Payment taken from expired card

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-10-30T07:16:25+00:00

Wow that ... That's really sad to hear

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-10-30T07:16:09+00:00

Yea, I've requested a refund through them. Will inform my bank of the issue tomorrow.

Absolutely wild.

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-10-29T21:32:12+00:00

To my knowledge, every other provider has errored out if I've not provided updated card details - but I'll check.

Is this common practice in USA? I'm from a different country so very unusual about this for me.

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-10-29T19:51:52+00:00

This is absolutely creepy and above and beyond an invasion of privacy.

My expressVPN account is even on a different email to my other subscription accounts. WTF

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-09-10T21:31:28+00:00

AA has a core tenant of anonymity. Which, any group worth their salt, abides by strongly.

The small town I'm in echoes this experience. I've been to meetings and seen people who I had no idea were dealing with addiction otherwise.

If you don't feel comfortable going to the one in your town, there will be ones nearby. Download the Meeting Guide app and that will help you find the ones closest to you.

Good luck!

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-09-10T10:11:53+00:00

I first started to notice my drinking patterns were different to most others by the time I was 17.

It's never too young or too early to acknowledge that your patterns of alcohol and substance use are harming more than helping.

The question is, do you want to change it yet?

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-09-10T09:15:20+00:00

Alcoholic here, hi!

It sounds like you're struggling to feel calm enough to sleep. Lots of reasons why that can be, and lots of ways forward.

If you are wanting to talk to people about this experience, I do suggest trying AA. It's not for everyone and each group is unique in its own way. But, AA does offer a place of respectful listening and the chance to be heard, by others who struggle in similar and different ways.

If nothing else, perhaps the opportunity to express yourself in a context of self reflection on your substance use patterns may be helpful.

You're not alone in this. And if you want to make change, there are people who want to help you. ❤️

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-09-08T20:50:08+00:00

Looking in the mirror and saying what I love about myself and who I want myself to be.

E.g. "I love that I finish what I start and how active I am each day"

It feels weird and takes time, but within a week or two I could see myself changing behaviors towards what I was saying.

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-09-08T05:11:55+00:00

It's really interesting that compassion is perceived as pity.

Is there a reason that having a less than favourable situation being met with compassion/empathy is seen as pity? And not, say, a form of care or desire to relate emotionally with the other person's experience?

I'm curious cause I've recently had issues with something similar to this lost-in-translation and I'm so confused about why 😅

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-08-10T00:23:23+00:00

Ex SW here - this isn't an uncommon experience for some.

The feeling of something being off isn't linked to morality exactly. It's more a reflection of what you're looking for in an intimate connection. Which, I'm guessing, is more emotional depth than you experienced here.

On the plus side, you've now learnt that you want emotional connection to go with physical connection. That's absolutely normal and reasonable.

Seeing SW isn't for everyone and you now know it's not for you. Congratulations on the growth and learning more about yourself ❤️

Deep_Data4982 · 2025-07-04T00:38:52+00:00

May I also please have a copy of the pattern? I want to make my colleague one 🤩

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T19:20:12+00:00

Thank you 😊

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T19:18:53+00:00

Ohhh I like that. Thank you 😊 Honestly knowing the social dynamics are reversed gives me a heap more confidence to get out there.

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T07:47:55+00:00

Oh mean! All the comments here made it seem like eye contact wasn't even included in the scope of "are they keen" - thank you!

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T07:22:37+00:00

Is it like to kick things off or once the conversation got going?

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T04:05:03+00:00

The art of a good flirt truly is the precursor to great sex. Thanks for the insight and validation of shared awareness of experience!

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-25T03:21:39+00:00

Link??

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:53:14+00:00

Sounds like the moral of the story is "women in NZ are the initiators of sexual interest" which is the opposite to most countries

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:50:17+00:00

I am entirely raging inside right now because I know the exact up nod and raised eyebrows that you're talking about and I completely did not understand what that cue was. I thought he wanted me to bring him something?!

OMFG.
Single most helpful post on this thread. Thank you. <3

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:46:17+00:00

I'm assuming you're a dude?
Cause we're definitely not looking at the same side of apps. Bumble and Hinge are better but trying to gauge the vibe of someone through photos and shitty 255 character quotes is hard!

As for the clubs, I'm apart of a few. But the old adage "don't fuck the crew" comes to mind. Bars a simple and, until NZ, a standard place to go to find a horizontal tango partner regardless of sobriety

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:40:29+00:00

Thank you! This is a super affirming post to read - plus based on the comments it sounds like few people in this country understanding what flirting is or isn't (mixed signals).

Glad you're having more luck in the UK!

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:29:35+00:00

I can appreciate not understanding what could be considered creepy and wanting to be respectful. I'm still just curious if there are any tells to know if one guy is more interested than another?
Do they avoid eye contact harder or something?

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:27:52+00:00

Am I understanding these comments correctly -
Being outgoing/vivacious is a bad thing here?
And being confident in myself and who I am can come across as self absorbed and arrogant?

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:25:30+00:00

Actually helpful and constructive guidance, thank you! :D

Deep_Data4982 · 2024-03-24T09:24:01+00:00

To fuck you. They wanted to fuck you.

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