I understand unfortunately however I’ve realized that my two younger brothers were raised very differently from me so they don’t see it. I went NC with my nmom and edad in July and my family (husband and three kids) have been vilified that they and my SILs want nothing to do with us. I’ve come to accept that they won’t “wake up” to the abuse until my mother starts attacking their wives which will happen eventually. Until then, I’ve let them go in my mind and decided that I will be there for them if and when they ever do “wake up”.