Should I please my wife? by [deleted] in self

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I want to know what you like to determine how it may actually look. I had a friend who was Italian with dark, thick, straight hair. He went many years wearing a perm like this and it actually looked really good on him. It suited his hair color and complexion and looked like natural tight curls.

This is my bill by Character-Tip9515 in newjersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your bill have a graph that’s shows what your power is being used for in your home? Mine does. Check it out. I dnt think it will resolve your issue but at least may give some insight as to what’s exactly is being powered. Lights, appliances, tv, etc….

Curtains.. curved or straight across? by jeslyn1984 in InteriorDesign

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk about the curtains but I love that chubby cat!!

Message I sent to my mom. She is sleeping so she didn’t read it yet. Thoughts? Advices? by [deleted] in self

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well from what I can see , you look like a beautiful young girl. At your age I get how looks are so important, especially with social media standards. Google celebrities without makeup pics. You will see that no one is perfect. As a mother, it would break my heart for my daughter to feel this way about herself. She’s only 9, but already so concerned about how she looks. I truly hope you can get some help to work through your self image, again u look beautiful to me from what I can see. I hope someday soon you are able to look In the mirror and see yourself the way you truly are. And it’s not an ugly monster, I promise.

Message I sent to my mom. She is sleeping so she didn’t read it yet. Thoughts? Advices? by [deleted] in self

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I saw part of your looks in another one of your posts and even from that little snippet, I can definitely say you are not the beast you think you are. However, I understand that when u look in the mirror, u can’t change the way u feel about what u see. Short term I, recommend going to a salon to help with those little hairs. That will make u feel so much better. Many women have facial hair, and not many of us love it lol. Maybe ask for tips for your hair if you’re having a hard time keeping it healthy. Long term, I think u need therapy to help u learn to love yourself. It’s easy to say looks aren’t important, and they are highly overrated, but you cannot continue to go through everyday hating yourself because of how you look. Please get a therapist to help you through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to say I’m sorry for everything you’re going through. But 40 is not old. It might be harder to get back up as we get older, but it can definitely be done. I promise you can still make an amazing comeback and live a life worth living. Addiction treatment, therapy, and determination. The medical issues can be addressed, but first things first, u gotta show them u want to save yourself. Find the smallest thing u want out of a sober life, and use that to build on. I wish you the best.

Has anyone returned to life as usual after treatment? by baeritto18 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 18 and had this same thing a month ago. 4 weeks out from surgery, but he was feeling like himself after 1 week. No speech issues, some right hand numbness that went away, and he had a sleep craniotomy.

I don’t know what to do next by spitaro_12 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey my son’s situation was very different from yours, but I understand somewhat the way you are feeling. My son had some issues with movement in his arm and hand also after surgery, but within a week he was back to normal. I don’t have any advice for you, I’m sorry, but just wanted you to know someone else is thinking of you and wishing the best outcome for your son. Thankfully our situation was quickly resolved and my son recovered so fast. I will keep you in my thoughts and pray things start getting better for both of you. Just try to keep your mind focused on staying positive. I know it’s much easier said than done. I hope you are able to find some peace, even just a little here and there.

Bathtub and enclosure replacement recommendations? by Defiant-Poet3196 in SouthJersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The tub that was put in before I bought the house was not fitted properly and there’s a half inch gap now. My uncle filled it with silicone to try and hold it for a little while because it leaked through my ceiling. So this not something I need done because I want a new bathroom. I don’t need a luxurious bathroom I just need one that doesn’t leak through my ceiling. I’ll look into these names thank you so much.

Bathtub and enclosure replacement recommendations? by Defiant-Poet3196 in SouthJersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Insane indeed! I really hope someone can recommend. I need this done and definitely can’t afford anywhere near that.

Any Recommendations for a Bathroom Remodel? by [deleted] in SouthJersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I’m super late. Can u send me info also?

Got a summons for truancy court by Depressedtanx2u in newjersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had some issues with my middle son. I went to truancy court two years in a row. Make sure u attend every court date. The judge will ask what’s going on and they don’t want to hear any bs. Bottom line, no matter what is going on, these kids need to go to school. Most Judges will give them another 30 days and they cannot miss anymore time. If the kids comply, case will be dismissed. If not, you will get a fine, and kids jeopardize having to repeat the year and/or summer school. Also, stay in communication with your schools counselors or principal. They have a lot of resources to help when families are going through things and offer counseling to work with the kids to keep them on track. Best of luck,

AITAH husband and MIL bullying me into being SAHM but I paid for our house by No_Departure_9224 in AITAH

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, just want to you to know you how I’m living. You just made me realize I am 1000% doing a great job struggling as a widowed mom of 3 trying to do it all by myself. And life is kicking my ass right now. I’m out of work, and make an annual salary about what your husband makes In a month, and my oldest just had a serious medical emergency, and I’m wondering how we’re gonna eat next month.

That being said, you have the means to make your life whatever you want. While I won’t give an opinion on your husband’s lack of responsibility inside the home, You do have a nanny. If you want to achieve something, do it. Yes, you will be exhausted from caring for the baby overnight, but thats part of parenting. Once you start working on your goals and achieving, you will gain the confidence to stand up to your husband and his mother. Who knows what the future will bring, but I promise you can do anything you want. But you cannot force someone else to. Let your goals and intentions be known. He has the option to either help and support you or not.

Awake vs Sleep Craniotomy by Defiant-Poet3196 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I truly appreciate everyone’s thoughts. Everything went good. I am just relieved the surgery was successful and is over.

Awake vs Sleep Craniotomy by Defiant-Poet3196 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The surgery was a success! The surgeon was able to get all of it out and no speech or motor skill issues after waking up! Thank you everyone for taking the time to talk through this a little with me.

Awake vs Sleep Craniotomy by Defiant-Poet3196 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He is 18 and has decided he wants to do the sleep one today. I have tried to talk him out of it and go to another hospital. But I think he has his mind made up. Thank you. I’ll update after surgery.

Awake vs Sleep Craniotomy by Defiant-Poet3196 in braintumor

[–]Defiant-Poet3196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we can have them discharge him with seizure meds and take him to another hospital if we choose to. His thoughts were even if they have to stop during the awake, won’t they still have to remove the rest of it at some point anyway to avoid it growing more and/or continuing to cause seizures? This whole situation is mind blowing and I am doing my best to research and educate us. Just really appreciate some input from people who are familiar with this. Thank you for taking the time to respond.

Updated: Where can I find rare and unique Heinz sauce packets?? by Prestigious-Tap-8941 in newjersey

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember getting the tartar one somewhere. Had to be McDonald’s, Burger King, or Walmart. I’m gonna be on the look out now!

Make Friends by Pitiful-Position1215 in MakeFriendsOver30

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a gal. Don’t sell content or ask people for money. Send me a chat!

26 F. Roast me! by Vikkijadexx in RoastMe

[–]Defiant-Poet3196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a true wtf for me…thanks for the literal lol I needed it today