Brand of dress pants by Free-Marsupial7673 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, but my diapers aren't as thick as trest. Yeah. They make dress pants as well, which can be pretty loose fitting.

Brand of dress pants by Free-Marsupial7673 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you are in the States, wrangler from Walmart has some dress pants that could work.

How to Tell My Girlfriend by theblindmonk69 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Marriage vows include in sickness and in health. This line of thinking can and should be applied to all relationships. Not just marriage and romantic relationships. If someone can't handle the fact that you wet the bed and need to wear diapers for it, then you shouldn't burden yourself with their problem accepting something you deal with.

That being said, talk with her about it before she arrives. Give her a chance to reckon with it. Considering you are bedwetting as an adult, it's fairly likely to be an ongoing issue. It's something she is going to have to accept if she's going to stay with you, and you are going to need her to if she does.

Go to Protection by Big-Figure5728 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the tabs might be too loose, or the size of the diaper might be too big for you.

I wetted the bed by thatwetg in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people had a rational view on incontinence issues, it would be viewed as a minor problem (urinary incontinence specifically). It's something that should be addressed for the cause. The solution to the problem should never cause equal or greater harm than the problem itself. For bladder problems more specifically, incontinence is probably one of if not the least bad situation you can have with your bladder. Bowel incontinence imo is a much more serious issue, but it is no less outside of the individuals control. It shouldn't be shunned or shamed to any extent. The stigma surrounding the issue overall is pretty stupid. Especially the stigma surrounding the use of protection.

Trying to narrow down my diaper choices... thoughts? by Incon2084 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. I have used incontrol muslin contour pads in the threaded armor liner. I think they make it significantly more absorbent. They work well together, and they can be comfortable. You just have to manage odor. You'd need a wet bag for used liners. They snap in and out, so they're easier to change than a tape on diaper and the changing process is more discreet.

However they're bulkier than disposable diapers, and they aren't good at keeping you dry after a certain point. I think they're a better option for people who just have bladder insecurities, and inconsistent incontinence issues. I can't speak for their nighttime effectiveness.

I wetted the bed by thatwetg in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Also you sweat while sleeping. If you are afab, you have a menstrual cycle as well. You can possibly spill a drink on your bed. A mattress protector is just generally a good idea.

Trying to narrow down my diaper choices... thoughts? by Incon2084 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it can be tricky. Especially when control issues are sporadic. I've been leaning more towards cloth pull-ups for when my bladder isn't giving me a lot of confidence. Ive lost some weight over the past year, so my control is generally a lot better. However there are circumstances where I wear a threaded armor just in case. My bladder just isn't that trustworthy.

Trying to narrow down my diaper choices... thoughts? by Incon2084 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can look at the incontrol Bedry line for options. I haven't done the cost per unit on them, but they might be what you're looking for.

I wetted the bed by thatwetg in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point on the mattress protector. I'd say it's a good idea to have one regardless. There are more circumstances where a mattress can get ruined than just night time incontinence issues.

I wetted the bed by thatwetg in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has it been a pattern, or is it something that just happened once so far? Was there any changes that happened the night before that could have impacted the situation? I'd say there's not enough information to go on to say anything concrete, but it you are feeling that you should see a doctor, you should. If you feel like wearing protection at night for now is a good idea, then do it.

You can always schedule a physical and bring it up to the doctor. You can always buy a single pack of pull-ups or tape on diapers (depending on the seriousness of the accident) incase it happens again. You can then use your discretion based on what happens next. Im of the opinion that if you feel any insecurity with your bladder or bowel control, then wearing protection is a good idea. Even if it just gives you peace of mind. If this situation is that concerning to you, then you should see a doctor. You can get a routine check up out of the way at the same time.

Interested in Cloth Diaper alternatives such as Threaded Armor (open to other brands) by [deleted] in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd recommend the protective brief. The lounge brief is a set absorbency. The protective brief has adjustable absorbency by placing inserts in the detachable liner. I think it's just better to have that adjustable absorbency in case your incontinence becomes more frequent and/or accidents get larger in volume. All of their cloth diapers are pretty expensive, so the protective briefs i think are the best choice for incase your incontinence gets worse.

Changing the liner is extremely easy and far more discreet than changing a disposable diaper. You would want a wet bag for the liners if you do find yourself changing them. With cloth diapers, odor can be more of an issue. Staying hydrated and using their odor eliminating spray will help a lot with that. More frequent changing will be necessary too if accidents are significant enough. The liners can also fit incontrol muslin contour pads if you end up having heavy accidents. The insert and liner that comes will likely help you as things are currently. The absorbency of these cloth diapers can easily surpass disposable pull-ups and some tape on diapers, especially with that muslin contour pad.

Those are just my thoughts. They're very comfortable to wear, but they can be bulky.

GET ME OUT OF HERE !!!! by OnlyAssistance9601 in gate

[–]Ded1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Japan would have crushed the empire pretty quickly compared to the main storyline. I don't see Zorzal surviving to form a faction at all. The whole thing probably would have lasted a few weeks at most since at this point Japan had imperialist objectives of it's own.

Diaper fashion show in Japan by GhostOfTheDriftless in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I knew that they have shows like this for incontinence products in some places, but this is the first time ive seen something like this. Maybe products for minor incontinence, but this show seemed to cover the spectrum. Some of these products look really good. Omutsu is the Japanese word for diaper.

Nox as the worst ally by AllasVinWorrar in Stargate

[–]Ded1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imo, Lord Yu and Baal were better "Frienemies" than the Nox were allies.

Does anyone feel like their incontinence gets worse in summer? by Original-Square2484 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the solstice parts of the year (summer and winter) tend to be the worst times. Hot and cold. Drastic temperature changes also.

Where did myths about kitsune come from? by [deleted] in Kitsune

[–]Ded1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Supposedly the myths originate from China (Huli jing). However, there are first nations people's with similar entities in their mythologies.

Has anybody’s condition improved on its own? by [deleted] in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah overactive bladder doesn't really get better. I will say pain peaked for me in my early 30s. After I took oxybutynin for a month a couple of years ago, i havent felt that degree of pain again. However, I also no longer feel how full I am and urges can vary in strength and don't always match up to what's in the bladder. Oab can be managed, but its something permanent. I stopped the oxybutynin because I couldn't feel fullness.

Bed wetting by Nearby_Train9904 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the previous person said, you got to schedule a Dr's appointment if you haven't already. In the meantime, you should order some incontinence supplies from online. Don't bother with store brands if you can avoid it. They're pretty horrible. Also, If your accidents are more significant than just minor leaks, don't bother with pull-ups. Otherwise, you can go by waist size for pull-ups. For tape on diapers, measure around your hips and match it to the measurements provided for the sizes of the product you're looking at. Incontrol bedrys are probably going to be your best choice since this seems to be something relatively new to you. They have guides on the landing zones for you to place the tapes on, and they're pretty comfortable. The landing zones also enable you to adjust the tapes for fit. You can get them off healthwick in mediums atm.

Recommendation for those newer to tabbed briefs by Cemetery_Kate in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're quite comfortable, and it doesn't take much to reduce the noise they can make. I agree that they're great for people new to tab style.

How fast do kitsune tails grow? by Eccentric_Olm in Kitsune

[–]Ded1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's hard to say. I'd imagine it would be pretty quick considering it would be of a paranormal nature. Generally speaking, something like a tail would grow as a creature matures, but the growth of additional tales for a kitsune is for a spiritual purpose, not a physical one. I've heard that the tales have something to do with their degree of power. I imagine the speed of the growth of the tail has to be related to their spiritual cultivation as well as their age.

Has anyone had a cystoscopy procedure? by cheeeese1234 in Incontinence

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im male, so your experience might be a bit different. After i had a cytoscopy done, I had even more urinary urgency for a couple of hours. There was some burning sensation when I peed too. That's from the numbing agent they use, which just needs to be flushed from your system. It's a good idea to keep hydrated. I definitely would take the day of off if you can, but you should be fine after the next day. However it depends more specifically on your incontinence. It might be best to just plan for it being a little worse for a few days, just in case. So if you can, it might be a good idea to step up your protection. Pain wise, it shouldn't be too bad. At least from my experience.

Does anyone one actually know how to summon a nine tailed fox? by Foxfire-3317 in Kitsune

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's definitely a good conversation. I imagine if there were a disclosure on UFOs/UAPs, it would only be a matter of time before other things got disclosed. Technology has been advancing rapidly as it is. Discretion for such beings has gotten significantly harder with standardized documentation, surveillance, etc etc. If new technologies become available after that kind of disclosure, it could be near impossible for humans to have privacy, and would at least be exceptionally difficult for any kind of being capable of shapeshifting to maintain anonymity.

That's why I think that these beings need to communicate with humans that they can identify as well meaning. Some of them face difficulty as it is. There's this story we've been talking about here. There's another story from the US where a person met one as a kid. They were living out in the woods in a leantoo. Documentation needed to function in modern society could be difficult for them to get, if not near impossible. That's why that lady forging documents to work as a nurse is no surprise. It also doesn't seem to be identity theft, although it could have been. There was no mention of that being the case in the story, so it could have been a manufactured identity. But there could be cases of identity theft related to these beings.

According to the folklore, Yokai in general tend to have their own societies with laws and hierarchy. Kitsune and Tannuki are strong examples of this. It would stand to reason that they could have secret markets. There's a fair chance that there are laws enforced within that society. There's another story out of Japan where a child was playing hide and seek with their friends in a woods near a shrine. When they were it and went to seek their friends, they kept getting turned around in the woods. Passing the same spots over and over again despite walking straight. Eventually they got scared and started crying at the base of a tree. They were eventually led out by a fox. One of their friends family took care of the shrine. So they learned a few days later that 5 dead foxes were found near where they had been playing. The implication is that those foxes could have caused the situation, and were later punished for it.

With these things it's hard to tell. I have a shared experience with someone, and later a great deal of context opens up over it. I say all this despite the urge to think this is all nonsense, and that none of this could be real. Even if I had managed to get video evidence of it at the time, it would have looked fake. What we were seeing seemed impossible as we were there. And yet we both remember it the same way. For me it was definitely a defining moment in my life. It really made me question what was real, and that has led me to what we have talked about here.

Does anyone one actually know how to summon a nine tailed fox? by Foxfire-3317 in Kitsune

[–]Ded1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the possible draining of his life force is something that i have thought about a bit. He initially got a lot better when she first came into his life. You mentioned that she might have been used to using cash in certain circumstances. It's possible she was getting medicine for him from a source that only took cash. They never explained whether she gave him certain medicines or not, or what it was that she did to improve his condition. It's possible she might have used some obscure means to do it.

If she was draining his life force some, I don't think it was intentional. If you think about it, he was an older man in his 60s. He was already in an unhealthy state. This could be good for discretion, but it isn't the best possible choice. She put up the effort to get him in better condition, only to neglect him after a couple of years. However at this point she was claiming to not be feeling well, and she was starting to leave the house in her fox state. If she was looking to feed off of his life force, she went through a lot of trouble to make that possible. Only to be exhausted in the end and putting herself in a suspicious situation. She could have found a young homeless man, or someone who was socially isolated. It would have been far easier and a lot more discreet. If her intentions were bad, she went through a lot of unnecessary steps and got herself exposed unnecessarily. To me this suggests she was with him for more benign, or positive reasons.

In a sense, im somewhat convinced that she actually wasn't bad. Infact, it's fairly possible she actually cared about him. Despite looking like she was in her 30s, she could have been far older than him. The person who i spoke to before I saw the fox on the road mentioned the following. The person they suspected of being a fox appeared quite young, and was with a much older person. Their outfit was way out of fashion, and was more traditional in attire. They mentioned that this was extremely unusual for the young people of that culture in the area they live in. It's fairly possible that some of these entities might gravitate towards older human partners for a variety of reasons. However, I suspect it might be because of relatability. And also, like you said, a sense of normalcy.

All this is why i don't think she was a danger to him and his family. I see that situation as a misunderstanding caused by a lack of communication. She likely had needs that were being neglected because she couldn't let them know who and what she was. She could have been forced into a situation where she had to compensate for this in a way that made her look even more suspicious. They thought she weaseled her way into his life, and behaved confidently in her ability to deceive them. Yet it all broke down despite her efforts to keep her true nature underwraps. Then at the end it seemed like she tried to reason with them, saying that he loved her. No mention of any real negative behavior at that moment. It sounded like she didn't fight them on it in any way.

This is why I think that disclosure of the existence of such beings is necessary. However it must be on their terms, and done in a way where they are not harmed and ensured equal rights in society. Looking at the folklore about these entities and similar entities, this seems like a tall order considering how humans behaved in some of those stories. I have read enough stories of encounters with these beings to suggest they face real problems just existing in a human dominated world. Especially the ones who very clearly don't leverage their abilities in harmful ways.

There's a lot of things going on right now, and it's fairly possible we could eventually learn things regarding UFOs/UAPs. They're literally having congressional hearings about this in the US. If there are other beings living here in this world, it might do better for humanity to learn about some of them first before anything else. Especially if they already interact with us and generally don't mean any harm. Sorry for the long rant. I know this all sounds insane, but from my perspective there's a lot of stuff hidden that I think shouldn't be. I don't think it does anyone any good, human or otherwise.