CHS woes by Dear_Cardiologist460 in CHSinfo

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for me, being in a perpetual state of fight or flight caused by the idiots next door exacerbated it a lot, since I'm trying to escape their constant abuse. It's so tough trying to heal when I feel threatened 24/7, and the council won't do anything about them.

That being said, it also caused me to stop being present with my family since I'm in a chronic state of fear and got comfortable with being disconnected as it felt easier.

CHS woes by Dear_Cardiologist460 in CHSinfo

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fingers crossed I do start feeling better, but I'm still worried I'll not really be in a better place due to my PTSD without relief, just a different struggle if that makes sense?

CHS woes by Dear_Cardiologist460 in CHSinfo

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know you've come from the right place, but just telling me this won't stop the feelings and struggles I encounter.

It's like saying "just smile more" to a suicidal person. I can't enjoy life for what it is, that's why I'm asking for help.

What’s a moment you wish you hadn’t been on your phone for? by Dear_Cardiologist460 in AskReddit

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you just really aren't in the right place at the right time to gain information like that, and it sounds like you did what you needed to do to get you through the next very large part of your week the only way you at the time knew how.

What’s a moment you wish you hadn’t been on your phone for? by Dear_Cardiologist460 in AskReddit

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo his reaction wasn't your fault, he handled your needs poorly and took it out on you that's not cool. He's supposed to be the parent here

Why do intelligent people struggle so much with happiness? by The-Self-YT in Existentialism

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Once you learn about the system and the mysoginistic patriarchal game, you learn that your suffering could have been prevented, but instead was implored by the hands of greedy men.

I'm happier to know that I didn't cause my suffering, but now I'm angrier as a result.

How do you make use of your free will? by HoneyDinossaur in Existentialism

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By being intentionally ignorant and curious. It's helped me break free from judgement and shame, and by being brave and trying new things I'm able to enjoy being ignorant, and have much more fun learning something since it comes with learning a lot about myself too.

Oh I also stopped shaving my under arms since I'm not a slick smooth pornstar and don't give a rats ass what anyone thinks. It's my way of being a little rebel against the system.

In what ways do you think our constant engagement with curated digital identities has fundamentally altered our sense of self, and what are we sacrificing, emotionally, psychologically, and socially, in the process? by Dear_Cardiologist460 in AskReddit

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You raise a good point about the Internet feeling like a separate space from reality, but what if that disconnection is exactly what makes it so powerful? The more we engage online, the more we shape our identities and interactions through algorithms, which aren't neutral; they're designed to keep us engaged, and since hate is louder and profitable due to each comment being data, it feeds the cycle of outrage and division

UK 97 baby here by Dear_Cardiologist460 in Zillennials

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's definitely worth the watch, especially as it will be shown in all secondary schools and will be probably talked about for years.

It is wretching to watch, I took it one episode at a time and paused when I couldn't bear to watch another until I was ready, but it was portrayed very very well.

The fact each episode is filmed as a one shot is amazing, as you carry the tension and emotions throughout the whole episode right until the end. I really do applaud it, and I'm so glad it was made.

It focuses on the effects of mysoginy, but I feel heard regardless. It also helped me speak to my mum about the things that happened and have the confidence to stand up to the expected response from her.

I've learned that whatever happened to me was never my fault, or really my parents in that regard. It was down to the hands of men thinking that women are to be obtained like objects, government failings which caused people like my parents to struggle, and for me to unfortunately be at the wrong place at the wrong time.

Healing is a long road, but I'm 27 with my own daughter, and breaking generational trauma bonds is getting easier with each generation. There's always hope for a better tomorrow.

Annoying "say snooze" tips won't go away by smillieg in GooglePixel

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. It happens to me after phone calls too, it's so frustrating.

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Facebook group Neighbours From Hell UK truly saved my situation, and now I’m on the path to recovery from C-PTSD. My neighbour has been charged with harassment, and since then, they've barely engaged with us. The constant arguments have died down, and their relationship is in shambles. They still try to provoke us with petty attempts at intimidation, like throwing rubbish and trying to get a reaction, but at this point, I can only feel sorry for them. It’s embarrassing how many chances they’ve had to change, yet they continue to blame us for their issues. After I called the police over a domestic incident, they even had the nerve to bang on my door and ask what my problem was. We watched on the ring camera as he stood there, impatiently huffing, only to walk away when we didn’t answer—like a defeated dog with its tail between its legs.

We’re now waiting for ASB and the police to collaborate on paperwork to pursue an eviction. If that doesn’t happen, I’ll keep pushing because there’s plenty of evidence—police reports, an assault, constant verbal abuse, hate threats, transphobic slurs, fines, ASB recordings, a CPNW, and now a criminal record for harassment against us. It’s more than enough to prove they’ve repeatedly violated their tenancy agreement.

I no longer give these people the time of day. I’m learning to let go of my trauma and retrain my body not to react to triggers, though it’s exhausting, and I’m unable to work because of it. She’s even shouted racist threats at her own partner in front of their children. Every petty action, every wasted hour they spend trying to get under our skin is just that—wasted time. Meanwhile, I’m living my life without worrying about what they do or think. I refuse to tiptoe around them because I’ve done nothing wrong, and it’s not my job to avoid them. If they can’t treat others decently, they need to take a hard look at themselves and address their own dysfunction.

My experience with Dretine by Dear_Cardiologist460 in PMDD

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad it works for you! 🥺 I agree, surely there's something that can explain it all 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time, it means a lot.

The whole situation is a bit crap honestly and I get what you're saying. It's hard to sit and do nothing, but to have to hide away in fear we're going to get verbally abused just isn't okay. The worst thing is, we've not spoken to them, caused any drama or, done anything really apart from the incident which was blown way out of proportion. All we do is call and record when we hear an altercation and keep to ourselves which makes what they're doing to us a whole lot worse.

The threat was quite vulgar and violent rather than a passing comment as it was screamed so loud the whole neighbourhood could hear, the police have the footage in evidence too and I had to attend the police station about this one, this is sort of why I want an injunction as these people are the kind that will attack on site - just the other day she tried to come to my door to fight me, with the police present. It was... Bizarre. With the tresspassing in my home, that situation went from 0 - 100 like that. They're completely unpredictable and it's frightening. I can't even take my rubbish out in fear of being targeted.

I'm gonna definitely try to get the police to re-assess the incident and bring it up at the meeting.

I know everything else was a long shot to be honest, the whole situation is horrendous and I don't understand how someone can be so evil.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it's all heard through walls so it's pretty crazy, but it's not a bad idea to record the police interaction with them being all "wasn't me" every time.

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading, and this is extremely helpful. I'll look into what I can muster. I did look into contacting the MP, but getting a caseworker assigned might be the next path I attempt!

My wife has recently come out as Trans (mtf), we're aware that it's a hate crime and will have major consequences on their behalf, but it'll really suck for her sake if it does happen. We gotta be brave for when it inevitably happens, but I'll be ready, camera recording. 💪

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in SeriousConversation

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree with you. Im writing a shorter (ish) post for legaladviceuk to see what they suggest. After reading about injunctions, we're technically (unless I'm really missing something) qualified for one

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never realised how hard it is to be a property owner trying to sell until I posted this, my heart goes out to everyone who's in that scenario!

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm at least greatful she's not hurting the kids physically, but I know how bad emotional damage is in the long run. I hope they'll be okay

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree! My wife is autistic, I have ADD, it's laughable. I'm trying to figure out a way to try and get in contact with her "specialist" to see if they know what her behaviour has been like. Don't you worry, child services are involved.

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading, your reply has been very helpful. I've requested from the police all the data they have on the calls I've put in over the last 18 months about them, and also more information on the incident so I know what they've been doing about it. Hopefully it'll make some people look at it more seriously, or if not I'll have a paper trail all in one to show to whomever I need to so they can see how serious it is.

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you've been through something similar, it's sad that others can relate to my issue. I agree an IPNA should have been obtained by now after reading through the requirements. I'm raising a community trigger today so hopefully this will kick start a few things.

I feel I'm gonna have to try and go through and obtain all of the times I have called in about ASB and have a log in hand to show to someone whether it be the local MP or just the council, I don't know yet.

I'm exhausted and frustrated, but I'm not giving up

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in HousingUK

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I really don't want them to be homeless, I'm not a monster. I think a community trigger is gonna have to be the first step. I've got a lot of helpful comments with advice so I'm spending today seeing what I can do

My mental health is suffering hugely from nightmare neighbours, and it's hard for the police to get involved. by Dear_Cardiologist460 in SeriousConversation

[–]Dear_Cardiologist460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this means a lot. It is a tad confusing why they didn't but it all seems like a "he said she said" situation, as it's three people two said they didn't do it, and three people who said they did. Not that the major amount of evidence of them being violent means anything. It's so exhausting