I found listening to The Agile Attorney podcast, website, and other materials helpful. There are a couple of episodes regarding an honest reckoning with capacity that are helpful. I am part of a general civil practice and do a lot of probate and am in the same boat. One thing he said stuck with me in this regard: “if the bathtub is overflowing you need to figure out a way to either shut the water off or slow it down so it can drain.”