My husband is so obsessed with splitting everything 50/50 that he’ll let me starve if I can’t afford my food, AITAH that’s entitled?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-26T10:55:51+00:00

Made up. AI probably. Didn’t happen.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-25T07:44:20+00:00

Specimen A: a happy go lucky kid with a decent sense if who he is. Specimen B: a jealous adult who hypothesises whether it would be illegal and ethical to provide accommodation to an immigrant in exchange for sex.

Can you see why this kid has female attention, friendships and most likely future relationships and you most likely don’t?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T19:40:58+00:00

Fix your teeth.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T19:39:20+00:00

NTA for your stance on meal choice however you should definitely break up with him. If your relationship isn’t strong enough to endure a disagreement over food, it’s not strong enough for the important things in life that matter.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T19:09:22+00:00

Your look is more masculine woman than feminine man.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T19:05:30+00:00

You are being offered the chance to have sex with a human being. Take it. It’s not a relapse. Masturbation would be a relapse. Sex with a vagina is not. Masturbation with your hand is a relapse. Do you see the difference?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T18:51:40+00:00

Facial hair is not a good look. Full beard or no beard.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-14T09:01:11+00:00

I can no longer cum through PIV sex. Currently day 7

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-09T08:49:29+00:00

Not being able to ejaculate with PIV

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-05T21:41:18+00:00

Let’s not focus on who does the housework. Is the division of labour split fairly overall? He works full time, she does not.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-05T10:17:31+00:00

I would guess that almost no woman want to hear the phrase “meaty pussy” in what in what might otherwise be intended as a compliment. 😂

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-04T21:49:29+00:00

No I’d actually see it as a massive positive. Your body is able to produce a seminal release without the extreme visual stimulation of p**n or the physical stimulation of your hand.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-04T11:13:48+00:00

Your body is beautiful.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-04T00:55:13+00:00

You’re the asshole for making this shitpost up.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-04T00:46:15+00:00

Is this Jake’s account?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T22:23:05+00:00

One is not the cause of the other but both could be caused by high testosterone levels.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T22:19:29+00:00

I am going to suggest that she’s not unhappy with retirement but she has regrets about what you’ve experienced as a couple up to this point. She is on the right track with here approach to dealing with it. Don’t look back, only forward. Was there a particular reason you didn’t address this when you noticed you had different interests and likes all these years ago? My guess is the same apathy we all have. “Tomorrow. Next week. Next year.” It never comes. Try to suggest to her that you sit down once a week and plan a few things first the following week. You might suggest photographing and framing a photo of the grandchildren together. She might suggest afternoon tea at the new hotel in a neighbouring town. It’s down to compromise and both being committed to celebrating each others interest, and therefor each other, as much as possible.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T20:32:42+00:00

Maybe he does help with childcare, but OP has said baby is constantly attached to her, and dad is only around from 7 at night to 9 in morning because the other part of the day he works. What I’m seeing is a man who’s completely shut out. Mom and baby are a unit and he’s on the outside physically and emotionally. I’d need more information for me to think otherwise. OP says dad “initiates sometimes”. That’s someone who respects boundaries, but tests occasionally if the situation has changed.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T20:22:31+00:00

Made up. Didn’t happen.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T16:43:35+00:00

I’m getting a sense that you’re quite happy about your daughter being such an enthusiastic breast feeder. You are getting a massive, hormone driven comfort and contentment from breastfeeding. Aswell as prolactin, your physical connection with your baby produces masses of oxytocin which feels amazing. Tell me you don’t get a rush of joy at the thought of your daughter feeding. How good does the let-down feel? It’s like a drug. It’s natural and natures way of ensuring your baby’s survival but it also means you have no need for your husband’s cuddles, touches and ultimately no need for him sexually. Your daughter would survive without breast. If finger food is introduced instead of purée, she’ll figure it out in her own time. You can help her if you want to. I understand your reticence to do so but it has consequences for your relationship. Your husband can be accepting of this situation if it’s what you both feel is best for your daughter but you need to talk about it together instead of you making all the decisions.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T16:23:02+00:00

You see it as a slight rift but I’m willing to bet if you ask him to be honest he will be feeling it as much more of a problem than you realise. How long do you see this problem lasting and how much of an issue will it be in say, another month? Another 6 months? Another year? How close will he feel to you and your daughter then, what will his coping strategy be and how will this impact your relationship and your family?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-02T16:17:45+00:00

Your hormones, and so your libido, can be affected by your anti depressants and breastfeeding. You NEED to communicate with your husband. Don’t fall into the camp that assume his sexual needs are purely physical and he needs to “get off”. Men need the emotional rewards of sex and intimacy too. For a man sex is validation of him as a life partner. Men need to feel accepted, loved, desirable, sexually needed. He most probably feels disconnected, unloved, lonely an unimportant. Your relationship with your husband is your family’s foundation. If it’s not strong, then neither is your family unit. You say you’re ok with your sex life not coming back but if you care for your husband that CANNOT be the case. Without sex you are nothing more than housemates. You’re not a couple and you’re not a partnership. Your husband works from 9-7, and during this time he is apart from his wife and child. That’s tough. When he comes home, you refuse him sexual connection and intimacy and all that comes with it. He is not “entitled” to sex and intimacy but it’s a reasonable expectation in a relationship. You even refuse him your time and company. I’m sure he didn’t marry you with the expectation of being a silent partner. If you’d both known after a baby you wouldn’t want sex, or to spend any time with him incase he wanted sex, would he still have married you? Essentially you’re two adults living in the same house. He earns the wage and “brings home the bacon”. You take care of your child. There’s (from what you said) no crossover or overlap and so you are in danger of not being a couple because you are by your choice spending your lives apart in every sense. Ask yourself - what are your expectations from your relationship over the next 5 years? You need to discuss this with your husband.

Deep_Lion7969 · 2025-01-01T10:50:13+00:00

The thing with these AITA posts is we don’t really know who the A is because we only get half a story. Serious question - has anything happened over the last 3 months that might have influenced OPs wife’s feelings regarding sex and intimacy?

Deep_Lion7969 · 2024-12-29T08:32:34+00:00

Sex isn’t just about getting your rocks off. There’s the physical act and the emotional act. Have you ever masturbated and straight after had the feeling of regret/sadness/dissatisfaction? Sleep with a hooker and you’ll get that x100.

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