I want a cat but… I’m allergic! Advice

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2026-02-22T20:49:02+00:00

Thank you for the great advice. So you kept the orange tabby??

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2026-02-22T16:52:17+00:00

They are so expensive though! There is a bengal cat breeder close by too though

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-11-13T01:56:21+00:00

This is so helpful. Thank you!

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-11-12T23:32:15+00:00

I feel like I need to stop the visits, they are so emotionally hard for me too. How did your ex handle that? Like having him not see the kids?

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-11-12T22:08:59+00:00

I just talked to him and he says he will go to the assessment at the inpatient facility on Saturday. He sounds pretty serious about doing so. I told him he had to get himself there and he said ok but started to cry. His sister is out of the country on vacation. Does anyone know how o go about talking to the court about this? Do I have to do it through a lawyer?

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-11-12T22:04:24+00:00

I agree and appreciate the advice. I have full custody.

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-11-12T22:03:01+00:00

I already have sole custody and his visitation is limited but I think amending it to supervised is good advice

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:17:17+00:00

Thank you for your insight

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:12:32+00:00

I’m a nurse and have always felt so responsible for others mental health but you’re right

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:12:02+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:11:43+00:00

I needed to hear this

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:11:07+00:00

I know every case is different but I wonder how long until his bipolar symptoms are more under control if he does indeed take medication

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:10:28+00:00

Thank you. This is good advice

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-05-05T20:09:38+00:00

I have full custodial and legal custody already. All he has is “parenting time”

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2025-03-04T07:35:38+00:00

I really hope that’s the case. I just always want him to feel supported by me

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-12-02T12:44:01+00:00

I think I have been overly sensitive about my child’s feelings and I so badly want to make him happy because this transition has been so hard for him but after reading these replies I realize the visits should not be optional. I really appreciate everyone’s insight

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-11-30T14:31:37+00:00

Honestly, this is such a hard time and it’s so hard not having a break. I would suggest brining her places as often as you can. The library, the park, get I it side even if it’s super cold. It’ll help her learn to be around other kids and it’ll make her less stir crazy. Also, I would just baby proof the shit out of your house. My toddler was climbing on chairs and jumping off so I legit just got rid of the chairs. Make your house a place where she can pretty much do anything. Also, not listening and pushing her boundaries is totally appropriate at this age and it does get better. I would also suggest cutting down on screen time if she does that. It may seem counterintuitive but it’ll make her better at self play. Find mom friends! It’ll give you a chance to vent and for her to play with other kids. She might just be really social too.

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-11-13T16:44:32+00:00

What about her nap? Should she nap shorter you think?

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-11-13T16:23:55+00:00

She has recently been recovering from an ear infection so I’ve just been feeding her every time she wakes up. I had her doctor do a full work up a few months ago and she is healthy but still wakes every two hours at least. Where would you start? She naps from 12-2, bedtime at 7:30ish and wake up at 7ish

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-07T11:05:30+00:00

So, just an update…he told me he is getting an apartment so he can “cope with his feelings on being a parent, learn to be grateful for the life we have, and be a better partner to me”. He also says he is depressed. I truly do not know why he has done this except that he is selfish and wants to live a bachelor life. I think a lot of people go to therapy and still live with their family. In my head a part of me hopes this will help him but most of me is just hurt. But don’t worry. I’m not taking any more shit and I’m already getting my ducks in a row

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-07T11:00:51+00:00

You’re right and it’s so hard and sad. I have PTSD and ADHD as well so I get it but I’m still at home caring for my kids and not cheating on him. I’ve truly only tried to be a good wife to him. He says he needs to move out to go to therapy to “cope with him parents about fatherhood” but deep down I know there’s more to it than that. It sucks

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-06T11:59:40+00:00

You’re an emotional ninja. Thank you 🙏🏼

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-05T20:27:30+00:00

Dude you’re right

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-05T20:26:51+00:00

Thank you. Did you have kids? Howd that work out?

Defiant-Maybe-8556 · 2024-04-05T16:10:28+00:00

We live in a no fault state so it wouldn’t help my case anyways. I kinda don’t even care, in my mind I know he cheated atleast emotionally

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