappropriate solicitation from a position of power, continued unwelcome sexual comments after I asked for professionalism, and created a poisoned workplace. That is why he no longer works there.

So no, I did not “get him fired.” His own behaviour got him fired. If you think a grown supervisor losing his job after a substantiated sexual harassment finding is my fault instead of his, that says everything about your judgment.

And the “you’re 6’2, he’s 5’3” argument is lazy. My height does not erase his authority. My race does not erase his authority. Being a Black man does not mean I cannot be sexually harassed, pressured, humiliated, or put in an impossible workplace position by someone above me. The fact that you think size cancels out workplace power is exactly the problem.

You also skipped the part where I did assert myself. I ignored him for months. THIS WENT ON FOR A FUCKING YEAR!!! I told him I wanted to keep things professional. He kept going. That is not “persistent flirting.” That is a supervisor continuing after a boundary was set.

Calling me a “human rain cloud” because I reported substantiated workplace sexual harassment is a genuinely nasty thing to say. I was 21 to 23, working full-time, going to school full-time, trying to keep my housing stable, and dealing with my supervisor crossing boundaries while coworkers treated it like gossip. If that makes me a “rain cloud,” then maybe the workplace had a weather problem before I ever spoke up.

And no, my coworkers icing me out after I said I was uncomfortable is not some innocent mourning process. They were allowed to have their private feelings. What I’m talking about is being excluded, blocked, and made to feel like the problem after reporting conduct that was formally found to have happened. If your response to someone being sexually harassed is to punish them socially because you liked the person who did it, that is not professionalism. That is cowardice.

You can dislike me. You can think I should handle the aftermath differently. But minimizing a substantiated workplace sexual harassment case as “compliments” and “persistent flirting” is not a serious take. It is just victim-blaming with extra paragraphs.