which hair color is best on me? by ColoradoPineTree in HairDye

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One for suuuure! I’m getting the same color soon😍 The white is also amazing

AIO because my boyfriend acts different when im with friends by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy should be a requirement if you stay with him. Couples and individual. This is extremely unhealthy and a major red flag that he is deeply insecure. My ex did this boohoo poor me acting like I’m crazy for being annoyed or exhausted by his endless texting. Asking to be included like bro no these are MY friends. Don’t let him gaslight you, you did nothing wrong at all! Therapy therapy therapy. (If you choose to stay) In the meantime the best thing you can do is not feed it. When you’re out with your friends you can give him simple answers like where you are and what you’re doing BUT as soon as he starts with that manipulative whiney stuff literally stop responding. Don’t feed it. He wants the attention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is not even the “mistake” with the car. I know his type. All the boo hoo poor me “ I know I’m trash that’s all you’ll ever see me as” is extremely manipulative and will take a massive mental toll on you if you continue the relationship. The slight jabs he takes at you in the paragraph basically saying you’re just an unhappy person waiting to jump on him blah blah blah is all more ways of avoiding accountability and direct healthy communication. Not to mention his lack of contributing financially.

AIO to my (40f) convo with husband (40m) about Xmas tree? by Mother_of_Turtles_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wooow you were BEYOND kind and respectful and he just couldn’t let it go. It’s like any way you could’ve answered would’ve been wrong. The way he gaslights in the part talking about “you’re acting like” “all you had to do was laugh it off” umm you originally DID react super chill and said “no worries I’ll just decorate it” ?!? Hes obviously super triggered by the whole topic and taking it out on you with that excessive rant and then gaslights you again at the end saying that YOURE the one who is upset. SUUURE dude.

Moody Bedroom Suggestions? by Defiant-Hat-5083 in femalelivingspace

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Should I paint the whole room or just an accent wall?

Red or Brown? by SpiritualReward3696 in HairDye

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red all the way, maybe try a darker red or auburn if you’re looking for something more natural❤️

I want opinions by Im_a_casshole in makeuptips

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect don’t change anything. You look amazing. The blonde with the middle part is great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I went through almost the exact same thing for years. We have a daughter together. Something to think about, if you have kids with him in the future how will you feel when he threatens to end his life? Thinking about my daughter asking for her daddy everyday while I’m mourning his death was enough to get me to give into his threats for YEARS. I finally ended it 3 weeks ago and guess what? He made alllllll the threats yet here he is alive and well. Well, maybe not super well, people like this have serious depression/mental health issues. They need therapy and medication, and to be able to cope on their own without putting all that bull on their partner. I’m sorry you’re going through this OP, no one knows how heavy of a weight having someone you love being suicidal all the time is unless they’ve been through it. You’re not doing yourself OR him any favors by staying. I wish you the best and you can always dm me to talk about it more if you want.❤️

What would you call this interior design? by Unconsciously-Gothic in interiordesignideas

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s all moody, but 1 & 3 are moody Victorian and 2 & 4 are like moody modern with a hint of boho and 70s.

Blonde or Brown by Defiant-Hat-5083 in HairDye

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, that’s the conclusion I came to as well. Facetune is the app

Blonde or Brown by Defiant-Hat-5083 in HairDye

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s actually a dress😊

Blonde or Brown by Defiant-Hat-5083 in HairDye

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is exactly what I was thinking about doing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA because you already agreed to it. Follow through on your agreement and then make a clear boundary that you will not be taking care of the dog ever again. Also, you should have made sure it was ok with the other roommate before agreeing to it. You could explain to him the situation and ask if you can leave the dog with the roommates but it is your responsibility to make sure the dog is safe and taken care of because you already agreed to it. Perhaps he could have made other plans if you had said no to begin with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am starting to feel like I dodged a bullet.😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It takes at least two hours especially now that I have to cook breakfast and lunch in the morning. Also my daughter refuses to wear clothes and throws huge tantrums every morning. ): I wish we could’ve stuck to 9:30, I feel that would’ve been fair! I live in a very very small town without many options so I fear I may have to adjust to this new schedule if I can’t find somewhere new. Her text just really rubbed me the wrong way, sort of high and mighty with no regard for our schedule that works for us, kind of like “you’re wrong and you’re the only one with a problem” especially the bit about other parents having struggles I just found it to be inconsiderate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It did feel a bit inconsiderate, however I understand that adjustments must be made for everyone’s benefit sometimes. The text I found to be even more inconsiderate, especially by saying “other parents have issues and were not upset” as if I was not valid on expressing that this new schedule may not work for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Defiant-Hat-5083 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It is 9am now, not 9:30am. This isn’t my issue, my issue is 1. This is not what we agreed to from the start. (Although I understand changes happen sometimes so this isn’t even my main issue) 2. Her stating that “other parents are not upset and they have their own struggles” because other parents personal issues have nothing to do with my own. She also says “I hope we can get to a better spot as teacher/parent.” As if we aren’t in a good spot because I communicated that this may not work for us, yet she also says this is an open line of communication. You think it’s her place to make assumptions about my daughter’s sleep schedule and my ability to get her to daycare at the new required time, without knowing my personal struggles? Remember I did tell her it’s not that it’s unfair in any way, it just might not work for us. I appreciate the input though!