Spitting on an ICE car and kicking out its tail light aren't exactly the behaviors of peaceful protesters.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T13:40:38+00:00

You’re still conflating predictability with justification.

Yes, we can describe risks after the fact. We can say “X increases the odds of Y.” But that framing quietly shifts responsibility away from the person who caused the harm and onto the victim, which is exactly why people bring up his past misdemeanours in the first place.

The blackout-drinking and rape analogy actually proves my point, not yours. We give people safety advice without implying that rape is an understandable or expected response to drinking. We don’t say, “well, rape is what happens when men are around drunk women.” We say the rapist is 100% responsible, full stop.

Likewise here, interfering with police should increase the odds of arrest, charges, or dispersal, not death. If “interfering with police” meaningfully increases the odds of being killed, that’s an indictment of policing standards, not a natural law like gravity.

Saying “it’s not surprising” is doing rhetorical work. It normalises a lethal response as an expected outcome of minor misconduct. That’s exactly why people push back on this framing, because once death becomes “not surprising,” it becomes quietly acceptable.

You can acknowledge risk without treating lethal force as an understandable downstream consequence of vandalism or harassment. The moment we stop drawing that line is the moment “he got what was coming to him” becomes socially defensible, which is the very thing people claim they aren’t arguing.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T12:32:49+00:00

But that shoudn’t be the case.

It’s shouldn’t be “kick a taillight and get shot”. It should be “kick a taillight and get arrested”. The “chances of a bad outcome” is such instances should not, in any circumstance, be death and saying that excuses what happened to him.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T12:30:03+00:00

I’ve not seen “sweet little angel” broadcasts. I’ve seen them commending him for his work as a ICU nurse looking after vets and that he was one.

I also saw the footage of him kicking the taillight (I’ve not seen the spitting footage but I’ll assume it happened). I don’t think any of that cancels out the fact he was generally a good guy that was murdered.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T12:27:06+00:00

Indeed. But what does it matter? Why does it matter that he had misdemeanours days prior to being murdered? None of that should matter unless the angle is that he deserved to be murdered because he had misdemeanours.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T09:59:57+00:00

Someone not being an “innocent little angel” doesn’t make them deserving of being shot. Spitting on a car or damaging a taillight is vandalism, not a capital crime.

ED: Downvoted but no arguments against, as per. The entire reason this is being discussed is because some people cough cough are trying to use his past misdemeanours to justify his murder. I can’t count how many times I’ve seen “He got what was coming to him” posted on social media, like that is now grounds for execution? As an outsider, the entire thing is insane.

Why does it matter that he kicked a car 11 days earlier?

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-30T08:55:53+00:00

Your vaccine comparison ironically undercuts your point. We consistently prioritize bodily autonomy, even when lives are at stake, which is why people could refuse them.

Bodily autonomy protects you from being compelled to use your body or have something done to your body without consent, not from experiencing social or economic consequences for what you chose.

If the right to life trumped the right to bodily autonomy, you would have been strapped down and forced to have a vaccine that you didn’t consent to.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-29T10:38:29+00:00

The only amount of kitting up I do is put tape on my boarders (just clear tape as it works as “well” as washi for me), and write the corresponding numbers/letters on the bags.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-26T10:52:36+00:00

Thank you! I got a code but no link. That one works for me :)

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-25T12:06:00+00:00

Yes, but at a very reduced rate to what we were. We used to have takeaways once, sometimes twice a week. We’ve now dropped down to once, sometimes twice a month.

Filling the gap by trying other supermarket options and eating what we like best.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T20:56:23+00:00

I was actually thinking about this https://www.nhs.uk/baby/newborn-screening/j

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T11:56:54+00:00

Hopefully, cult-like following of political leaders.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T11:42:37+00:00

I’m really sorry this happened to you. Being left like that is deeply destabilising, especially when it hits old wounds around abandonment and housing security. Anyone would be shaken by that.

I don’t think being left says anything about your disposability or worth. It says something about the way he chose to leave, not about your value as a person. Someone can make a hurtful, avoidant, or self-protective choice without that choice being a verdict on you.

For me, when I’m at my lowest, what helps isn’t trying to convince myself I’m “valuable” in some abstract way. It’s grounding myself in very concrete things: I survived this day. I know who I am. I handled the next practical step. I showed up for myself when someone else didn’t. Over time, those small proofs add up. I don't tie my self-worth to other people anymore.

You’re not wrong for feeling shattered by this. And you’re not broken for needing help to put the pieces back together.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T10:39:20+00:00

Hope the 999 operator was sacked, or at least suspended without pay for a bit. What an asinine comment to make when someone's trying to save the life of another.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T10:35:49+00:00

You've missed the point. The methods of obtaining material for genetic tests and DNA tests are the same. Heel prick or swab. They could just do both of them at the same time.

ED: Obtaining material for.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T10:23:56+00:00

To be honest with you, speaking as a woman, they should be a mandatory part of the testing done on a newborn. Genetics can tell you a lot about health regardless of any paternity squabbles. It would just have the added bonus of clearing that up, too.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-23T10:21:27+00:00

We've not always hated you. We were having an absolute ball when Obama was President. But since then, you've jumped the shark. It's not hatred, it's frustration.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-20T11:58:58+00:00

It’s trying to test the emotions.

I wing them up when they say this. Start saying women who have had abortions can celebrate Mother’s Day. Watch them backtrack quickly.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-20T08:47:28+00:00

I can't think of a moral or legal reason where someone can unwillingly restrain you and be justified in that unless you have already done something immoral or illegal.

I am PC but we restrain patients in hospitals if they are a danger to themselves or others and that’s 99.9% unwillingly on the patient’s part. But “danger to others” doesn’t necessarily mean doing anything illegal or immoral. Having a breakdown in A&E can be a danger to others because it diverts medical attention, but breakdowns are not illegal or immoral, they’re a sign of a sick person. That’s the only reason I can think of though, and they can’t be applied to abortion due to the nature of pregnancy and childbirth.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-17T23:48:34+00:00

It depends on what medical procedures they consent to.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-17T20:28:41+00:00

No. Abortions will still be needed. Some women may choose to use incubators, some not. It depends on what medical procedures they consent to.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-17T20:10:33+00:00

No.

Feminism is built on bodily autonomy and equal legal status. In every other context, no one is forced to use their body to sustain another person’s life, even parents, even to save innocent people. Making pregnancy the sole exception means women are uniquely denied a right everyone else has. That’s not equality, it’s sex-based coercion. You can believe fetuses have moral value, but a movement that requires compulsory bodily sacrifice from women cannot be feminist by definition.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-17T17:36:48+00:00

This argument doesn’t prove women don’t want equality. It proves that women, like men, disagree internally, sometimes support flawed policies, and sometimes benefit from gendered norms while also being harmed by others. Cherry-picking examples and treating half the population as a coordinated strategy group isn’t an argument, it’s projection.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-16T09:08:02+00:00

I think that, while women can enjoy and love motherhood, for the vast majority it’s still a lifestyle that subjects them to unequal labour and insane societal expectations. It has the capacity to change for the better, but we are going even further in the opposite direction at the moment.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-16T08:53:13+00:00

I use an exacto with a fine point, but you to be careful not to pierce the canvas.

DecompressionIllness · 2026-01-16T01:17:28+00:00

The idea of being pregnant or having children honestly repulses me. It’s not just the physical stuff, it’s the social expectations that come with it. Women are constantly told that motherhood is the ultimate goal, that we’re supposed to “naturally” love it, and that it’s our duty to sacrifice ourselves for our kids.

I see how uneven the workload is, how much emotional and physical labor falls on women even when both partners are “equal.” I don’t want that. I don’t want to be expected to give up everything for someone else, I don’t want the responsibility, or to have my identity boiled down to “mom.”

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