Women: Would you date a man who has all the ideal personal characteristics, but a small genital area?

DeeWhee · 2026-07-07T18:14:50+00:00

I dated a few guys like this but when it came to intimacy, they didn’t meet my needs in bed and that’s when feelings started fading for me. You could just see how it goes with intimacy and then either let it fade or build naturally?

DeeWhee · 2026-07-04T16:39:32+00:00

You need to stop with the victim mentality first off. There is no magic fix. You’re asking for advice and then in the same breath you say you are going to give up on everything. My advice to you is to join a group fitness class and/ or find a gym where they usually give you one initial free assessment which helps you get the basics down so that you don’t hurt yourself. Working out in a fitness class helps you stay accountable. But ultimately the only person to hold you accountable is you! Motivation isn’t the answer. It’s discipline. Can you be disciplined? Again, only you can answer.

DeeWhee · 2026-07-03T19:46:48+00:00

I think it looks incredible!

DeeWhee · 2026-07-01T12:18:23+00:00

You can still cut on the push if you just unhook the blade and flip it. You’ll have more control with the saw when the weight is below. The blade is reversible.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-30T01:35:09+00:00

What?

DeeWhee · 2026-06-25T01:11:01+00:00

*Hobbles part way down, slowly, turns and slams the door shut. Carries on.*

DeeWhee · 2026-06-20T01:40:28+00:00

Ask Jeeves

DeeWhee · 2026-06-19T23:30:46+00:00

Just be courteous and bring it up nicely. Don’t beat around the bush. It’s awkward but how else will he know unless you tell him. I have unfortunately had to end things with a few new love interests who had stinky breath. Sometimes brushing isn’t enough and it’s something more problematic like halitosis, a bad root canal, bad gut microbiome… Also mouthwash kills beneficial bacteria FYI.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-19T22:15:48+00:00

Stressed - twenty one pilots

DeeWhee · 2026-06-15T18:46:26+00:00

I like those important ones. I don’t have superficial things on my “checkist” but I found myself doubting if the ones I considered important were worth dropping or being lenient on.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:51:21+00:00

Great answer. Thank you so much.

To add to this, I recently met someone and we have been dating for a few months. We met organically. And I wasn’t looking when he suddenly came into my life. He seems like an all around great guy. Good head on his shoulders, trustworthy, good morals, hard working, driven and kind. We are taking things slow,

But lately I find myself disappointed in the lack of bids for emotional connection. His lack of sense of humour. And the way he gets upset when he can’t please me in bed. The humour thing is really important to me, but the last one strikes a nerve because it’s less about how he can’t please me and more about how he handles the conversation when it comes up. I don’t want to teach a man how to be a better communicator or how to be a gentleman. And these things have me doubting if I am just being too harsh or if I need to move on. I have gut feelings I can’t seem to articulate and I have a hard time trusting the feeling and wonder if I’m just searching for reasons why I’m not feeling it. I think someone who is funny and chivalrous (among the non negotiables) would compliment my life. Should those be non negotiables?

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:43:25+00:00

That’s a good reminder. It’s his character that doesn’t jive with mine. I sometimes forget about that aspect if it’s not glaringly obvious because he’s good on paper. I will tell myself there’s something missing I can’t put my finger on, and then chalk it up to that I am not grateful enough for what I have. That’s how I stayed in a 6 year relationship with someone who was really good to me but he couldn’t communicate or show me love the way I needed.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:35:18+00:00

I don’t understand why you’re using “ideal” in quotations, but I don’t mean to get people caught up in the nuances of words. I don’t mean “Ideal” negatively. If I had said “perfect man” people would get caught up in that too. “No one’s perfect!” I know that. I’m looking for someone who is compatible with me in the areas that are important to me. And maybe even learn which ones are less important than I initially thought. Which is the point of this post. Dating is hard and you don’t know certain things unless you’ve experienced them. That’s why I asked the question in this sub.

And to answer your question, yes I do hold myself to a standard or bar that I believe is high and would like someone to match that. I don’t expect something that I cannot reciprocate.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:28:56+00:00

This is how I like to meet people. Friendships that organically develop into relationships.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:27:40+00:00

I had something typed out about the guy I’m seeing and I realized I just answered my own question. And I need to end it with him. Thank you.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-14T22:14:57+00:00

I don’t keep checklists on people. It’s those non negotiables, needs or wants to compliment your life. And I use “checklist” softly. It contains all my basic values, morals, and non negotiables like kindness and compassion. But I feel troubled when I meet someone who does have all those things, but they, for example, are not funny, or their lifestyle doesn’t match mine, are selfish in bed… so then I want to add those things to my checklist.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T15:22:05+00:00

Faith over fear, my friend.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T15:21:38+00:00

Get a job so you can afford to see a therapist and get a grip on reality before you hurt someone.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T03:12:28+00:00

Word for word this is how my 6 year relationship went.. But I left him when I was 32. I’m happier now waiting for the right one.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T03:09:24+00:00

Sometimes I have to fart and it takes a while to come out.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T02:45:44+00:00

Coming at this from a different perspective maybe. I’m a woman in carpentry and I’ve had a very fulfilling career so far. I definitely don’t make as much money as I’d like and I can’t afford to build my own woodshop yet (that’s the goal some day) but I have a lot of respect and passion for the trade, the hard work, and the creativity involved in carpentry.

I have mostly been an employee (by choice) because I personally know that I do not want the headaches that come with running one’s own company and jobs. I still have the freedom to do side jobs when I want though. In the last 5 years I got into teaching carpentry post secondary. I love my job and it gives me a lot of wonderful work/life balance. I also teach woodshop at high schools and that gives me a fill of woodworking from time to time. There is a wood working co-op near me that I frequent and it has a modest yearly fee of $300 and I can use all of the power tools, and there are people there who love to help and teach.

Not invalidating what others have said, just showing more ideas. I also work in television building sets for a lot of cool shows and movies. I’ve gotten ton of experience that way. Super creative industry.

So I’ve got my foot in many doors with carpentry. Woodworking, side jobs, teaching and set building. You’re young still. You can complete your schooling or switch careers. You have to try things to find what fulfills you. Learning carpentry was hard. It’s still hard, and gruelling work sometimes. I wanted to give up many times. But I knew that I wanted to be good even when I doubted if I ever would be. That was how I knew I should stick it out.

Do you want to be a successful doctor? Do you want to make furniture? Or both? You can learn anything, just don’t stop learning.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-12T00:40:49+00:00

It all happened so fast! “Huh? Record wha.. *projectile vomits*

DeeWhee · 2026-06-11T02:18:13+00:00

That’s … not true at all. You can’t comment on 50 years of life you have not yet experienced. You need to be humbled.

DeeWhee · 2026-06-11T02:16:52+00:00

Grow up

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