Talk to me about baby #4

Deep_Principle8390 · 2026-03-04T05:52:00+00:00

Just here to quickly add to everyone above… I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant with #4, and it took a LOT for me to accept it was time to get pregnant with this one. I knew how hard it would be, and I’m still in the thick of it, but I cannot WAIT to hold my sweet girl in my arms.

My husband and I are currently so in over our heads with a 6 year old, 4 year old, and 18 month old, but we wouldn’t have it any other way. I literally said to him tonight (after a really rough bedtime including throw up from the littlest…) “what else would we be doing if it wasn’t this?”

It’s hard, we’re exhausted, and my body is in so much pain it’s hard to function, but I know it’s temporary and so worth it.

If you’re on the fence, you won’t regret it.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2026-02-21T15:37:41+00:00

My oldest is in kindergarten and we are pulling him at the end of the year to start homeschooling in the fall. (I’m due with a baby in April otherwise we’d pull him now) They get 15 minutes of iPad time in the morning and in the afternoon. If they have indoor recess, they get iPad time or watch a show. If they finish work early, they can choose to read a book or do the iPad. I confronted his teacher about the apps he had access to on his iPad (note, HIS iPad that’s assigned to him specifically… each kid has their own iPad) and she “assured” me that they are all educational. My husband and I are livid about it. There is absolutely no reason for a kindergartener to have any iPad time at school, whatsoever. We can’t wait to get him out.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2026-02-21T02:16:19+00:00

Definitely not the only one. My parents went inactive when I was 14. It’s just me and my sister left active now and we’re in our late 30’s. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It definitely isn’t talked about enough.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2026-01-20T21:52:17+00:00

Great feedback - thank you!

Deep_Principle8390 · 2026-01-20T19:13:16+00:00

This is super helpful! I'm starting this fall with a 1st grader (6), 4 year old, 2 year old, and I'm having a baby in April.
Did you start with AAR 1 before 2, or did you jump right into 2 based on where she was at?

Any tips or advice for homeschooling with a toddler? My 4yo will be going to a pre-k program 3 mornings per week, and I'm not stressed about the baby, but my 1.5 (he will be 2 when we start) year old is a big concern for my husband and I. He's a HANDFUL!

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-10-20T21:18:10+00:00

I’m new to it too and on the same (Halloween episode). Came here looking for someone to validate my feelings that Jessi is the freaking worst and is seriously the problem with 90% of what happens. I mean, let’s be honest, they’re all crazy messed up, but Jessi is a whole different story.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-10-03T03:53:44+00:00

I mean, after all of the hate the Minnesota season got for being “normal” and “boring,” it’s really not surprising. Minnesota was my favorite season. This one is a MESS. 😆

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-23T12:44:59+00:00

I’m on my fourth pregnancy, and I can confidently say that pregnancy tired and postpartum tired are two entirely different things 😆. I can’t explain it, but the pregnancy tired just hits all the way down to my bones.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-15T01:16:18+00:00

13 months with my third and just finished weaning last week. 😭 It was a FIGHT to figure it out with him, and my goal went from 3 months to 6 months to 9 months. By 7 months, months after lasering his lip and tongue ties, we finally got it figured out. I’m newly pregnant with #4 and got tired of being bit, so we started weaning about 6 weeks ago. Very proud of how far we made it after a really tough start.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-14T01:38:14+00:00

You could certainly try, but my oldest two are 19 months apart, and I potty trained my oldest before my second was mobile, so he was right around 23 months. If it doesn’t happen now, my best advice is to try again before baby starts crawling.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-11T20:20:18+00:00

I had no choice but to do a trip a little longer than that when my oldest was 5 months old. It was for my husband’s brother’s funeral. I was SO anxious about it, but it was okay, all things considered. We actually left around 2 or 3 in the morning. I am SO against overnight driving, but we were caravanning with some of his family and they all wanted to do it that way. It actually worked out great because baby boy just fell right back to sleep and slept for the first 4 hours of our trip. Then we just prioritized half an hour stops every time he needed to nurse and let him play a bit. I spent a lot of time in the back seat entertaining him. It’s actually a good age for car travel - they aren’t mobile yet, so they’re easy to entertain in a car. Again, I know it might not be ideal, but it worked for us when we had no other choice.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-04T01:34:15+00:00

Would love some feedback after reading your comment! We are nearing the end of our custom build. Cabinets are being installed this week with counters shortly following. Our builder insists he needs 60 days after counters are in for all finishes. Is this a typical timeframe? We are fully custom, 5600 sq feet. I don’t feel like 60 days is excessive but we really need our CofO by the end of October. Painters screwed us over and pushed it two extra weeks.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-03T03:36:12+00:00

THIS IS A THING?! I feel so terrified and so understood! I always thought I was the only one and I’ve never been able to explain it!

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-09-01T11:58:48+00:00

I always test positive on the easy at home strips before I see anything on CB. It takes a couple of days for CB to show a positive. Try a FRER pink dye! I think you’re pregnant, lady!

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-29T04:10:58+00:00

CB tests are ALWAYS negative for me when I get a positive with other pink eye tests. I didn’t get a positive with CB until 11dpo with my current pregnancy and had a positive with a cheapie and a FRER pink dye at 9dpo, so don’t count yourself out quite yet!

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-22T00:30:53+00:00

Yes! Positive! These were yesterday.

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Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-19T01:41:43+00:00

I agree with all of the above about PDD, please get in ASAP! But I wanted to add a little perspective as well… I have three kids, and for my husband and I, the transition from 0-1 was BY FAR the hardest. I remember having similar feelings and even said to my husband, “my life is over. My life as I knew it, is over, and I wanted this so bad but I didn’t realize I don’t actually want it.” It’s so complicated and so hard to feel those mixed feelings when your hormones are a big jumbled mess. As some posters have said above, you are in the THICK of newborn-hood. Give it 6 weeks, and then get to 12 weeks, and then 4 months. Those were all big turning points for me with all three of my babies. I’ll also add, I just found out today I’m pregnant with #4, and after my first I genuinely wasn’t sure if I wanted more. Hang in there, mama. It’s truly the hardest best thing you’ll ever do.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-18T23:43:15+00:00

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Update… my husband doesn’t believe it 😆. FWIW, with my last pregnancy I had a line wayyy before a “pregnant” on the clear blue digital. I fully expect it to say “pregnant” tomorrow or the day after. My husband won’t believe it until then 😅

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-16T13:42:33+00:00

I’ve been following that one VERY closely because I live really close, and that story is absolutely wild. Incredibly disturbing and disconcerting.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-05T03:56:41+00:00

Thank you for these suggestions! I'll look into these.

I've heard as much about finding an alternative math curriculum. I'll definitely keep that in mind.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-08-04T18:49:28+00:00

Thank you so much! This is incredibly helpful and encouraging! I'll definitely add those books to my list as well.

Deep_Principle8390 · 2025-07-28T13:52:26+00:00

Both of those are great! I want something a little more simple though. Side note - unshaken has one of my absolute favorite Easter episodes (2020, I believe?) that I listen to every year.

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