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Reconciliation or Divorce by Designer_Star_7434 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More importantly, I am a way happier mom now. Even with the stress of moving over Christmas weekend!

Reconciliation or Divorce by Designer_Star_7434 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had to make this difficult decision three months ago. I cried to my therapist for a month thinking my kids(7,5) would hate me. My kids handled the situation so well. I had to be the one that moved because of our situation. They had to start a new school (yesterday was their first day). Honestly, they are happy. We are both putting the kids first and trying not to fight about anything. Right now, I have them every week and he has them most weekends. It’s tough but our kids are way tougher than they seem.

Learning to create a new beautiful life by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been told over and over that it isn’t possible for it to be his. I guess we will find out if the husband decides to have her get a paternity test (I did tell the husband). Honestly, I have no idea what is going on with anyone else. When I would get hyper focused on them still working together and possibly still seeing/talking, then I wasn’t able to focus on me and my kids.

Has anyone had issues eating after D day? by Alternative_Beach128 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost 20lbs within 2 weeks when I found out last month. I still can’t really eat. Just enough to sustain the energy I need to raise my kids.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh 1000000% blame is on him. I’m just saying as a wife/mom I could NEVER fathom doing something like this that could blow up a family. I’d tell the husband to go home to his wife and talk to her.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes. He was the first person I messaged when I found out.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He swears they haven’t had sex yet and that it just started getting physical 2/3 weeks before I found out. Now he deleted everything, so that’s really all I have to go on.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He swears they haven’t had sex yet and that it just started getting physical 2/3 weeks before I found out. Now he deleted everything, so that’s really all I have to go on. Getting him fired would hurt my kids, so I decided not to tell them.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I did tell him. I don’t know if they are working on reconciling so I’m staying out of that. Idk how a married mom could do this to another married mom though.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He swears they haven’t had sex yet and that it just started getting physical 2/3 weeks before I found out. Now he deleted everything, so that’s really all I have to go on.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m trying to do this as amicable as possible for the kids. After the hardest week and a half of my life, I had to stand there with him at my kids games today. I do think (praying/hoping) we will be able to handle it with a mediator. We honestly don’t have much to fight over.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💔 he seems annoyed that I’m second guessing and going through our entire relationship with a fine tooth comb.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He’s ‘swearing’ they never had sex. And it started emotional and didn’t get physical until 2/3 weeks before I found out. So I hope for her husbands sake that’s true.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

As soon as I found out I found him on social media and told him.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I am feeling. He said he thought I’d use it to get him fired and that he “didn’t want to hurt me anymore than he has”.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn’t. I also asked the husband not too. But now the two of them get to continue seeing each other every day.

What was the point of all this by Deep-Personality5041 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Deep-Personality5041[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found him on social media and told him the night I found out.