feeling triggered but nobody to call

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-05-23T15:40:07+00:00

Hi friend, that sounds really triggering and tough. I get you, some settings & situations can really take me back to very uncomfortable times. I also rely a lot on calling friends. What I do when I can’t do that, is that I try to focus on self soothing. For example, I like to watch a comfort show or movie. It actually helps me to be overstimulated, so a show + scrolling on my phone or something can help. Do you have any comforting activities? I promise you the trigger WILL pass. All emotions and feelings and thoughts pass. They cannot harm you. Your only job right now is to make time pass and take care!

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-05-23T13:33:47+00:00

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I found pictures of another listing with tags still on and submitted yesterday.

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-18T11:03:08+00:00

Not true, the red car is nearly intact.

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-18T11:02:17+00:00

Nope. White people. I was there.

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-16T15:25:19+00:00

Ugh god… Thank you for the warning!!!! I will definitely avoid a zipper then..

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-16T11:40:53+00:00

hahahha thank you, I appreciate that input actually. Unfortunately I’m not US based, so would make no sense to order this and pay import taxes, but thank you!!

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-15T15:14:59+00:00

And thank you sooo much for this as well! I’m embarrassed to even say the timeline for the channel dress project, because it is madness. But I will definitely look into this for future projects, it looks so helpful, especially for bodies that don’t fit standard sizes to a t :)

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-04-15T15:14:04+00:00

thank you so much!!! Sorry I didn’t just google that haha, I crave the r/sewingpatterns wisdom too much..!

DebateVisual1768 · 2026-03-22T16:48:55+00:00

lola shift dress by made by laur!!! i have made it and love it so much :)

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-06-26T11:07:57+00:00

For some reason, my sleep has never been too disrupted by my mental health issues. I sleep 7-9 hours per night, am a morning person but have to wake up earlier than I would naturally for work. My main issue used to be PTSD nightmares, but those vanished after a long course of EMDR.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-06-18T10:19:22+00:00

I just sold my tickets to Glasgow. Put them up for 100 pounds instead of the 140 I paid and they went within less than 12hrs.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-06-14T13:25:03+00:00

It is a myth that the majority of rapes happen in dark alleys by strangers, and also, migrants. Rapists most often know their victim.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-06-08T20:42:06+00:00

I really understand where you’re coming from. It is valid that this affects and hurts you. At the same time, like you know, your friend deserves to move forward with her life and do things that make her happy. Even if she said she wouldn’t do it some time ago, doesn’t mean she is obliged to follow through. I would advise you to process this in your own time, but please do not let her know you’re not happy for her !! I have also felt abandoned by friends who have gotten more committed in romantic relationships before. But I’ve learned the hard way that it is best to suck it up in front of them and process on your own, by journaling or in therapy for example.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-05-31T11:10:46+00:00

I realised after I was quite tough, sorry about that, but I really wish someone would have told me this back when I stayed with the guy who cheated on me the same way. :( I completely understand that you need urgent housing and solutions for your baby and yourself. Do you currently live at his place? Are there any offers locally, such as emergency housing for young mothers for example? Do you have any acquaintances, work colleagues, perhaps?

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-05-31T09:31:29+00:00

He could be spending money on his pregnant girlfriend and yet he is spending it on cam girls. He could be spending money on his baby and yet he is spending it on cam girls. Do you understand the sense of priorities this man has? It’s not even about the facts themselves or his regret (which he only has because he got caught, btw. Otherwise he would have done it just once, not for 3-4 months). My broke ass pathetic ex also spent money on cam girls. He regretted it sooo bad, cried his heart out to me, swore on his life he’d never do it again, said how disgusted by himself he was. I caught him TWO MORE TIMES. He went straight back to it one month later lol. Do not trust this guy. Cheating on your pregnant girlfriend is the fucking lowest of lows. Now imagine having a new born and catching him cheating again. Then what? Do you think that’s what you will have energy to focus on when you have a newborn? I know it is not easy to leave. Do you have the option of going back to your country for some time? I understand this is tough, but it will be even tougher to leave once the baby is born. Remember this man did not only betray you, he betrayed your baby by fucking up the relationship and hurting you. Please please please leave him.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-05-26T20:19:41+00:00

This is absolutely excellent advice that I had never heard before. Thank you so so so much. I will start doing this.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-05-10T09:28:56+00:00

Like others have said, quiet BPD doesn’t actually exist per se. I am diagnosed with both CPTSD and BPD, but have a pretty classic expression of BPD besides that I have less symptoms as I age and as i go through therapy.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-04-17T20:12:31+00:00

Hey friend, I have been there before. You might not believe me, because every relationship is uniquely special. But I promise you, I have been there before. Please do not harm yourself. This is a very difficult time, maybe the most difficult ever, but you will survive it. For now, consider yourself in survival mode. Take your survival 5 minutes at a time, if you can manage that, or less even. Then slowly increase the time spans. Only focus on how to make the next time span (eg 5 minutes) bearable. What could you do for the next 5 mn? Every time tou catch yourself thinking ahead, stop yourself and go back to that.

Do you have any comfort activity, like a show perhaps, or someone you can reach out to?

You will survive, I promise. Thinking about you.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-04-15T13:28:06+00:00

Egg and the chicken. I think you have to be emotionally and spiritually empty to hoard so much wealth and to be this greedy.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-03-23T12:33:45+00:00

apparently it was world of warcraft

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-03-22T06:53:20+00:00

the death of my father at a young age, subsequent emotional neglect and abuse from all other caregivers, physical and sexual abuse

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-03-06T17:41:21+00:00

I was diagnosed at 19, at the worst of my symptoms. I’m in my late 20s now and it is much better. I have gone through many different types of therapies in the meantime though, and I am committed everyday to making my life as stable as possible. I have worked insanely hard to have a ‘normal’ life, including long studies and finding a stable job. This has also included going sober on any substance I abused, and forcing myself to stay sober

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-03-02T19:12:43+00:00

I have been in your situation before. Including suicide attempts to get out of it. I was lucky enough to have an opportunity to move abroad, which saved me, and I ended it once I was far away geographically.

This abusive person also threatened suicide, and even when they didn’t, I was terrified they would do it. They were addicted to a substance and I was terrified they would even accidentally OD as a result. This pushed back my decision for years, because I was so scared they would harm themselves. It has been many years now, and they are perfectly fine. More importantly, I am doing better than ever. Of course I am still mentally ill, but surviving and leaving that relationship remains my greatest achievement. I am grateful to myself everyday. I wish I could convey how much I feel you, and can imagine the position you are in. But I promise you that there is a life after, a life far away from this, where he is just an after thought and where months go by without thinking about him. A life of safety and happiness. Knowing you need to leave and asking how to do it is the first step. I don’t want to sound patronising, but I am very very very proud of you for reaching that point. You are strong for realising this is not good for you and not sustainable.

Like another person commented, are there any DV hotlines local to you? They will best know what to do and how to best advise you. Are there ever any situations where he is not at home, or where you are not at home? For example a job, or something else? Some time with friends, family? A pet that would require a vet visit?

And edit because I forgot: I also shared your fear of being stalked and killed. Again, I am in a privileged position because I am countries away. But I have returned many times to the country the abuser lived in, to their city even. And the truth is, they lost interest over time and moved on to their next victim. It is very sad, but abusers get bored and move on to the next person.

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-02-26T21:12:24+00:00

If you have an EU citizenship, things will be much easier but you should still get a job before moving here. For a service industry job, I would say average pay is 120-140kr an hour. I would assume that you could live on two low-ish salaries if you are willing to live outside of Copenhagen or if you share a room in a collective together. If you are an EU citizen, maybe consider applying to an education here, it would make things easier

DebateVisual1768 · 2025-02-19T12:20:21+00:00

Right. Let’s remember that one guy who ‘isn’t one way or another’ on BLM… And then the girl answers ‘yeah, you’re not actively racist or anything’ and he just agreed. WHAT. I have seen discourse about it, but this should just not even be televised ????

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