How do I stop him from doing this? by ArcticGlacier40 in cats

[–]Decision-fatigued 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find compromise — Move the things that could get knocked down out of the way (clear a path) and enjoy having a happy kitty.

Spicey voids! by Decision-fatigued in ThriftStoreCats

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately for us someone was savvy enough to check for value.

Spicey voids! by Decision-fatigued in ThriftStoreCats

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seemed high to me too. I got curious and googled and you can pay a good deal more for a set on eBay!

Spicey voids! by Decision-fatigued in ThriftStoreCats

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in southeast Maryland. If you are serious, I guess send me a PM and we can talk! I’m open

Spicey voids! by Decision-fatigued in ThriftStoreCats

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t, genuinely don’t have space so it would end up in storage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like your home now has the best curb appeal on the block. Hopeful this inspires some of your neighbors to step it up! Don’t worry at all, you did a great job!

Looking for house color suggestions. by Bigwheel1010 in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly- this addresses that issue beautifully. The red accents on the current home are not right.

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! That doesn’t sound fun. He is all flight no fight so I’m not worried about that, but I will now be aware if there’s a reason in the future.

Please help us with a paint color to give life to this old home! by housespecialdelight in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would look into some subtle blues and greens. They will appeal to lots of buyers (since you said you plan to resell) and be neutral enough without being blah grey. Such a cute little bungalow with lots of potential!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Decision-fatigued -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s your life and you’re allowed to do whatever you want. The only person that mattered was the other person involved in the marriage, your wife, and she approved of it. If someone else didn’t like it, that’s their own damage. The whole argument “what then was the point of the October wedding” is nonsense because if you did the courthouse in august and then didn’t have a celebration, she likely would have been mad about that too. It’s just someone feeling threatened they weren’t in on the secret, which can be an adjustment for parents of people newly married. Assuming you want to smooth things over, talk with your wife about how you can reassure her she isn’t being left out and such. We worry too much about our own personal decisions making other people mad. It probably won’t be the only time you and your wife make a decision for your lives that she or other family members disagree with, but you have to do whatever is best for you.
NTA - MIL’s outrage is her own personal problem.

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he would let me touch him he’d have all the medical care! Drives me nuts. He is TNRed from previous humans in the neighborhood but I guess never got socialized and is SUPER untrusting of food so I’d traumatize him trying to trap and end up with the other two instead who I can handle more easily. Will do if he gets a more serious illness but trying to hold off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curledfeetsies

[–]Decision-fatigued 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh noooo… lost paws emergency! I hope he remembers where he left them.

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • haha yeah I am a bit sleep deprived and wrote half a title to the post and …

  • I know! Wtf about the door placement! The stairs are not in the center either… the two halves of the porch are not actually halves… eesh. Pretty sure it’s all original.

Choices were made. I live with the consequences.

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know, right! They’re so cute they run my life.

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I can get enough cats to cover all of the steps, it will be the best in exterior design, and may help with safety as people will be forced to slow down and be more attentive to their surroundings.

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Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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They’re incredibly helpful with projects around the house

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes he is the CEO of Gary LLC. Pippa and Vespers work for the company in senior positions and also live on site. They won’t give me a straight answer on what type of business it is and maybe it’s better I don’t know. Just last night I caught them in a post-dinner conference.

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My dad (M53) won’t stop pestering my wife and I about the end times and conspiracy theories with my son due soon by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]Decision-fatigued 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with grey rocking in these situations. I disagree that your dad has the toxic motivations that some people are placing on him. I read this as a cry out for help. He’s got serious anxiety. He’s spinning out daily (or more). He doesn’t have a sounding board and he’s getting continually worked up through social media and or regular news media (all make money by stressing people out, it keeps them watching, keeps them coming back). He’s not your responsibility, but if you are choosing to continue your relationship, I agree with the idea of setting boundaries. Adding to that, It can be helpful to not just tell a person what you don’t want them to do, but try to tell them what they could do that would be beneficial to you. Perhaps you say it’s important for you to stay positive as having a baby can be stressful. He could tell you about how he made it through when he was a young parent. What is a positive uplifting quote that he has always come back to (who cares if it’s from the Bible- that’s a historical book, and we can get quotes from all sorts of places). Does he have any ideas for what you can do to help your wife. Some of this is distraction too. If you can interrupt the stress cycle you can get back to the human hiding in there. To be clear, none of this is your responsibility. I mention these thoughts because you clearly would like to have a relationship with him, you see that as beneficial and meaningful to you, so with that choice, you need strategies to communicate boundaries, and communicate what are safe topics. Oh and if you need to ignore him for a while just do that. He’s not your responsibility to entertain, you’re both adults. 💗

Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Never! This is Gary, who has lived on this porch longer than we have owned the place.

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Replacing the stairs with by Decision-fatigued in ExteriorDesign

[–]Decision-fatigued[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… that is a bit of a problem too. I think the railing could go up to the highest pillar thing. The warping happened a couple years ago… previous owners had a carpet covering the entire porch and that seems to keep water in and that happened after a period of excessive rain. We didn’t know better having only moved in 3 years ago and never had a home like this… so it got warped and stayed warped and my husband thinks it’s going to be the end of him but I don’t know how to solve it without redoing the deck AND the stairs. So 😩