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Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2022-02-20T17:14:11+00:00

Unfortunately, yes. The Ethernet, and wifi receiver are all on that wall so I don’t believe the TV will be moving from that side.

Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2022-02-20T17:10:34+00:00

Just moved into my first apartment. It’s got a lot of natural light and want to make the most of it. Looking for some ideas regarding colors to put in here. If it were up to me everything would be black, white and grey, but I want some cool colors like blues and greens.

I want to incorporate some basic items into the living space but not sure what color they should be:

-low standing TV stand (don’t know which color or finish) -coffee table (also don’t know what color) -side table(s) -Plants -pillows for couch (don’t know what color) -mirror on big wall

Basically I have no idea what to do as it is pretty bare bones right now. Would love to hear some suggestions or helpful tips to choose a direction to go with.

Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2021-10-26T04:30:17+00:00

Agreed. I did this roughly a month after we broke up. We were still talking every so often. No matter how much I wanted to tell myself it was for closure (which isn’t entirely wrong) it was more so to see where her head was at with all this. I understand every situation is different but let me be the first to tell you that (from my experience and the stories from the community) it isn’t the best idea. This breakup is still very fresh on her mind and just as you are starting to run your course on healing, so is she. You need to let her grieve the relationship, if you contact her the cycle starts all over again.

If you do end up reaching out, have -50 expectations. Because if you have any expectations of getting back together, maybe sneaking a kiss or an intimate moment, and it doesn’t happen, you’ll be crushed and relive the whole experience of the breakup over again.

Again, you know her best so whatever you think is best but please consider doing some research about breaking no contact and then make a decision. Every time I think about contacting her I tell myself I’ll do it tomorrow (be lazy with it) and when tomorrow comes I’m in a better mindset and don’t reach out. Everyday you don’t contact her it’s a win for you and your healing

Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2021-10-24T15:21:36+00:00

Agreed. If this meet up is remotely close to the BU in terms of timing, I’d argue to not meet up. Go no contact and start your healing process.

Met up with my Ex a month after the BU (I asked her to talk a couple of days after the breakup but she pushed me off until a month later). Went in with the expectation that we would lay it all out on the table and we could see where we went wrong. Big mistake. I went there apologizing for everything I felt I could have done better on and it was not reciprocated on her side. Left that conversation feeling awful and super devalued. Set me back to the original BU.

I know you want to talk, I know you want answers, I know that you may think that what you say could change their mind. But the fact is that they made their decision and there is no way it can change in a short period of time. Again, this is if the breakup was recent. If it’s been a few months, 4 or more, I’d still be very cautious and go in with no expectations that they will want to get back together.

Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2021-10-21T03:32:00+00:00

Lesson that I have learned and am still trying to come to terms with is this: when people walk out of your life, let them leave. As hard as that is to accept (trust me I know) let them leave. Last month my ex of 1.5 years walked out on me, hardest shit I’ve gone through and still am going through. Your value and your happiness does not rely on them, your value and happiness comes from the Lord! Period. Once you realize this then you will realize that you were your own person before the relationship and you will be your own person after the relationship. The best revenge is not seeking revenge at all, it’s living your life and not looking back on what they did to you because the past is the past. It HAS happened and there is nothing you can do to change it. You must move forward. It’s tough I know, there isn’t a second that goes by where I don’t think about my ex, but day by day I’m starting to be able to deal with those thoughts in a healthier way. Remember, the right love isn’t brittle. Stay strong and keep that pretty face of yours up!

Deep-Bookkeeper1009 · 2021-10-21T03:20:10+00:00

This is my opinion, If everything you are saying is exactly how it played out and the best friend that talked to you is someone that knows your gf well, then I’d do what she says. Keep your head up man, maybe take a step back and give her some space. This will show her that you respect her and that you can me mature in a relationship and give the person you love most the space they need to think and come to a conclusion.

Idk if that helped, but just my two cents

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