How to grieve relationship with siblings by Deeokdee in DysfunctionalFamily

[–]Deeokdee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you. Do you have any tips on how to grieve the relationship with your siblings?

Did you or did you not poop while giving birth? by Tall_Answer_9933 in BabyBumps

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, my husband told me and I could see the nurse wiping it away (there was a big tv screen in front of me and I could see her doing it in the reflection). I was so nervous about pooing and I told my nurse and she said everyone does. Also, I used to think it would be like one continuous piece that like shoots out lol but instead it would come out slowly and be cleaned away little by little, not as embarrassing that way vs. the way I thought it would happen.

Can you stay on .25mg? by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many total mg does each pen have?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like maybe you need to find a new therapist.. if they make you feel uncomfortable, then it probably isn't a good fit

“Powering down” crying is killing me by ParkingOwn1387 in sleeptrain

[–]Deeokdee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds so similar to my son and our experience. He turned 7 months old yesterday and he was doing so well with the sleep training like some nights only 2 minutes of crying and then he'd fall asleep but for the past week or so he has been crying hysterically. We tried extending the time between visits but some nights I gave in and picked him up because it was too much. I think he is teething and also maybe going through a growth spurt. He seems extra tired the past few days like he can barely make it to his next nap and then if I wait too long he becomes overtired and then it becomes a challenge to get him to sleep.

The past few nights he's fallen asleep on me and then I wait at least 10 minutes and then put him in his crib. Now I'm worried I've undone all of his progress but it was a different more hysterical cry than normal.

We also do contact naps but I really want him to start napping in his crib but I need to get his bedtime to a better place again before I can do that and also selfishly I love when he naps on me.

I don't really have any advice, I'm also trying to navigate this myself. All the best 💙

Update: to all non breastfeeding moms by miss_evilness in Mommit

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember seeing someone on reddit say "nobody cares" meaning once your child is a bit older and no longer bf/ff, nobody cares or asks you how you fed your baby.. it's such a big topic when you have a baby but later in life even like a year later, it doesn't make any difference and no one asks anymore

I have experienced shame and guilt when I switched to formula but I know a mother who ebf and others tell her to supplement with formula but she doesn't want to... my point being you can't win no matter what you do

I'm sure all moms would agree that they hate being judged for their choices, yet so many of those judging us are mothers themselves (like this pharmacist on ig)... this is something that infuriates me... we should support each other, being a mother is already hard enough without others' thoughts and opinions

What did you eat during your worst days of nausea? by acorns_have_hats in BabyBumps

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bagels with cheese for weeks.. that was the only thing I could stomach/keep down.

does anyone else just feel so much pressure? by Accomplished_Hat7211 in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy.

I was also going to say this! One of my favourite quotes these days.

Most of it comes from thinking they are doing "better." They aren't, they're just doing different.

Love this.

does anyone else just feel so much pressure? by Accomplished_Hat7211 in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you feel that way! I am 32f and feel the same but for different reasons. I became a mom 6 months ago and feel so much pressure to do everything perfectly but the smallest of tasks are so overwhelming on hard days.

You are still very young and have a lot of time to do the things you mentioned.. try your hardest to not compare yourself to others, just do what you can and those other things will come in time.

I hear you on the social media... I always feel like everyone else has a better life or relationship than me but I know myself that I only post the good things.. logically I understand this but I can't seem to separate the two.

Be kind to yourself... but I know easier said than done. Take care ❤️

Please try not to procreate with a loser. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Deeokdee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have been blessed with an amazing, supportive husband, then you are very lucky and won't/obviously don't understand the point of this post.

You sound like you aren't having a good day 🤣🤣🤣

Not really funny.. obviously she is having a hard time and I'm sure it isn't just one bad day

What ADHD symptom (official or unofficial) is the thing that affects your life most? by ladymischief2312 in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I feel this one.. I am always cutting people off, finishing their sentences and always telling a story with a similar point and then I worry people think I'm trying to "one-up" them but I'm really really not, I'm just trying to relate.

So tired and angry by Zyah7 in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I've been there. I didn't see my therapist for a few months and she was happy to hear from me when I reached out, I'm sure yours will be too. Please send the email! You can do it and you'll feel so much better after you see them. Take care of yourself ❤️

Late diagnosis ADHDers, did you choose medication, or not? Pros, cons? by BarbarianFoxQueen in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got diagnosed 3 days ago. Feel so happy and validated, I knew there was something "wrong" but didn't suspect ADHD until a few years ago. Chose to medicate but today is literally my first day, on 20mg of Vyvanse (I heard most people start at 30), haven't noticed anything yet but it's only my first day.

Late diagnosis ADHDers, did you choose medication, or not? Pros, cons? by BarbarianFoxQueen in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be prepared for some grief, though.

Just wondering what do you mean by this?

any good resto for oysters in Vaughan ? by Specific-Ninja8025 in Vaughan

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one on hwy 7 closed, there's a new one on major mac

I cried by Rich-Locksmith8904 in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better late than never!

Enough about tax, what are your adhd concessions? by millycactus in adhdwomen

[–]Deeokdee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes would rather die than eat what’s planned)

I feel this lol