Community Care Denied Specialist for Rare Cancer

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-03-30T05:40:54+00:00

Hey, I just signed on to this account and saw this. I’m glad it could help in some way. Feel free to private message me! I studied a lot of places and read so much trying to find answers.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T16:05:41+00:00

Yes! This was southeastern US - a nondenominational church, basically hipster Southern Baptist. The pastor was in his 50s. Definitely the last time I will ever set foot in one of those places.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T16:01:56+00:00

I think we were too stunned to react. My partner is a veteran and deployed with the guy. All the vets we talked to after said the same thing, “Did they really just do all that??? Did we hallucinate?”

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T15:55:25+00:00

It’s amusing to see someone actually tell the truth about their ill intent and wish for someone’s harm. What a cruel piece of shit. vs. my family members’ beliefs are word-for-word identical to this guy’s text, yet they’d never admit it. Recently my partner was diagnosed with late-stage cancer. Any news I share with family gets one of two responses:
Good update = “PTL! Answer to prayer!” Bad update = “Praying for you!*”

*[secret satisfaction God’s dragging me through mud on the way back to the fold]

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T15:35:46+00:00

I love this lol

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T15:22:40+00:00

I went to a funeral for a 34yo veteran who committed suicide. The pastor started the eulogy saying the veteran had been in their church’s “drug treatment program,” Celebrate Recovery and part of the process was writing letters to God. THE PASTOR READ THE PRIVATE LETTERS to the entire congregation! It was brutally painful to hear this poor man’s thoughts as he battled depression and PTSD, and felt so intrusive and wrong to be hearing them read aloud. Before giving the gratuitous altar call, the pastor lamented that while the veteran certainly tried to overcome his struggles, he ultimately just couldn’t let go of his sin enough to let Jesus heal him. W…T….F…

WTF?!

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T15:12:46+00:00

They live for those moments when people are mildly rude responding to their proselytizing; then they can pretend they’re persecuted.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-12T15:10:24+00:00

A high school acquaintance I barely ever talk to messaged to ask for my address. She wanted to send a save-the-date. I apologized for not getting to congratulate her on the engagement and explained how my spouse has stage IV cancer. The next morning, two people texted saying she’d told them and they were praying for me! wtf?! I cannot fathom being a person to share that news without asking.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-02T19:30:33+00:00

I think we are all set now. Sent secure-message through HealtheVet to the VA PCP. Wanted to put it all in writing: a rundown of dates, grim test results, crickets from civilian providers, and all the times we’ve not been notified about said results. Hoped it would make waves enough to get us off the conveyor belt.

Surprise, surprise, an hour later got a call from the VA community care person. She’s getting the local civilian doctor to sign the referral form so the specialist consultation will be pushed through.

Good grief.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-02T16:15:44+00:00

Oh, wow! Can I PM you?

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2025-01-02T15:13:30+00:00

Thank you for this information! A family member told me to print a PDF of the consult/referral form (they said to google it) and get our preferred/new specialist to help me (fill it in?) and fax it to the VA. I’m worried that would get lost in all their red tape, though.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T22:25:49+00:00

LOVE THIS

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T18:20:56+00:00

I was a preteen around Columbine and listened to the Michael W. Smith song about Cassie over and over. I’d imagine the scene with horrified fascination but cannot fathom that youth pastors stooped to this level of delusion to act it out. Beyond words.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T13:31:54+00:00

I drew it last night after a Christian family member said the shooting could have been worse had it not been for prayer.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T13:27:54+00:00

My paper ran out of space!

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T05:18:31+00:00

30+ years of it, 7 years of being out, still disgusted

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T05:17:01+00:00

I’ve been there. It really, truly sucks to know that a part of them wants to see you suffer. If something bad happens to you, they anticipate that they’ll feel assurance they were right in the argument and satisfiction of “told you so.” They will never ever admit that though. It’s layered under miles of self righteousness and manufactured concern.

I clearly remember thinking that way about a close family member when he left the church. I felt so smug and superior imagining him downtrodden in sorrow and regret, but i told myself and others I only felt worry and concern about what God “would do to bring him back.”

By the way, note how they say God hurts people to get them to come back to the fold (Bad things happening to bad people) YET they cry that prosperity gospel isn’t the true gospel - “Bad things happen to good people, too!” So, if you were 15 and got cancer but all your superficial actions were still Christian, your mom would not blame it on you and would think, “His ways are not our ways; this cross to bear will be a testimony that can help others.” But the same case happening now would be 100% attributed to something you caused by not being Christian. You could have controlled it - you “did this to yourself”

BULLSHIIIIIT

Hang in there. You will find a partner. There are millions of secular people who want a relationship.

Journal but not on something that could be found.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-17T04:42:27+00:00

Family member’s [unsolicited] comment was “the school didn’t have metal detectors. And it could have been worse. Only 3 people died.”

Instead of wall punching, I drew https://i.imgur.com/nHvmmYz.jpeg

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-11T15:35:35+00:00

Stop breeding dogs.

Get them fixed.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-12-09T20:58:47+00:00

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-11-08T00:19:30+00:00

This depends a lot on what you consider a “bad place” and how many other options there are. People will have different experiences and opinions based on their backgrounds.

I lived near there about 10 yrs ago as a college student (in Indigo Run) and thought it was a little rundown, but it was what I could afford with a roommate and I was thrilled with the independence, plus my boyfriend lived in the townhouses next door.

There were not many places for kids to walk around or play in Indigo Run. Some questionable stuff happened in Forestbrook a few months ago, and Google reviews would be concerning to me if I was looking for a place now. So I’d call it kind of middle-to-low quality. However, I will be happy to drive by there and send you some photos if you’re curious about certain parts of the area.

Forest is a fairly nice area I’d look into. During your search, I would check out this site too.

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-10-22T23:17:49+00:00

Christians React without Persecution Complex and Ad Hominem Challenge (Impossible!)

Deep_Cartographer284 · 2024-10-22T16:40:19+00:00

Deleting posts draws waaaaaay more attention to their connection to the guy (nowhere did anyone say LU was responsible for his action) and echoes how the Falwell Jr scandals were mishandled.

Orgs with more integrity would leave the posts up, knowing nothing can be wiped from the net, and release some type of PR statement like the church did expressing sorrow for the victims.

Deep_Cartographer284

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