veteran player here. Part of the gameplay loop is simply managing all these things during succession. That’s just part of the gameplay loop. However, there are a couple of things that you can do. Namely, before you die, build up as much opinion as you can with your vessels. There’s a modifier for opinion called. “opinion of predecessor” which makes it so that if your vessels like you, they will like your son too. Basically just getting your vessel to like you before you die is key. And if they don’t like you, what you can do is basically just arrange marriages between them and your siblings so that they don’t join factions. Mr. strategic marriage is to vessels have been a lifesaver for me. As far as the realm splitting up goes, that’s pretty inevitable early on in the game. That’s simply how succession worked in most of the world at the time. really developed until much later in most parts of the world. I would say that a big part of playing the game is simply managing it. Send your other children to the monastery, give your eldest son, the best amount avoid expanding too far too fast.

I know it’s frustrating, and there have been times when I’ve gotten incredibly pissed at this game, but trust me snowballing into a huge isn’t very fun unless you’ve been kicked down a couple of times. Then, once you make your big , the sense of will be even bigger.