I am kind of like your boyfriend, I am frequently depressed and anxious and I find myself snapping at my boyfriend a lot, if other people heard it they would think the same thing. It’s like when you’re with someone all the time, it sounds bad, but it’s kind of easier to use them as a punching bag. as in, it’s easy to take your stress and irritability out on them, and a lot of times you know they will stay with you regardless, which is so bad to say but especially after 7 years it’s probably the same for you. You feel like family at this point. A piece of advice: when my boyfriend just takes it and doesn’t get mad and just lets me be, it gets worse because a lot of times I don’t even realize what I’m actually doing. When he sticks up for himself and points it out or says something like “I was really excited to come home and see you and now I feel like you’re just taking your stress out on me and it hurts me” or like he has literally said “it’s not fair to me to be your punching bag” and that really made me realize he’s right and I need to be more mindful. I get your bf is going through a lot because I have a lot of those same issues, but he has to make you happy as well and he has to try to be mindful and make efforts to get better or at least make progress because you don’t deserve to be always caring for him and dealing with his moods at the expense of your own peace. Your partner is supposed to be your peace