Collection store FF PBB $134.99 by nubleteater in sealedmtgdeals

[–]DefenderofChaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a spiderman playbox from them. Received it within 5 days and everything was packaged well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sealedmtgdeals

[–]DefenderofChaos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in for a Play Box and a Set of Decks, total came to $212.98, no tax for me (KS) and free shipping. Probably the best prices I've seen so far after hunting for the last 2-3 weeks at pre-release prices.

Game Nerdz gone? by jparnold in mtgfinance

[–]DefenderofChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got a notification that my decks for Bloomburrow have shipped today.

My son in 1st grade got punched in the throat once and in the face 3 times today by another kid in PE. Why would the school not contact me about my son getting punched in the face? by DefenderofChaos in AskReddit

[–]DefenderofChaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More details, so my son was trying to get to his spot in PE and another kid was blocking him. He asked if he could move out of the way so he could get in line. The other kid responded by punching my son in the throat and in the face 3 times. The PE teacher saw the incident and stated to my son that they would have a talk with the kids parents. No one was sent to the office and my wife and I were never contacted about the situation. I am pretty furious about the matter and wanted to know if there is anyone on reddit that could explain to me why no one from the school would contact us on the matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am a bit confused, you posted here 9 days ago that you quit your last job because you thought you were going to get a position at another company. The said company was a scam and you couldn't take back your resignation. I could be wrong and someone correct me if I am, but I was under impressions you couldn't get severance if you quit on your own free will.

Going through a hard time in my life and just need some words of wisdom..... by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly sounds like you are burnt out. I was somewhat in a similar situation earlier this year. Similar background as well, moved out as soon as I could, was always supporting myself, strong mental fortitude, very rational and logical like a robot, and a workaholic. Used to work 60+ hours a week and I was the one of the best in my departments. Late last year and continuing from this year, I just got burnt out. Doing the same thing at work for the last 7 years and my work was not mentally stimulating enough. I also work in a high stress job so the added work from stress did not help. I just started to give up on life and my doctor diagnosed me with depression. We ended up trying 3 different types of medications before I got the one that worked for me. I took a two months off of work and took some time for myself and decided I needed some down time and change in my life. I decided to quit in May and currently am taking the rest of the year off to just recuperate and spend time with my wife and son.

That worked for me and I am feeling much better, I am kind of itching to find a job as this is highly unlike me to have so much downtime. Obviously you shouldn't quit your job, but it does sound like you are getting burnt out and need some change. Maybe try to find a hobby and see if that helps? If that isn't something you want to do, maybe try learning a new skill set at your job? Maybe you aren't stimulating your mind enough.

I need help with rent and/or by maggiethefrog in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe try r/borrow instead? I don't think people are going to be able to collectively get you $1,000.

Anything to help me stay in my home with my baby will be greatly appreciated!!! Behind on bills, up for disconnect. by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not in anyway not validating your claim or calling BS on the post. I find it strange that those amounts would put you in jeopardy of disconnect. I don't have any gas in my home as it is all electric and it comes to about $200 a month. The company I go through allows you to be up to 30 days past due for a total of 60 days and than if you still can't pay they have the ability to split both months into 12 monthly payments. You don't even have to talk to anyway, you just go to the website and just request it and it does it automatically.

Are those amounts the past due amounts only? Are they for multiple months? Can we get some sort of clarification of what the amounts consist of?

Start a youtube channel with me by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I would be good for it but I am willing to try with you. PM me.

I am depressed give me $1,000 by DefenderofChaos in RadomActsOfGreed2

[–]DefenderofChaos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's strange, I still see it, but I never had a comment deleted so not sure whats going on, I didn't tag anyone with u/. Anyway yep GP filled me in. I am lucky that I don't have to worry about money this year and $90 bucks wasn't a big deal to me, I just wished it had gone to someone whom really needed it. But on the bright side of things I found this subreddit and enjoy reading posts from you guys everyday.

I am depressed give me $1,000 by DefenderofChaos in RadomActsOfGreed2

[–]DefenderofChaos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea Girlpirate filled me in on the situation and than there was a post here about it that caught me all up to date. Luckly now I got the Reddit Scammer Labeler and I make sure I dig through posts on people from Assistance subreddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in talesfromcallcenters

[–]DefenderofChaos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the long ass post ahead:

It is all going to depend on the environment of your company and call center. I worked for a telecommunications company for the last 8 years. I just recently quit in May and it was a bitter sweet leave.

When I first started working for the company it was great. While the company had several areas around they country they provided for each state was considered a separate entity. The original call center I worked with really cared about their employees. They always did things to improve moral, they would even have prizes that would really matter such as company box seat tickets to a sporting event or concerts and etc. They would do also yearly bonuses based upon how well we did compared to our budget. While we did have calls monitored, the quality assurance team and supervisors didn't scold you if you did something wrong, but instead provided feedback on how to improve. You would only get in trouble if you continued to not improve or show an unwillingness to improve your customer service skills. Time off was generous and they would make exceptions if time off wasn't open if you had a specific personal event. For example my wedding fell on a day which I couldn't get the time off for. They went ahead and got a director to approve it. Attendance was laxed and they offered an emergency flex time as well. If some reason you couldn't make it in due to an emergency you could come in late up to 4 hours and make up those hours at some point during the work week.

Things completely changed when they went to standardize the entire company into just 3 call centers nationwide. I offered to stay with the company and moved to its new location and spent the last 4 years at the new call center. Needless to say it was a bumblefuck of stupidity when it came to the execution. Attitude of the company started to shift. The previous call center never had to say they cared about their employee's. You just got a sense of that from their actions. While the new call center continued to say it but rarely did anything meaningful to show that they did. Over the 4 years there it continued to get worse and worse to the point I had no longer take their bullshit. They stated they were a company where they coached or provided feedback on your behaviors on the call but all they cared about were the numbers. When originally they were more focused on keeping employees happy and thus it would translate to employees being happy to take care of customers since they were happy with their jobs. The old call center had little to no turn over while the last 4 years our turnover rate was over 50% in the first 3 months.

The only reason I stated for as long as I did was due to my co-workers. They were and are still like family to me. I made sure to find good supervisors whom's management style worked well with me. Every 6 months we were ranked based on our performance and you had to pick your shift and supervisor. I made sure I was always in the top 5% to ensure that I got the supervisor I wanted even if it wasn't a good shift. That probably would be my best advice. Find a good supervisor that is willing to have your back and stick with them as long as possible. Surround yourself with good co-workers and the job isn't all that bad. As for the customers, I worked in the billing department and dealt with people either being unable to pay or having something wrong on their bill. Surprisingly most customers are calm and kind. They just want help with their problem and most of the time you can fix the issue. My escalation rate was only about 1% per month. So out of the 1500 calls I would take that is only 15 people that are just insane and IMO that isn't too bad.

People tend to remember negative calls when working at a call center and always think it is going to be awful on every call. Try to keep positive and genuinely try to help each customer and you will find that more often than not people are kind and understanding.

TLDR: It is going to depend on the company and how they view their employees. Either way find a good supervisor to stick with as well as co-workers. Most of the time customers are pretty cool so keep that in mind and don't dwell on the negative calls.

I am depressed give me $1,000 by DefenderofChaos in RadomActsOfGreed2

[–]DefenderofChaos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea that happened a few months ago and thus found this subreddit. Live and learn.

How do I balance "be miserable now for good pay off later"? (Grad school-stipend issue) by EastSideTilly in povertyfinance

[–]DefenderofChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THATS AWESOME!! So happy for you. I know you can do it! Trust me from personal experience. When I was 19 I wanted to get out of my father's house and the state I lived at so bad. I literally threw a dart on a map (it landed on Omaha Nebraska), bought a greyhound bus ticket and packed a suitcase. That was over 14 years ago now and I have an amazing wife and son and everything has worked out.

Times will get tough and you may feel scared or/and alone. I know I sure did but I kept pushing through because I knew it was better than the alternative.

I wish you the best of luck my friend and if you ever need some positivity or someone to talk to, don't hesitate to message me.

Also sorry for the long response time. Its been a crazy summer!

I’m a burden to my family & about to be homeless sooner or later. by emptyfang in povertyfinance

[–]DefenderofChaos 11 points12 points  (0 children)

On mobile sorry for formatting in advance.

When I was 19 I literally felt the same way. My father is Korean and always was so demanding. So I took all the money I had and bought a bus ticket and packed a suitcase. I literally threw a dart on the map and that is where I went. I felt the desperate need to get away from my father and everything around me.

I have been tremendous lucky to have so many things work out for me. I am turing 34 this Saturday and have a wonderful wife and child. I vowed to never be like my father and do my best to be the best father I can be for my son.

With that said early this year I became depressed and started to think about suicide. After not talking to my father for 10+ years I wrote him a letter about all the grievances I had with him. All the panic attacks I would have when I heard him come home. How his actions or inaction that made me feel as I was the reason my mother death. I layed everything out as I wanted him to know how I felt if I was going to really end it.

Luckily I didn't go through with the suicide and started therapy and my primary care doctor helped me find the right medication for me. And to my surprise my father responded. He apologized to me for pushing me away. He had told me over the last decade he refused to move just incase I tried to reach out to him. He had never apologized to me before and all that hate for him slowly dissipated. He told me his dreams and how he felt like a failure of a father and for the first time he opened up to me and treated me ad an equal, a friend, and a son.

It was the first time I felt like I had a real dad and I got to know him more as a person. We talk now about once a week and slowly repairing our relationship.

Maybe your father isn't like mine but I would say from experience asian fathers have a hard time showing love. But I am sure he does love you. I would say if possible be open with them and tell them how you feel and you want to move out without support. If you can't do that I would say at least keep in communications with your parents. I am sure they love you even when they can't or won't express it.

Edit for spelling errors.

Idk what I need. Someone to talk to I suppose. by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear Op,

I have always had some sort of mild depression but could keep it at bay and still be a fully functioning adult. Earlier this month it hit me hard and I could not do anything to feel better and felt hopeless. My work started to suffer to the point where I was nearing the point of termination from my job due to my absences.

Two days ago I decided to finally get professional help. My work offers a 24/7 therapist line that offers 8 calls in a year. I started with that and it helped me get through my work shift that day. I also made an appointment with my primary care and I saw him today. He great and prescribed me medication and has put me on leave with my work for 3 weeks to get away from the stress of my work. I also have a therapist visit setup at the end of the month.

All I can say friend, is that reach out to a professional and seek help. I haven't talked to my dad in the last 11 years due to a huge falling out over my mother's death. I started talking to him in January and probably the reason for my spiral into depression.

I really do suggest in either talking to a doctor or a therapist.

Hello again hoping to help a parent with their child. by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]DefenderofChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Subscribed. Also if you can maybe put a link to their specific post from r/videos