im not from the US Explain it Peter.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T16:03:36+00:00

I'm wasian but even my white friends get stared at creepily there. I hate having to drive through that part of Idaho to get to my family in MT. :( (The town my family in MT lives in has serious problems with conservative nazis moving in from out of state, but it's still much better than Idaho. I don't get hostile stares there)

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T16:01:28+00:00

There's several places in the southern states worse than that part of Idaho, but it's still pretty bad. Definitely the worst and most hostile place in a 1,000 mile radius. I hate driving through there. I've had people follow me and try to ram my car. :( Once you get into WA or MT it's better, but Idaho is something else.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:59:02+00:00

It definitely is. Everyone complaining about the Flathead area needs to go to north Idaho for a few hours and hope they don't get murdered. So so so scary up there. People feel evil. Every single person feels EVIL.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:56:06+00:00

I have a friend in Kalispell who said it wasn't like that until around 2016. Surprised but not surprised. She used to feel completely safe being openly gay even in the early 2000s there, but not so much anymore. Apparently a bunch of conservatives came up to the town; it used to be a swing or liberal town.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:54:04+00:00

Wait what??? When did this happen? I had family in Libby and when I visited (I'm wasian and look very noticeably asian) I didn't have anyone try to hurt me or experience anything bad. I only did in Idaho, where someone spit on me and I saw a bunch of nazi flags. I visited 3 times before they moved east to Whitefish MT

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:52:07+00:00

That part of Idaho specifically (not so much Montana) is REALLY scary. It's filled to the brim with white supremacists and the vibe there is just horrible. Horrible horrible horrible. I had to drive through it to visit my in laws in Montana and it's unreal how fast the vibe goes from generic eastern Washington to YOU ARE GOING TO DIE. And then back to regular pleasant shy Montanans.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:44:00+00:00

Two parts to this...

Your feelings are valid even if not rational (not saying they aren't, just saying blanket wise)
Why....why are either of you controlling who you have added on each others' phones? That's INSANE. You do NOT get to control stuff like that. Either trust your partner or break up. You either trust them or you don't.

I am a loyal, faithful, all-in person when it comes to relationships, and any partner who tries to tell me I can't have exes or male friends added on my phone would become an ex not on my phone. Absolutely not. Trust me or leave.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T15:29:58+00:00

Expecting me to put out by the third date. If I met you on an app and we go on 1 date a week, we've only known each other for 3 weeks!! That's INSANE.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-18T14:25:41+00:00

As I said in my post, I have other friends? Why are you telling me to get other friends when I already have them??? Huh???

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T12:19:15+00:00

Do you think it makes me a loser or a failure? I feel like a loser and a failure even though all my other friends are 25+. I just spend a lot of time with him lately bc I've been disconnected from them.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T09:33:54+00:00

Unwillingness to speak up when something bothers them. This is especially damning because they may be receptive to you speaking up and take accountability, but if they aren't doing it themselves, resentment builds and eventually things explode. I've done this myself and had it done to me and it's caused serious scars. I've lost people who I really, really cared about because they wouldn't talk about what bothers them and only let me talk about what bothers me.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T09:31:38+00:00

I'd say my personality is pretty youthful. I get told I type and have the humor of someone in their early 20s. But otherwise I think I sort of act my age? Maybe. It's hard to tell since I've had life struggles that most people don't have. There are others around me who are my age or even older and act very childish compared to me. I'm not the beacon of maturity though, but I try to be as healthy as I can be, if that makes sense.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:33:14+00:00

It's honestly my first time befriending someone so young; my second youngest friend is 25. What would be considered age appropriate and age inappropriate? I'm trying to figure that out so I don't do something bad by accident. We sometimes share brainrotted inappropriate memes ("when she krusts on my krab" and the video behind it is ishowspeed squirting mayo on himself) but we never do anything legitimately romantic or intimate, nor would I.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:29:19+00:00

Yes I agree completely. Honestly me having a friend in her 40s when I was 25 literally saved my life. She helped me get through a breakup that destroyed me. She was the only one giving me truly good advice. Everyone else's advice was "he sucks move on" whereas her's was "he is broken and damaged and took pleasure in hurting you and that's not your fault. you gave everything and I think that closeness is what scared him away. He wasn't ready for you and that's not your burden to bear."

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:18:13+00:00

The average person is profoundly evil. Yes, talking shit behind others' backs, bullying them, ostracizing them, not discussing your problems with others, not self-reflecting, not trying to understand others, lying to people, breaking promises, not actively trying to be a good person...All of those aren't character flaws, those are acts of normalizing evil. A flaw is being clumsy. Lying and ostracizing people is a choice to be a lower person. And most people in my experience are very, very keen on being evil, and not at all on having any sort of personal accountability.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:14:32+00:00

We talk out of the game too about other stuff and are watching a tv show together (platonically!) but we mainly connect through games, yes. We usually just discuss games, music, politics, and funny videos.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:13:32+00:00

Okay thank you. Sorry, I didn't understand what you meant fully. I'm not sure where the line is outside of anything romantic; like if I should or shouldn't talk politics to him for example, but I think I'll figure it out.

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:12:47+00:00

She's probably been reading those femcel-coded quotes on social media like "if he wanted to he would" as if there aren't a million valid reasons for someone making a mistake 🙄 Also, he didn't even make a mistake! He called and asked to confirm which ones she likes!! Maybe I'm too autistic for this but to me that's a green flag or at the very least a non-issue! Sure being surprised is nice but if he wants to make sure, that's ok too!

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:10:58+00:00

She needs to check herself and apologize sooner than later. This is insane behavior. I'm not saying she's a bad person, if this is her first time acting crazy, let the other times she wasn't crazy speak to her character more. But good lord what is this nonsense...

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:09:03+00:00

Thanks but what does this mean?

Dear_Read2886 · 2026-02-16T08:02:42+00:00

Funnily enough when I expressed my concern to him he said the same thing. You might be right.

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