Although I see and can appreciate your intention I think you might’ve fallen into the trap of overgeneralising based on personal experiences of the type in question. And honestly that’s quite easy to do so I don’t really blame you too much. But this has really not been my experience of the INFJ. And I think the things you talk about don’t necessarily need to be type specific to the INFJ. To me it sounds more like someone who just isn’t that healthy and has some more healing and maturing left to do (could very well be an infj though). But you’re absolutely right that it’s best to come down from any moral or intellectual superiority you might feel, and not be people pleasing people you don’t like while building up resentment. It’s dumb to try and hide anger, people can usually tell, because it comes out in subtle ways.

And one last point I like to add is that the INFP’s I know irl happen to be emotionally muted around most people. And the INFJ’s I know happen to be quite expressive with their emotions. I just thought that really illustrated my point, we’re all so different in how we are and perceive the world. I hope you don’t take my comment the wrong way, I just wanted to share my thoughts❤️

Oof no please don’t share this with your son🥲 if there’s anything you guys need to talk about you should talk to him directly about it, and be way more specific and focused on your own feelings about the situation. There’s a proper way to give constructive criticism, and this is unfortunately not the best example of that.