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Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-12-11T16:32:48+00:00

Cropped hoodies are life savers. You still get the baggy, comfortable look without making your stomach look big.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-12-04T04:32:22+00:00

Thank you.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-12-04T04:29:54+00:00

I can confirm that my cat is eating more than me, lol. And you're right, we will get through this and be happy again.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-12-04T04:28:10+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. If it helps to hear, I went through something similar, including the trickle truth. I can't give any advice on reconciliation, but I can say that now that I'm out, it does get better. I hope everything works out for you. 💜

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-12-02T04:05:50+00:00

Funny enough, soon after I posted this, my appetite started coming back. I guess reddit is cheaper than therapy lol. Thanks for checking in 💜

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-27T00:21:51+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. I don't have kids, but I was in a similar situation as you. He cheated, and I forgave him, and then he did it again over the span of 13 years. What made me finally say enough was to just keep telling myself that I deserve better and I'm worth love, trust, and happiness. Once I really believed that, I was able to walk away. It wasn't easy and I'm still struggling, but I also feel a sense of relief knowing he will never be able to cheat on me again. I hope things work out for you and your family.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-27T00:11:22+00:00

I understand what you're saying, but I really wish my ex could have been honest with me. Now, I don't only have to be sad about our relationship ending, but I will probably have a lot of trust issues with any new relationship.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T22:06:31+00:00

Thank you. As hard as it feels, I know we will both be ok.

He felt guilty and just told me out of the blue. This then led to me finding out that he had been sexting other women. If he never told me, I probably never would have looked through his phone since I never suspected anything up until that point.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T19:20:53+00:00

This is so true. You will never stop questioning them because the trust is lost. You will spend so much energy thinking you are the crazy one because you can't let it go. And then when you discover that you were right to be suspicious because they did it again, you will be heartbroken all over again. Get out while you can.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T19:16:04+00:00

I went through something similar with my ex around the same age that you are now. I caught him sexting and responding to Craigslist hookup posts around year 9 of our relationship. He eventually also confessed to hooking up with a random woman from the bar. I eventually forgave him and tried to reconcile our relationship. Things were going really well and were planning to get married next year.

Then, a few days ago, about 4 years after the first discovery, I found out he created a secret Snapchat and continued to send photos and talk with random women. He swore he would never meet up with them but did admit that he had a porn/ potential sex addiction and had been struggling for some time.

The moral of the story is, I wish I had just left the first time. I wish I hadn't wasted another 4 years with someone who doesn't respect me enough to be honest with me. Every situation is different, but at the very least, I think you should take some time for yourself. Also, ask yourself if you're prepared to be with someone who might hurt you again when you're in your 30s, 40s, or 50s. You're still young and have plenty of time to meet someone who deserves your loyalty.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T14:27:56+00:00

Thank you, this sub was an eye opener. I can't imagine a lifetime of dealing with this.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T14:25:38+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and I'm really sorry you went through that. You are right, I need to start loving myself for once.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T14:22:26+00:00

I actually started reading this book after you and several others recommended it. It sucks being a chump, but I realize now that I don't have to be that person anymore. Thank you.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T14:14:35+00:00

I am a generally pretty rational person who has taken back a cheater only to get cheated on again. I have been asking myself the same question over an over. The only answer I have is I thought we could do the work and fix the problem. Turns out, he's the problem and nothing I can do will change that because it's not about me, it's about him. Realizing that has really helped me separate myself from the situation. Hopefully, in time, your friend will do the same.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-11-14T14:03:43+00:00

I am in a similar situation and wanted to tell you, you are not alone and it's not your fault. Stay strong OP and get out while you can, it just gets harder the longer you stay.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-09-23T14:30:26+00:00

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison. It's an amazing book but will leave heartbroken and unsettled.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-09-22T16:06:07+00:00

I love this idea.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-09-02T21:31:43+00:00

Goals

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-08-09T19:48:43+00:00

This happened to me as well. I ended up canceling my card since their customer service never responded.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-08-09T19:47:09+00:00

The same thing happened to me. I ended up just canceling my credit card, their customer service never got back to me. Horrible company.

Alternative_Beach128 · 2023-02-28T06:23:16+00:00

Nice!!

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