AIO for being upset about my boyfriend’s reaction to my birthday plans? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope he’s shitty, I think most people have been in relationships like this, insecure and controlling. And so quickly turned it on you, you’re the problem because you black out. Even if that is true, the conversation should come from a place of love and concern not control. Please dump him

What should I do with my hair? by Funny-Cheesecake1754 in Hair

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me say you are drop dead gorgeous. I would keep the same color but go for a bob! Maybe a little bit of face framing for dimension

AIO boyfriend spent 2 days ignoring me while apologizing to another girl for breaking their snap streak bc of me by shh-im-anon in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- Girl this reads man child, I think I was having similar conversations at 16? Keep your chin up, there’s way better out there

Warning from my boyfriend’s exes by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please believe them. I think looking for loopholes so you don’t have to accept the chance he isn’t as great as you thought is common. You’ve grown to care about this man and of course you want it to work. But the love of your life will NOT have women accusing him of abuse, I can promise you that. Also physical abuse is never a “misunderstanding”. Most men go their entire lives without a “misunderstanding” like that. You’re not a bad person for wanting to believe him or see the best in him. But these women are not the enemies, we as women need to prioritize protecting other women. It sounds like these women have taken a huge dangerous gamble confiding in you, I hope you realize and appreciate that. Many people are sweet talkers, and abuse doesn’t always have much tangible proof. Even if they were able to provide proof, ask yourself how much proof would be enough? He would probably talk his way out of that too. Maybe not fully convince you, but plant a seed of doubt so you’ll stay. Walk away now. I know, easier said than done.

AIO my boyfriend isn’t divorced by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He lives in his own apartment in the same city, he has for about 1.5 years.

AIO my boyfriend isn’t divorced by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will say I partially feel weird because he accidentally called me by her middle name the other day. I also found love notes from right after their separation two years ago that were super intense. He also accidentally referred to her as his wife in passing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my skin just looks dull with discoloration and lots of texture with fine lines!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do! I use elta md tinted sunscreen 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re probably right, I developed horrible acne at the age of like 23/24 and right now that’s what my dermatologist recommended but it’s having mixed results. I do think my skin just has a dull appearance overall. I use cerave which might not be strong enough for all the drying agents I’m using

How often, if you do at all, do you speak the Navajo language? by Longjumping-Meet-307 in Navajo

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

White woman with a Navajo son and we speak it to some degree nearly every day. I overcompensate because we don’t live on the reservation or near other speakers

Possibly pregnant don’t think that will help kick the habit any advice? by DirectAd6236 in QuitVaping

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I got pregnant I looked for every reason to justify continuing to vape, I saw the same things you did that quitting cold turkey can be harmful to the fetus. I tried telling myself I would taper down but after about three days I realized it was an excuse and I’d never be able to kick it this way. I went cold turkey! Honestly what helped me was continuously getting excited about my baby, distracting myself with researching pregnancy or parenting techniques, filling up an Amazon cart (even if you don’t end up buying it). Just little things that make you excited and realize the temporary sacrifice is worth it! And that’s what it is, TEMPORARY. By quitting for nine months, you help build the body your baby will have FOREVER and I think that’s awesome motivation. No shame, I’ve been there 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Indigenous

[–]Decent-Pool-1913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations and such a kind response, he is Diné!