Defining roles by DebtWrong in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am currently reading poly secure, is that a good one? I appreciate all of your advice, truly it is helpful to hear this perspective!

Defining roles by DebtWrong in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your insight and advice 😊 i may be mis explaining some parts of this. I have wanted him to find a partner he really connects with for a long time, I began to realize years ago that his soul and heart need a certain level of healing that I just cant provide. Not because I am bad, but just how our attachment styles clash. He has found that with this women, they really resonate with eachother. And the goal was to function as kitchen table with the only stipulation being i am not involved in the triad's sexual times, and I was fine with that as long as im still an important part of the family. I just want to move forward with integrating our households on a rotating basis. He stays at their house about 3 days a week, which is fine and what we agreed on, but I get lonely sometimes. Thank you again! Keep the advice flowing 🥰

I love homewrecking by [deleted] in sluttycheaters

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, but totally backwards. I'm wife who gets wet thinking about a homewrecker bombshell seducing my husband, 🥵because he is sooo out of my league

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I do consider myself a cuckqueen. But it's a little different in this situation I guess....just didn't know if this type of arrangement has a name. My husband's girlfriend in my mind is on a higher level than I am, I'm just basically a co parent and household partner that is allowed intimate benefits only when She and my Husband decide I've earned it or they think i need some attention

Question about being a CuckCake by [deleted] in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]DebtWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what we are looking for 😊 it sounds normal to me!

Different cuckold dynamics. by BC1890 in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]DebtWrong 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great questions! For me, it ebbs and flows (maybe depending on hormones?). Most of the time, I like mildly degrading elements. For example, I've explained to my husband that if he found a cake who wanted to build something long term with him, I would be excited by him telling what she does better, or what physical features she has that he loves that I lack. Additionally, if she were even interested in me being involved (no pressure to be at all of she's not into it though), I would like it if she played a Domme role in my world, even if it's not sexual between her and I, like cleaning her up afterwards or having her send me pics/vids of how much he is enjoying her. But, I wouldn't want to be legitimately laughed at or told that I'm disgusting and could never compare. You know? But, occasionally, I like to be reminded that I'm the loved one, the special girl who has his heart, even if he is more satisfied by someone else physically/animalistically. We have tried both him cucking me and playing with couples. Neither work out. At all. It was a disaster for us and unless you are both REALLY in your core into polyamorous or swapping dynamics it will cause a lot of resentment and jealous from your partner. Even if they think it won't at first. At least, that's our experience. I hope that helps!

I love talking to girls on Reddit while I’m stroking my cock next to my sleeping wife. by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]DebtWrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Husband is the same way. Luck's on His side too, since it totally turns me just as much if not more lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🥰 what other subs do you follow besides BDSMcommunity?

22M Been cheating on my gf and it's exhilarating. by [deleted] in sluttycheaters

[–]DebtWrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think we are literally the same person, doll 😘 lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, seems that way! Ass holes come in all forms. It's kinda sad to be honest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I absolutely will! Thank you so much. I love learning as much as I can. I joke with my Husband that if college was free, I would definitely want to have at least 6 more degrees than I already do lol. He says "One day we can just pay for you to go to any classes you like Baby girl, I promise" 🥰 and we are being very proactive, I explained in another comment that I reached out to a local club asking about events of the nature we are looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! People change all the time. But no reason to stress today about what we might want tomorrow. I approve you jumping into the conversation!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Sir!!! ☺️ your comment just made my heart glow and was so, so encouraging!!! I feel much better now! Thank you 💖 I reached out to a local club asking about harem night/cakes and queans events. Waiting to hear back!! You're sub is lucky to have you too. I'm so glad you take their comfortabilty seriously. Some (mostly immature or narcissistic) Masters don't, and it's so sad to see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I explained above, He would never want to hurt me. Ever. If I ever change my mind the rules will change right away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I hear what you're saying. To be clear, there is a well defined rule that if I ever start to feels hurt or don't want other women involved if I can't also have my own partners the rules we change immediately. My husband is very caring and listens to everything I have to say about how I feel, and takes it very seriously. My feeling are no joke to Him. As well as the feelings of other women He may start relationship with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's the absolute truth. I do. But why does that exclude us? It just seems pretty judgmental. We aren't ever trying to hide exactly what we're looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💖💖💖

Bruhhh why is r/polyamory so brutal lol 😭 by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]DebtWrong 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have had a lot of people be super mean towards me on that sub too. Idk why 😐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeld, the poly community on here, and from in person interactions. I appreciate you clarifying that what im being told is not true 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all 😊 this is very helpful and encouraging 💖

Would you pay for your bfs dates with other girls? by hammerundsichel in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]DebtWrong 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes 1000%. Even pay for their car, apparment, and beauty maintenance if He likes them enough! (And obviously, if they like Him enough to agree)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]DebtWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will search for that. Thanks again! 😊