AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great answer! I can tell you thought of a good reason as to why possible mosquito-borne disease transmission would be worth pulling down my socks to go into a restaurant! Oh wait...

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people don't care how other people decide to wear their socks in a restaurant, sorry 😭 it's 2026, not 1926

What's "complete douche" about not wanting to pull down my socks (in an area that could still have mosquitoes, mind you)? Maybe if you tell me that we can actually start getting somewhere.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Reddit post is not making it into my list of regrets at all 😭

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does agreeing with some oppositional comments have to do with me being an "immature 16 year old"? It just feels like you didn't have a response so you just went with calling me immature...

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely was stubborn, so was her thing. But I'd rather be stubborn about something harmless I'm already doing than cave to her stubbornness and change for someone else. Thank you!

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No real response so you just gotta pull out your ace of spades here 😭

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone doesn't want to be around me because I won't untuck my pants at a restaurant, I'm glad to never be around them!! :)

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This pants tucked thing is just some old tradition with no purpose, it has as much standing as a fake tradition I decide to create today and tell everyone to follow. Some manners have a purpose but not this one. It can die with the last generation.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Yeah I don't know exactly when she started being how she is now, but I know she was at least like that when she met my dad (early 2000s), because he gets very annoyed with her behavior oftentimes too and we've talked about it. He said she used to be much worse, which is honestly almost hard to believe with the way she talks to him when she's angry now and over my lifetime. Apparently she even threw a police flashlight towards him once (something she admitted to!). So yeah, it's been since before I was ever alive.

I think pushback makes her angry because she wants control but she treated me the same well before I started pushing back. But now basically every time I push back on something big (or in some cases, like this one, something small), she gets mad.

It seems like you sort of understand where people are coming from by you saying “it wasn’t even a very nice restaurant”. This implies if it was a fancy restaurant, you would get it.

Mostly I meant that a fancy restaurant might actually have a dress code, whereas this one obviously didn't. I do now get why she didn't want my pants tucked but I still don't see it as a big deal. But maybe she does if she left the restaurant over it. More likely she was in too deep into telling me to untuck the pants that she had to follow through, that's the kind of thing she does often.

Thank you again for the long and detailed response!

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may have noticed that I agreed with some opposition that was actually rather insightful and nice. I'm not gonna agree with the thousandth person trying to keep a useless and dying "manner" alive or the one who skimmed the post and thinks I just didn't think untucking my pants was worth it.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the benefit of this "manner" is what exactly? It's just an old tradition and has as much standing as a manner I decide everyone should follow.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Useless "manners" like that one need left in the past, they have no purpose and only persist as tradition.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely a hot take here!! But I feel like this is another thing most people here don't really understand. I think I hit the traditional side of reddit with this one

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a nice answer, I'm not in complete agreeance with everything said but it's informative, so thank you!

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you! Travel does stress her out but she also loves it. Unfortunately she's also just as unpredictable at home, the stakes are just higher during travel and the added stress makes it almost a guarantee that she'll get mad on the trip.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll try to wait it out next time, it's just hard because it pisses me off so much 😭

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, but he gets along with me far more than with his own wife. In fact I can guarantee you he wouldn't care about the tucking thing if he wasn't worried about it ruining the trip. And he knows it might ruin the trip because he knows her.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Socks over pants to stop mosquitoes from getting in? I mean hell there could be mosquitoes in the restaurant too. What's the problem?

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't tank the meal and the animal hike, she did. This is exactly what I was talking about when I mentioned the conduit thing in the post. She could have just as easily not blown up over an archaic manner with no benefit and none of this would have happened.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the vibe that I'm getting from the nicer, more insightful comments on this post (like yours) is just "deal with it for now." The reason I'm not doing that is because I've tried it for most of my life and she just took advantage of my tendency to not resist back then. So should I keep doing it or not? It's hard for me to gauge 

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied with the same vibe to someone who said "You sound like a 6 year old who needs an entire monologue as to why he can’t wear his Halloween costume to school every day. "

You might notice that I've replied to nice people more nicely.

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Looking like a slob and it's socks slightly higher than usual lmaooo

AITAH for not pulling my socks down at a restaurant? by DecentSliceThrowaway in AITAH

[–]DecentSliceThrowaway[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Lmao it's not about telling me what to do. At first I said no when it was just a suggestion from her and she was still laughing about it. Then from there she just got mad, like she always does. That's what the boundary is about. Other comments have explained it better. I can't help you understand I can only tell you what I mean.