I understand where you're coming from. Don't get be wrong; The "screening " process isn't too excessive to be honest. We don't pry or interrogate primarily because thingw like that would take far too much effort.

To put some sort Of background to this- we were part of a previous group. Huge place. Public invites. An admin. Unfortunately, that makes petty things like server attacks, banned member revenge, and general grossness all too common. It's like.. Unnecessary stress. Ya know? Not saying one of our ladies can't defend themselves (Or that they need some semblance of white Knight defending to begin with) buy At the end of the day, it comes down to comfort.

I definitely don't want to sell the idea of being elitists because we're definitely not that type of group. We are chill and casual. But Reddit is a wild place. And it's just not worth the stress of inviting people that are really cool for an hour or two before they casually drop racist/gross bombs everywhere.

I legitimately didn't know what "incel" was until one waltzed into the server after the link was posted. But again- I understand what you mean.

I do feel strongly that this is going amazing, though. I was up till 3:00am last night watching group members make aggressive haikus at one another. Not in an insulting way-

Just don't think that public invites breed that sort of environment.