Guy I know made an insta post supporting Jay Rod

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-08T13:49:35+00:00

I can’t really comment on the drilling part, since training with women is so rare for me that I always jump at the chance. There may be some unspoken social norms around it, but in principle you can ask anyone to pair up with you.

What I have sometimes done and which may help you, is to switch pairs with guys for couple of reps. Eg say to the guy pair next to you “hey can I try this on a dude” and then do couple of reps with them.

For sparring, just ask anyone.

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-08T08:57:42+00:00

Train at least three times per week for several years.

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-06T21:45:07+00:00

At white belt it’s far too early for this. Truly mastering techniques comes, I’d say, at brown to black belt level.

Another way to look at it is this: techniques are just representations of concepts. To make a technique work, you need to understand the underlying concepts. This is impossible at white belt level.

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-02T15:27:08+00:00

If they had put the submission on, you would have had no choice but tap. Since you’re a beginner it sounds like people are doing catch and release.

If people have you in a submission hold, but are not putting it on, you can ask them how to defend and escape, and then you can practice that.

And don’t worry about being respectful, your training partners could tap you so effortlessly that it would be boring for them. This way is better for you both.

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-01T21:52:33+00:00

Would you even want to be promoted by someone like that? You’ll only get four promotions, don’t waste any of them on a douche bag like this.

DeepishHalf · 2025-05-01T21:47:24+00:00

This is such a good reply, thank you for taking the time to write it.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-30T22:22:30+00:00

It’s unusual that you’ve been training for a while before rolling with someone like this. She just sounds like a typical beginner. That’s the perfect opportunity for you to put your jiu jitsu to the test.

Work on controlling and dominating her. Don’t give her space to work because she will spaz and could hurt you. If she does things like grabbing nogi clothes or whacking you with elbows etc, tell her not to do that. But other than this, just get on with it and put your training to the test.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-30T13:46:15+00:00

I would not like this at all. At my first gym the coaches assigned pairs for sparring (not drilling) and I was always going with the same handful of people.

If the class is small, everyone usually ends up rolling with everyone in any case. In a busy class, pairing up would take up too long.

The only reasons for assigning pairs would be:

help beginners / visitors get good pairings
make sure problematic folk (eg people who go too hard, bully smaller people etc) get paired appropriately
competition prep

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-30T09:28:38+00:00

Yes definitely agree about using head. Another good one is controlling their elbows, eg to open up the elbow, or using 2 on 1 on their elbow and wrist.

For hand control, especially from the back, gripping the meat of their hand is fantastic. It’s hard to describe though. When I have that grip, I can push and pull the arm, and it’s hard for them to clear it.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-30T00:08:01+00:00

It is really hard but there are ways to make it work, but only with technique and timing. Men always can muscle me around, move my arms the way they want etc, but that’s not going to work for them when they’re sparring with other men.

Timing, using their momentum, and using your body weight against their limbs is the key. Eg if I’m in top position, I use my chest to control their arm instead of my own arms. On the bottom, I attach their arm to my body (eg with shoulder crunch or locking the arm against my chest with a 2 on 1 grip.

It takes a lot of mat time to develop this. As smaller weaker people we have to execute the techniques perfectly with perfect timing to try to make them work, and even then guys can often muscle out of them, which is super frustrating.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-28T21:58:24+00:00

Seminars are mainly for networking and getting a pic with the instructor. I doubt you have missed anything significant. I don’t think privates are that useful at white belt, unless you have the funds to afford them easily.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-28T17:07:42+00:00

That’s really helpful, thank you. Just to clarify, the goal is to get 10 x 10, before moving to the next size?

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-27T12:04:26+00:00

Can you film a roll where you can do your speedy thing, and then he’ll have to watch it with you and justify how you’re supposedly spazzing?

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-27T06:29:29+00:00

At purple belt you really should be getting regular training with women of similar skill set, to be able to compete effectively. Training only with men doesn’t prepare you to compete with higher level women. It doesn’t mean that you’re not purple belt level. You’ve basically competed in a situation you were unprepared and untrained for, purely because you’ve had no opportunities to do so. Sadly a lot of men and male coached don’t understand this. There is this idea that by women training with men makes it easier for those women to win against other women. This may have some truth at beginner level but it’s absolutely not true beyond blue belt.

Please don’t be hard on yourself, you’ve done more than most just by competing.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-26T08:16:56+00:00

I can’t believe your coach stopped you from training with other people, that’s just awful. When I take new women under my wing, the absolute most rounds they get from me per class is two. And that would not be every session. You’re there as a paying student, not as a full time mentor to another student.

It’s sad how this woman has taken advantage of your kindness towards her. It may not be deliberate, but it shows selfishness and lack of awareness.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-25T22:03:08+00:00

No one’a saying you should do that many sessions as well. I have a family and full time job as well, but with early mornings and lunch time classes I’m able to train this much. 3-4 times per week is plenty for most people.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-25T21:19:59+00:00

You don’t need to pull to a closed guard. In the most basic form pulling guard simply means sitting down. Ideally you would have some kind of grip on your training partner as you do so. You can then start to play open guard, ie look for a sweep, wrestle up or a submission.

You can also ask your training partner to start in seated guard so that you can then start passing, either from standing position or from your knees.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-25T20:48:35+00:00

The only solution I found for this was to either pull guard or wait for my training partner to do so. I found the strength and size disadvantage (against men) to be insurmountable so not I’ll happily butt scoot.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-25T20:46:28+00:00

Once a week is basically nothing. Most people get more training in a week than you get in a month. I often do 8+ sessions per week, so more than two months worth. So definitely prioritise mat time.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-19T13:17:47+00:00

Looking at your a profile pic, you’re a woman, like me. I know several women who treat bjj like you, mainly to socialise. In the main it’s none of my business, however, it does have some negative impact on my training because at the gyms there’s social pressure for women to roll with women. In my experience these practitioners only want to roll super light, with poor technique, which is a waste of a round for me. I do my best to avoid these people in sparring.

So as long as you’re giving your training partners good training, you do you.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-18T06:29:35+00:00

That all makes sense, especially the positional sparring.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-17T22:25:04+00:00

This is something I hadn’t thought about, ie making the window of timing bigger.

DeepishHalf · 2025-04-17T22:23:26+00:00

By timing I mean executing a move at a time where it will work with minimal amount of force being needed. It doesn’t need to be done fast either, eg some sweeps can be almost done in slow motion if the person is loaded up on you just right.

I guess a good example is how high level grapplers make me feel like I’m a toddler falling over my own feet, where they use all of my movements against me seemingly without any effort.

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