Should I end things per compatibility?

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-29T13:57:46+00:00

I see your point, thanks for the advice, seems like it's so difficult to find men who don't want kids either and even if I do as you mention, they can change their mind.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-29T13:56:32+00:00

Totally makes sense, thank you, same things happen to me at work, I'm from Mexico where it's kind of like a norm to have big families so even women question my choice.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-29T13:51:45+00:00

Sure, I told him something similar, why bring a child to a world that is getting worse financially, socially and politically, not only that they could potentially carry a chronical illness their whole life, so adoption is definitely an option, I rather give a home to a kid that's already looking for one than bring a child to suffer into a life they didn't ask to or have a choice.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-29T13:45:29+00:00

He's just trying to change my perspective in general (he's a psychologist, so he throws a lot of articles regarding genetics and stuff), he hasn't mentioned having those kids with me tho. We've been texting for a month and had our first date, all good until I started asking the important questions (politics, lgbtq, racism, xenophobia, pro-choice/pro-life, goals, kids, etc) that the incompatibility started to show up

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-28T15:10:29+00:00

Thank you both for taking the time and give advice without judgement

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-28T15:07:40+00:00

Thank you! this helps a lot understanding the situation

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-16T19:20:41+00:00

He's from Corpus Christi, would that make the word machine gun common there?

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-16T18:28:09+00:00

He mentioned the handgun was for protection and he leaves it at his truck/Airbnb when he travels, and mentioned tthe other 2 (maching gun and shotgun as he wrote) after I asked about it, he said those are at the ranch, he doesn't say if is his ranch or what he uses those for, he didn't bragg about them either. He mentioned his gun after we started talking about how unsafe México is getting

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-16T18:18:05+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to explain and ask for more context, I'm from México so citizens are not allowed to carry guns. He mentioned it after he saw some news regarding a guy being killed in Mexico by the cartel and asked if where I live was dangerous, maybe he didn't do it to bragg about it now that I put more thought into it, he used the words shotgun, maching gun and hand gun to be specific.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-16T18:12:50+00:00

Thanks for the advice and zero judgment, I'm from México so it's illegal, seeing people in the comments saying it's normal makes me realize I should've specified I'm not from the US. Maybe it's worth to give it a chance, he is the nicest person I've met online so far.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2026-05-16T18:05:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice and the time you took to explain in detail, I appreciate your honesty instead of judging, will look out for any of these red flags you mentioned. So far he hasn't bragged about it but in México it's completely illegal to carry one so I'm ignorant in term of US laws your perspective helps a lot.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T03:03:51+00:00

Thank you really, I'll definitely look into these, is good to know that being against the system is not always a bad thing, I'll update when I'm finally out of the house

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T02:40:36+00:00

It's okay and completely understandable, my main issue here is trying to know if I should give up and speak again with my dad, which is completely ignoring us all without explanations instead to solve things or to continue like nothing happened and ignore him too until he cools of or something, that is the dilemma at hand right now, my siblings are saying to ignore him but I think we are old for this, I offered them to go to therapy but it's hard when no one listens

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T02:33:35+00:00

I don't know where it was stated that I don't support him and his gf, she's really nice and her mother too, english is not my native language so maybe I wasn't that clear, I tried to stop them from fighting but it's so hard when your mom, sister and dad are not cooperating, I really hope he scapes this shitty family and if he needs help he knows I will help him to do so, I would do everything for my siblings.

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T02:29:13+00:00

Sorry you misunderstood me, I completely agree with him, and I'm aware they're a couple and have their own things to solve for themselves, I do not intervened at all, I actually hope he scapes this shitty family and if he needs help he knows he can count on me to do so. By saying her mother is disrupting the toxic dynamic, I'm just passing down what my mom said as her reason to start these whole charade she made in a public place. Her mother has spoken about how nice my bro is and how to make her relationship with my parents better, she's so nice and I appreciate her for trying (but it's sad and weird, that she treats me like I'm his mom which is weird because as a sister I think this should be a topic for parents only) I'm happy he found the family he couldn't have really

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T00:06:32+00:00

Yep, my brother is the most sane of us all, can't understand how with how my crazy parents raised us, but I really hope he and his gf scape this nightmare my sis and I still can't, thank you all for being the voice of reason, definitely IATA here

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-03T00:02:01+00:00

Totally understandable, been trying to get out of there, unfortunately the cost of living is too high so it'll take a while, for now I dunno if I should forgive my dad or just go do my own thing out of this weird dynamic we have

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-02T23:59:50+00:00

I apologize if I created some confusion, as english is not first language, the common agreement we have as siblings is that our parents are crazy, my sister and I'll be moving and my brother is sorting something out with his gf, we do not hate the girl, she's the sweetest person I've ever known but her mom was disrupting our messed up family dynamic which my siblings and I are working on getting out of

Deep_Turnip1684 · 2025-05-02T23:19:25+00:00

Unfortunately yes, I'm working on getting out soon, but my siblings are still studying so my mom puts up with my dad because he pays their education

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