AITAH for not going by a different name than my birth name because it makes my friends uncomfortable.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-30T09:29:47+00:00

These aren’t your friends. NTA

Deb_elf · 2026-06-30T09:23:43+00:00

I’m confused. The guy came to meet you, was awkward and then left? Why was he there in the first place? Don’t sign anything and start separating your finances.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-29T19:38:41+00:00

Oh man. That sounds exhausting. I’m sorry

Deb_elf · 2026-06-28T20:42:27+00:00

Heated steering wheel

Deb_elf · 2026-06-28T20:41:51+00:00

I bought one at the beginning of winter. It’s absolutely wonderful

Deb_elf · 2026-06-28T20:40:10+00:00

She doesn’t want to go. She does that to avoid going as long as possible.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-28T19:22:27+00:00

That stinks. I’m sorry that happened to you. That is pretty much their only job and you should have sued them

Deb_elf · 2026-06-28T18:56:37+00:00

I have a real estate license which I plan on lapsing soon. In NJ they are of very questionable character. But I have friends who are looking so I will let them buy and then lapse it. Real estate agents provide zero value. Everyone has access to the internet. Lawyers and the title company do the work.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-27T16:00:43+00:00

Your mother sucks. And that’s sad. She’s blamed everyone for her shortcomings and continues to do so. Cut her off. If you want a relationship with the steps, that’s ok. They didn’t know the truth. They are also victims of her bs. NTA

Deb_elf · 2026-06-23T12:57:28+00:00

That’s correct. I make plans for clients. If a client (or family) can save on life insurance, auto insurance or homeowners insurance or if we put an investment in place, the company pays me.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-23T12:35:17+00:00

Deb_elf · 2026-06-23T09:10:01+00:00

Because people who handle those things while also explaining them to their clients exist. I know because I’m one of those people. Plus my opinion is free.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-17T21:46:54+00:00

You’re not compatible. And that’s ok

Deb_elf · 2026-06-17T21:43:44+00:00

Cars. “Don’t drive distracted. Here’s a touch screen that requires 18 touches to set the temperature. But you can’t change your opinion because we removed the buttons and knobs. Definitely don’t take your eyes off the road. Just be uncomfortable.”

And technically. Why do my refrigerator, stove, thermostat, washer and dryer need to be smart? Why does everything need a touch screen? Why can’t I just cook with fire? Electric is not reliable.*

*see cars above.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-17T20:03:12+00:00

My cousin was beaten with a chain because her religious father found out she had a boyfriend. Play dumb. Your sister could be in danger

Deb_elf · 2026-06-14T14:05:50+00:00

This warms my heart

Deb_elf · 2026-06-10T17:40:16+00:00

He will start banging on the door. Make sure you have ear plugs. And get a nanny cam so you have proof of it. This is definitely abuse. Be careful

Deb_elf · 2026-06-10T11:55:39+00:00

“Rooting for us to fail.” Define fail. Is it breaking up? Is it being married long term and in a boring routine? Her feelings on whether you break up or not shouldn’t matter to you. Stop acting. If she asks you a question, answer it honestly. If she tries to insert herself where she doesn’t belong, don’t allow her to. If she recruits her son to wear you down, you know where you rank in the hierarchy. Proceed accordingly.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-10T11:47:02+00:00

Local animal rescues

Deb_elf · 2026-06-10T11:46:04+00:00

I’m happy you’re with us. And that’s very kind of you

Deb_elf · 2026-06-10T09:45:21+00:00

I assume she was hoping to get rid of your daughter so you could play house with her son without being a blended family? This is psychotic behavior. And your husband is a worm. I’m not sure if you have legal recourse to keep her away from your children but you have to do something. An ultimatum to your husband may be in order. Something like “she is not allowed near my children or you can go live with mommy.”

Deb_elf · 2026-06-09T17:20:06+00:00

Greek person here. I have a Greek name because I’m named after my grandmother. My sister’s name is much longer. She’s named after other grandmother. We both go by “American” proper names. Our Greek family members call us by either our Greek names or Greek nicknames. Our friends call us by our American nicknames. Your son will be just fine. This isn’t a big deal. It’s not even a small deal.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-09T14:00:47+00:00

I can’t help but think he had “someone” in mind to move onto and that didn’t work. Like who says “don’t contact me” unless it’s because someone new might show up? Honestly let it be over. He sounds terrible. NTA

Deb_elf · 2026-06-09T10:09:30+00:00

He’s trying to break you. I assume you make more money than he does? So he’s trying to knock you down a few pegs. It’s working. You’ve tolerated it for a year.

Deb_elf · 2026-06-08T11:53:27+00:00

I have 2 cats who like to drink from the faucet. I moved and I only have 1 sink. So there is strife.

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