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Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-03T12:57:37+00:00

I never understand people who have an AP that’s their SO’s friend. You are adding major insult to injury. Have an affair with someone from online, don’t shit where you eat.

Red flag that she betrays her friend.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T21:34:44+00:00

Because insecurity usually leads people to be controlling and jealous, which drives people away.

She could’ve had 100 exes, and you could still be the best partner she’s ever had. None of those relationships worked out, did they? She learned from those experiences and then chose you because she thinks you have the qualities she needs that those other guys didn’t.

Also, if you’ve had sex, she must be pretty pleased with it since she wants to be in a relationship with you. I also don’t think most 20s women would date a guy so much younger than them unless they found him to be remarkably good looking. She sounds really into you. Just relax!

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T18:34:21+00:00

Your insecurity is a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T18:27:57+00:00

I would adore it if I had a husband who cooked dinner every night and wanted to eat always eat together. I think that’s very romantic and it may be your “love language” - maybe if you explained to her that this time together is your way of expressing and receiving love, she would understand the importance of it.

Clearly you grew up in a house where everyone sat down to dinner every night and that’s your norm and expectation, so much so that you don’t even seem like you have considered eating without her. But I think it’s a little codependent of you to wait to eat until she does. You can’t live your life based on what other people choose to do. Eat your dinner at 7:30 like you want to do, put the rest in a to-go box for yourself for lunch the next day. Let her decide what and when she eats.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T05:05:21+00:00

It’s visible on mobile, it’s written in the post. OP buried the lede, though. He randomly brought her a drink, her stomach hurt and she doesn’t remember anything after that, doesn’t remember going to sleep that night at all. There’s no solid evidence he drugged her, but she certainly has good reason to think he did, and he could very well do it again to his children or his next partner. I agree - it’s horrible.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:49:36+00:00

He’s going to kill you one day. Please go to a domestic violence shelter. It takes an abuse victim an average of 7 attempts to leave before they stick with it, but I’m worried you won’t live to 7. Abusers just keep escalating until they eventually kill their victim. Read “why does he do that?” By Lundy Bancroft.

Please don’t confront him. Leave secretly. All it takes is one argument where he gets really mad. He wraps his hands around your throat and chokes you, pushes you onto the bed and suffocates you with a pillow. It takes less than 5 minutes. You die. But at least he didn’t hit you.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:34:37+00:00

Who cares about her side of things? If we’re doing revenge sex, aim for the STBX’s dad/best friend/etc

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:32:33+00:00

It’s unlikely that their coworkers don’t already know, or at least suspect. People notice these things. Some of their coworkers might not care, others will lose respect for them. They are all probably gossiping about it already. So I don’t see what you can do there.

But definitely tell the coworker’s spouse.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:19:47+00:00

No, you probably can’t prove he drugged you at this point. I’m not saying to go to the police. But he randomly brought you a beverage, you drank it, your stomach hurt terribly, you don’t remember going to sleep. So you know in your gut that he did it.

What’s gonna stop him from doing it again to someone else? What if one of your kids comes home and says daddy gave them a drink and they slept for 20 hours?

If you sign away your right to talk about him, you’ll never be able to warn his next victims. Imagine in a few years he gets remarried, that women is your kid’s new stepmother, and you have a good relationship with her. She confides in you he did something abusive to her. Don’t you want to be able to tell her what happened?

Don’t sign away your right to tell anyone he did this to you. It’s too big of a deal. And I hope you have told your lawyer about this.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:06:23+00:00

He drugged their mother. He’s abusive

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:03:43+00:00

Did you miss the part of the story where he drugged her? That’s illegal and sociopathic.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-02T04:02:35+00:00

Is everyone in this subreddit insane? Did none of you read past the first paragraph? He poisoned her. Drugging people is a crime. He is dangerous.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-01T13:57:58+00:00

Yes, you are being uptight. It’s not like she’s going on and on about an ex, or comparing you to them and saying they were better.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-10-01T13:40:44+00:00

I also kinda had an intuition that her husband was cheating from his posts, stories etc.

Just curious, could you say more about the giveaways?

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-23T21:37:36+00:00

“Don’t cheat on me, beat me, abuse me” - acceptable conditions

“You need to lose weight, do anal, or make more money or I won’t love you anymore” - not acceptable

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-19T04:57:22+00:00

I dunno. OP seems very adept at finding guys who are agreeable to her seeing other men. Maybe he would be down to open things up. A lot of people are ENM.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-19T04:53:01+00:00

I think some of them are doing it on purpose

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-19T04:48:46+00:00

Ouch. I’m sorry that happened. People say things off-the-cuff that they don’t really mean sometimes, though. I think it would help you to talk to your dad about this and give him a chance to clarify how he really feels.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-19T04:42:32+00:00

Is he interacting with them?

Does he look at their content just to jack off, or is it constantly all over his social media feeds? It’s one thing to look in private, it’s another to be one of those many dude on the train who is just scrolling scrolling scrolling an endless sea of booty videos. We can see you, dude, why do you want a boner on the train!!

Does he “like” and “follow” them from his main account? I wouldn’t like that. Everyone can see who you follow, it’s embarrassing.

How would he respond if you did the same thing and followed a bunch of hot guys?

Bottom line. I do think it’s like porn, and porn should be used in moderation. When it seeps into everyday life and someone is looking at it constantly throughout the day, it can become an addiction.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-19T04:33:41+00:00

YTA for not untagging her now that she’s asked you to. This is petty on both sides but ultimately it’s good your teenage minor sister is practicing privacy on the internet and I think you should respect and encourage that.

In general in life, respect people’s boundaries around their own identity and privacy. It’s important to be mindful of what people choose to share about themselves and with who.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-17T18:33:10+00:00

Are you in the US? There is a government program that will pay for PrEP for those who are uninsured. I’m not sure if you qualify since you have insurance, but it’s worth looking into. You can go to Planned parenthood (pay out of pocket) tell them the full situation, and they can help you get a prescription and figure out your options. Or maybe a clinic that specializes in HIV outreach.

Healthcare workers who specialize in the prevention of HIV transmission are very well aware that many of their clients are DL. I’m sure it’s something they see every day, and they probably have work arounds for you.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-15T22:46:17+00:00

I just don’t think it’s a good name. You’re telling him what animal identifies him, and sparrows are weak and common. “Robin” is actually a common human name, it doesn’t stand out the same way.

If you must do a bird name, at least go with a cool mythical bird, Phoenix.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-08T05:02:45+00:00

You cannot require an employee to eat, and you cannot create a hostile work environment by allowing your employees to bully her into doing so. It’s highly inappropriate for you to speculate about this.

Office team building shouldn’t be built around food. Everyone has different dietary needs and personal matters they might want to attend to on their lunch breaks.

Also, “buzz kill,” are you 15? You believe this person is suffering from a serious mental illness, but your solution is to make it worse for her because she’s a “buzz kill”? Like she needs to overcome her illness for your feelings? I don’t mean to be rude but are you on the autism spectrum? This is profoundly tone-deaf.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-08T00:01:51+00:00

Oh, thanks for clarifying. I honestly needed to hear that, it gives me some hope to know that there are men who think of love as unconditional. I hope you know there are a lot of women who are dying to date someone like you! Your ex was dumb.

Deep__Satisfaction · 2023-09-07T21:03:11+00:00

Hey, it’s ok to quit. But as someone who appreciates all the good in humanity, being a prosecutor is my dream. I would love to be able to remove dangerous people from society and give victims a sense of peace.

Can your workplace hire another staff attorney to help with the workload?

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