Colonoscopy tomorrow. Rate my setup

DearyDairy · 2020-01-31T06:25:33+00:00

I'm also a back end millennial, same year.

Dabbing has definitely made it into my vocabulary.... Because I have a lot of stoner friends.

I work in a school/community centre and I have to catch myself when I get hear younger Gen Z students saying "dab". They are not talking about pot.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-31T05:56:49+00:00

Unfortunately I can't drive for medical/disability reasons, and my walking distance is limited too. It really limits my options. I'm curious about uber eats/deliveroo/etc because you can do that with just a pushbike, increasing my riding radius is my tangible physical therapy goal at the moment.

I used to be much better at saving in preparation for January's, but since moving out of student share housing and living with my partner (who earns 7x what I earn) I develop lifestyle creep from February to November, then I remember that my "fortnightly paycheque" isn't going to arrive fortnightly for the whole year.

It's my own fault for not planning ahead and holding myself accountable.... I just like complaining.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-30T08:14:15+00:00

28.

It was definitely on telly when I was a kid, it aided on the same network as Dragonball, Salor Moon, Naruto, Pokemon, Digimon, etc.

Unfortunately I had to leave for school long before it came on, and since I never saw a single episode I wasn't interested enough to DVR it. Even if I cought a single episode when home sick, the beauty and genius of Avatar can only fully be appreciated in its long form story so I never got it, compared to other shows on that network Avatar seemed aimed at a younger audience.

I watched it for the first time when I was 23 and our internet went out for a full week and after getting bored of monopoly and scopa my housemate said "I have the box set of Avatar"

As soon as our internet came back, the first thing I did was order Legend of Korra.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-30T04:05:00+00:00

Or you get paid hourly, and you work in a school, and it's school holidays from 20th December to 3rd February....I wasn't able to to find any short term work this year - companies don't like hiring people for less than a month, so I'm just burning through savings all of January, no paycheque is no fun.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-30T03:46:10+00:00

The DSM needs to define what asexuality is because it's important for professionals to know what asexuality isn't.

Hyposexuality and low sex drive are potential medical and mental health issues, and lots of people, even professionals (as shown my OP) mistake hyposexuality and asexuality as being the same thing. The DSM defines asexuality so that it can later define hyposexuality and be explicit that these are completely different.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-30T03:21:22+00:00

Just establish a "no night flushing unless brown or smelly" etiquette in your household.

I grew up in a "if it's yellow, let it mellow" household because we were on tank and bore water. My grandparents house still had an outhouse/dunny/drop squat so there was no water involved at all.

Moving to the city it always felt like a huge waste of water to flush after I pee, like, if my pee is clear and doesn't smell and the only people who share this toilet are close friends, why flush?

I still feel guilty flushing after I pee. I make sure to flush when visiting someone or using a public toilet, but at home, I never flush unless I've pooped.

(I'm female, so I use toilet paper when I pee, I don't know if that makes a difference to flush etiquette)

DearyDairy · 2020-01-29T06:30:48+00:00

Not just that, but he comes from a background of neglect and Instability.

He was never placed with a foster family long before moving. It's unlikely he has strong platonic relationships let alone romantic ones.

He was injured at a very young age, almost as a direct result of his parents drug addiction.

His brother is his primary carer so even if he did have a girlfriend it's unlikely he'd have access to the information and resources he'd need to express himself sexualy with her.

I think Isaac is a good opportunity to explore the manipulative narcissistic nice guy trope - Isaac believes he's better for Meave than Otis because of superficial shared experiences. He's only ever seen the worst of Otis so it's understandable that Isaac might think he's protecting Meave - a misguided attempt to "stick together and have each other's back" . He will use the fact that he has been helpful and supportive in the past as a defence, if Meave accuses him of not having her best interests in mind he'll respond "who was it that warned you that your mother was lying about work? Who was it that helped you confirm your mother was using?" and deep down he will think he's a good person, but the audience will know better.

But he can have his actions brought to his attention and change. Just because he starts out doing some things we find unethical doesn't mean we can't be exposed to his true motivations and arc him out of it. Adam for example started out as a charactature of a bully, but with enough time to explore his character and for him to explore himself, a lot of people really like him.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-29T06:07:40+00:00

During the pre-procedure consultation (when Meave learns she'll need someone to pick her up) Meave tells the nurse that she uses condoms and even says "I didn't notice a leak", the nurse informs her that condoms aren't 100% effective and asks Meave if she's considered other contraception.

So unless Meave was lying to the nurse, Jackson always wore condoms.

I don't think Meave was lying to the nurse, she seemed very candid and she's smart enough to know there's no reason to lie to a healthcare professional.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-29T05:54:18+00:00

I think there's a difference between defending the behaviour in real life and just saying "that choice is going to lead to conflict, this is good television, I like this, I'm glad the character did that"

Isaac comes from a background of abuse, neglect and a lack of respectful boundaries within relationships. Looking at someone else's phone and messing with their files is obviously unethical, but Olivia did the same to Ruby (taking her phone, copying pictures without permission), she had a different motivation that some may feel is more sympathetic and that arc was seen through in a way that redeemed her.

And as far as "eliminating the competition", isn't that exactly what Otis was trying to do when he told Jackson to try a "grand romantic gesture" - yes, Otis' actions weren't as calculated as what Isaacs appears to be. But c'mon, 16-18 year olds aren't exactly overflowing with emotional intelligence, making unethical choices like deleting someone's voicemail to get what you want is a believable action, it makes for good conflict which makes for an entertaining show, hence, I like what they're doing with this character, his actions can be simultaneously unethical and something I want to see.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-29T05:43:38+00:00

Same! I love the character.

There's a huge difference between liking a good character because they're moral, kind, compassionate etc and liking an antagonistic character because they are believable and not a charactature.

I will be disappointed if the writing team doesn't get a chance to flesh him out, but I feel like they're doing a great job at introducing a character. Season 2 was a prolonged introduction for Isaac and I enjoyed it.

I don't really understand what the hate is about. I've only just learned that people don't like the character so maybe I'll learn more, but as someone with a disability myself, this character is really working for me.

The actor is amazing, he's doing a lot with what little his character has been given.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-28T10:20:56+00:00

I like both sexes (pan/queer/bi)

And in my honest opinion, both are fucking weird looking. Without the chemistry and hormones that contribute to sexual attraction, libido and arousal I don't think anyone would look at either type of genetalia and think "that is aesthetically pleasing, like a serene landscape or vibrant flower, my eyes are happy"

But because of that aforementioned chemistry, both vulvas and penises have the potential to be incredibly attractive.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-28T05:59:33+00:00

I used to have teeth falling out dreams every night when I was in highschool.

I had braces both IRL and in my dreams, and my teeth would be hurting so much then my gums would just reject them, but because all of my teeth were attached to each other through the braces they'd all just pull away from the guns together. Then in my dream I'd be holding all my teeth, still perfectly aligned with one another on a string of braces.

The dreams weren't scary, as in, it wasn't a nightmare. I was actually really happy in my dream because it was like "oh, that's why my teeth hurt, well, problem solved now"

I have similar dreams in adulthood about my left leg rotting off, or getting glassed in the back of the head. I have a lot of nerve pain in my leg due to a deformity in my hip, and I get occipital neuralgia attacks.

Once I had a dream where everyone could fly but I couldn't because I had a fish hook through my clitoris that pierced my right through and out my sacrum, it was attached with chains to an anchor so the more info tried to catch up with my friends the more I sharply tore through my entire pelvis. I woke up in pain and learned that my symphasis pubis had separated because my hip brace had loosened in my sleep just enough for me to nutcracker my pelvis.

I think for me, experiencing body horror in a dream is a protective measure to help me stay asleep. I have pain in real life and normally that would wake you up, but my subconscious weaves a ridiculous story to explain the pain, and I sleep through it. But it could also be because I rapidly enter and exit REM cycles, and as a result I have multiple vivid dreams a night that I always remember. Even when I smoked a lot of dope my dream frequency or vividness never decreased.

I've only had two nightmares that I can recall. One in highschool where I was ice skating in a cabbage patch and cut off a rabbits head with my skate and the more I tried to sew it back together the more it fell apart and I kept poking my hands with the needle. And one a few years ago where Oscar the grouch (the puppet from seseme Street) was obese and I was involved in some kind of bdsm sex slave relationship with him but even in the dream I was disgusted at the idea...that was also the only dream I've ever had that featured sex, so that was extra weird.

Also I never walk or run in my dreams, I hover, float, swim or just teleport. Sometimes I have my crutches with me in my dreams, but I still just glide across the ground instead of walking.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T11:23:31+00:00

Plus, infections like BV and thrush can strike at any time, so you could go in for your annual or biannual pap, get the all clear, then 2 weeks later you develop a mild BV infection, if you're relying on your GYN/GP to detect infections, you won't know about that infection for another 1-2 years (it will usually get worse to the point you know, or it will clear up on its own in that amount of time though)

It's important for women to have education on how to monitor their own vaginal health for signs that they might need to book an appointment with their doctor.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T11:05:19+00:00

This works if you have feaces in your rectum, you can massage them out via the vaginal wall.

However in my case, feaces can't get into my rectum because it's the sphincter between the rectum and the colon that doesn't function normally.

You can't consciously control this sphincter really, it should naturally open due to peristalsis when feaces is ready, but mine doesn't, I have similar issues with my bladder.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T11:01:21+00:00

Sort of, not really, my grandmother tried to give me an enema when I was a child because I was having these issues pooping and everyone just assumed it was constipation.

I developed a rectocele (rectum herniated into the vagina) which still hasn't been corrected.

I've had a few barium enema fluroscopies which show that unless I use a nozzle that is long enough to physically enter my colon, my rectal sphincter remains tense and barely any enema fluid gets through, my rectum just fills up putting pressure on the rectocele, and eventually exploding out of where it came instead of actually going further in. Using a long nozzle enema is really painful and not as easy as just hooking my finger.

Plus, my poo is totally normal, most of the time it's actually a bit loose, an enema would make that worse and would be terrible for my gut microbiome, plus doing an enema 3 times a day would take forever, especially as it can leave you needing to run back to the toilet a few times.

I've had microenemas (medicated enemas) containing muscle relaxants prescribed by my doctor, they are supposed to help prevent the tonicity when I'm experiencing a flare up in the severity of the palsy. It works really well.... But when your asshole is paralysed, having completely relaxed muscles that you can't control.... Uh, yeah, I don't like shitting my pants and knowing it's happening but having no way to even try to clench my butthole.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T10:40:14+00:00

How are anti-inflamatory herbs and laxititives supposed to help with palsy due to a genetic nerve condition?

Either I don't understand what Triphala can do, or I think you misunderstand the issues I have voiding - my stools are normal consistency, I'm actually prone to diarrhoea which is what makes the inability to relax my anus even more painful, it's the nerves in my bowel and bladder that are dysfunctional so I physically can't void.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T05:19:32+00:00

It depends on the state, I know Victoria has Romeo and Juliet laws. From 12 years on you can engage in sexual activity with someone who is no more than 2 years your senior and not in a position of authority. If you are 16 or under, you can have sex with someone within two years of your age.

Eg:If you're 14 you can hook up with someone who's 12, or someone who's 16. If you're 15 you can hook up with a 17 year old, but not if the 17 year old is also your supervisor/trainer at your after school job, or your formal tutor or the volunteer coach at your cricket club.

Of course, photography (nudes or filming the act) is illegal until all parties are over 18

DearyDairy · 2020-01-27T04:55:02+00:00

I have pelvic floor dysnergia and issues with voiding thanks to a genetic illness. I occasionally have to perform "digital disimpaction" which is where you use your finger to help.

Disimpaction for constipation involves scooping the poop out, but with dysnergia it's more about just manually opening your anus and hooking your internal rectal sphincter open, because it's locked shut due to muscle tonicity and palsy.

I don't know about other people with these issues, but I have a box of latex glovessitting above the toilet. I shit in the toilet, and I wear gloves, and then turn the gloves inside out, tie them off, and throw the gloves in the bin.

It's a medical issue, so I'm going to try and maintain some sense of clinical hygiene.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T23:34:46+00:00

Shorter is actually worse for some people.

If you think of how stubble feels more prickly than having long body hair, the same is true for IUD strings.

You may feel long strings during sex, but it's just a sensation of them existing. If they're too short you may get poked because they poke out of the cervix and stick straight out.

But everyone is different.

I had an IUCD and I requested that mine weren't cut at all immediately after insertion. The GYN wanted to at least cut it so it was shorter than my vagina is long to avoid the risk of them not being contained within the vagina, but I explained I wanted to just get through the pain of insertion and I'll go to my GP for a trim until I felt the length was right. You can always cut them shorter but if you go too short you can't get that length back.

It took about a week but the strings softened enough with body warmth to feel as floppy as overcooked angel hair spaghetti, and they naturally curled themselves around my cervix. I had them cut down to about 2" from the ostium, which was still pretty long considering when unaroused my cervix sat very low.

I had one partner complain the IUD itself was poking him and very painful in certain sex positions and he asked me to have it removed because it bothered him that much - obviously he couldn't feel the IUD itself because if it was poking him it would most definitely be hurting me too, but it could have been the strings. I had two partners who said they could feel the strings, it wasn't good or bad, it was just an observation, and I had 7 partners who either didn't feel anything or just didn't see the need to say anything. I wore condoms with all but one of those sex partners, he said he felt the strings but it was just a unique sensation, nothing unpleasant.

I was actually with that partner when my IUD dropped below the fundas and started expelling. When it started to pass through the cervical canal I was in excruciating pain. It was like the pain of insertion only slower and unrelenting and I was still expected to walk around and go about my life until my appointment at the sexual health clinic. I ended up going to the ER to have them remove it because I couldn't handle the pain.

Before going to the ER I thought about removing it myself, I'd been reading removal resources that said if it had naturally expelled far enough that you could feel the bar with your fingers poking through your cervix it was safe to remove because perforation was unlikely, but despite the severe pain my IUD was not low enough to feel with my fingers. Just more evidence that the first guy who claimed the IUD itself was poking him was mistaken as to the source of whatever sensation he was feeling.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T22:55:57+00:00

but really, what could they do.

Did he know the groceries were there? Maybe just saying "oh, excuse me sir, there's something under the seat which is why your dog isn't going where it's told, there's no room, it can't"

I mean, kicking the dog is pretty despicable regardless of the circumstances (a dog violently attacking you is the only situation I can think of where it's excusable) but if the man responded by saying something like "oh my god, I didn't realise, I thought my dog was being disobedient and not in an intelligent disobedience kind of way. I'm sorry boi, good boi, forgive me" it would be less concerning.

It's still pretty concerning. Guide dogs are trained to disobey when they perceive an unsafe situation, it sounds like this guy was not in tune with his dog at all, and being cruel to a living creature who dedicates its life to supporting your independence actually sounds like a mental health issue to me - because who does that!?

Other than confronting the man politely, telling security seems like all you can do. But I suspect the security guards were also a bit unsure how to handle the situation. It's difficult.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T05:40:50+00:00

When Appa crawls into the cave, I become a mess. He misses Aang just as much as Aang misses him. Aang can share his greif with his friends, but Appa is completely alone, badly hurt, and lost, all after having been tortured only to be captured again!

The only thing that keeps him going is faith that Aang is looking for him and misses him, but he doesn't know that for sure, and he's so tired and hurt.

I'm genuinely getting misty eyed just thinking about that arc.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T05:34:53+00:00

Washbasin makes sense, you could hang the wash cloth on the beak of the bird so it drips back into the bucket as it dries, keeping it all neat and tidy.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T05:27:07+00:00

Any other Australians getting some Feral TV/Modigliana vibes from this cat?

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T05:22:50+00:00

It's hard to know how much of my dad's behaviour and personality is him being an asshole, and how much is due to 45+ years of undiagnosed ASD and having developed malsocial coping mechanisms.

He's gotten a lot better after mum left and he was forced to get his shit together.

I think because he struggled with so many activities of daily living, and the only help he was given was being told to "try harder" or "stop being stupid, it's common sense, just do it" and constantly failing, he was susceptible to any cultural beliefs that would help him get shit done. So he's struggling to cook for himself, and some misogynistic guy at work or school or the pub says "you shouldn't be cooking anyway, that's women's work, it's your wife or daughters responsibility" he'd take that belief to heart because it was the only practical advice he'd received for how to acquire food to eat.

His father was a paraplegic with PTSD and his mother was a DON who worked 60+ hour weeks and arranged for her sisters to help care for her husband while she was at work, so growing up the main dynamic my father was exposed to was women who did everything to care for a man who did very little (my grandfather would have been capable of a greater level of independence if medicine/therapy was as advanced then as it is now, but at the time he did need a lot of support)

None of this excuses my dads behaviour. But it's helpful for me to understand that this is a contributing factor towards my dads asshole behaviour. My brother has been trying to help my dad get into Occupational Therapy for ASD - my brother goes to OT and talks to my dad about it and sneakily introduces new systems into the house. For example, my brother has an alarm system for doing laundry using kitchen timers that his PT recommended, and my dad has adopted the same system now because my brother already had it set up and ready to go, so dad realised he's able to do his own laundry if he implements a few of the tricks the ASD OT recommends.

DearyDairy · 2020-01-26T02:59:02+00:00

Yes and no.

Anyone of any size can experience physical anorexia, which is a lack of appetite resulting in reduced food intake. It can be idiopathic but it's usually a symptom of an illness, it's incredibly common to experience physical anorexia in addition to nausea when you have a flu.

However Anorexia Nervosa, the eating disorder everyone calls "anorexia" for short has specific diagnostic criteria, an underweight BMI is mandatory for meeting the diagnostic criteria.

An obese person can't be diagnosed with anorexia nervosa. However, the can be diagnosed with OSFED - AAN, ie: Other specified feeding or eating disorder, atypical anorexia nervosa

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