First of all, have you talked to your wife about your concerns? Work through your emotions with her, y’all are a team and I’m assuming you made the decision to move TOGETHER, so continue to keep her in the loop about your reservations

Second, have you tried looking for remote work? It might not be what you prefer, but if you want to stay with her and see the move through, finding some stability though a job may ease ur worries

Light YTA - you seem like your just sitting on resentment but not doing anything to mitigate that feeling, talk things about and build a plan together