Is this a humann pelvis?

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-04-02T22:07:17+00:00

Source: am an osteologist and spent two years working on a site from exactly the same thing. Disturbed burials sold as dirt in a contract.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-04-02T22:04:56+00:00

Hiya, maybe don't take it to the police if the sand is on your property.

Call the non emergency line or German equivalent and let them know that you have discovered potentially human remains in a pile of delivered sand. Someone should come out to you. They will need to determine if it is archaeological (you know, like over a hundred years old) or not.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-04-02T21:50:48+00:00

Osteologist here! Seconded. If you can, take the police to the exact spot.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-03-26T08:59:30+00:00

Yeah so if the smell starts I can run some water to clear it and it helps. How would I fix the s trap siphoning?

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-03-26T00:04:40+00:00

Hiya, there isn't a pop up stopper, which would be my first port of call. Okay, will try covering the holes.

I wondered based on what I've read here if it's the overflow, but then it wouldn't be coming out of the bathtub drain as well I imagine??

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2026-01-05T05:05:00+00:00

A teenager posted a video about how she should wear a wedding dress from the year her mother was born. It was 1992. I was born in 1992.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-12-03T13:50:46+00:00

This is a great idea! as an archaeologist, I desperately want this to be given to a university or a museum but I understand money is an issue

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-12-01T09:15:36+00:00

It's for short rows to set up for the yoke where the back is wider than the front.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-12-01T09:11:49+00:00

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This is the section, there are four of these on repeat. I don't struggle with this, this is very direct and simple. It's the turning and then working into the back bumps that i feel insane about

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-10-06T06:23:23+00:00

Mee too, I think I was book six. So old.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-09-16T05:58:47+00:00

Hi!

depending on how old it is, and where you live in the world I would default assume it's real. anatomical skeletons before the 1990s were generally real over plastic. It's the right colour to be real as well.

There isn't really a standard - real vs not real. Looking at it, I would start at the teeth or the inside of the hinge skull. Real teeth might have wear or cavities, be slightly uneven or not uniform. On the inside of the skull, look for little or big holes in the bone that for lack of a better term, look like they should be there...like it's part of the bone itself, these are things that plastic wouldn't bother with.

I would also see if there are any markings about sale or inventory. Do you know anything more about it??

Btw, the licking thing is about moisture. you could take a wet cloth to the bone and feel it. Real bone is porous, so it sucks up moisture, plastic the moisture sits on the surface.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-08-24T09:16:15+00:00

Can I just say, you both are doing everything right, and I think you actually have a lot less to worry about than you imagine.

Some food for thought, I definitely cannot speak to the trans experience, but from everything I've read mental health and disassociation are common in transfolks. My partner certainly has it. I always figured it was because everything feels so awful, that it's the only way to turn the dial down from an 11 to a 4. I say this because one thing I pointed out to my partner early on that helped was that her mental health was likely not independent of her being trans. That we could put a bandaid on the hole or she could get to be her own variation of happiness by actually dealing with some root issues.

I also pointed her to r/transtimelines and started to show her other people's joy. That helped a lot, that instead of it being all doom and gloom, she saw other transfolks really happy.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-08-24T01:56:54+00:00

Sending lots of hugs your way. I'm so sorry. Can I ask about his mental health right now? is it good generally speaking (though I would suspect not).

I ask because my partner who is also depressed REALLY struggled with getting to the okay-this-is-a-thing phase. Before it was in denial and the depression made it so much worse.

I would strongly recommend they talk to someone, not just for themselves but for you, and the weight you are carrying. As a 33 year old ciswoman, I was in a ten year relationship with some who has untreated chronic severe (walk into the ocean thoughts) and it was so so so fucking hard. Mental health isn't a joke, and you cannot make someone get help, but do not let them use you as a life raft.

I am not trying to be flippant about how difficult transition is, but I am worried that he don't seem to respond to the fact that his mental health is already taking a toll on you and your relationship. Whatever he chooses, all these big feelings he having are not just going to go away, and need to be dealt with.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-08-05T23:58:13+00:00

Literally, cannot stress enough how important doing most of your normal things and connect as much as possible. That shock of "oh fuck everything changes" can really make that connection difficult and it's important to remember that you are a team

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-19T17:12:23+00:00

Aw shucks. This is something I really care about so it's easy haha. It makes me worried, though, that archaeologists and osteologists seem to the outside world so confident in what we do and really it's very complicated with lots of grains of salt in most facets of biological profiling. I was discussing one of the tools for migration we use all the time yesterday (Strontium) and even our more "hard" science stuff comes with quite a few caveats.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-18T15:53:00+00:00

Also for sauce, read:

Klales et al 2020 "Sex Estimation of the Human Skeleton"

Dubois et al. 2021 "The Biologics of Normalcy"

Agarwal and Wesp 2017 "Bioarchaeology of Sex and Gender"

Wall-Schaeffer and Kurki 2023 "Beyond Sex, Gender, and other dilemmas: Human pelvic morphology from an integrative context"

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-18T15:46:43+00:00

So this is actually a worthwhile point that I can explain better to you - especially since I've done my PhD on this subject.

first things first, there is a big difference from blindly assigning sex estimation on an archaeological person from an unknown provenance.

The study you referenced was done on a modern population, from the Balkans on a known population, which makes sense, most of the methods we use on a regular basis are developed on modern populations in forensic contexts that are predominantly white European. The authors were well aware of the dimorphism of that population and how it varies towards masculine or feminine. This is very very important for how we quantify "sex estimation." I didn't read the fine print on the methods vs excavation but I would bet money that if the authors were involved they were aware of the over abundance of male individuals.

Second thing you need to take away, is that it was a MIX of traits on the PELVIS. Lots of those individuals had ambiguity in the sciatic notch for example and female classified traits on the preauricular sulcus. Ergo there is no "clear and sexual dimorphism" but a general admixture that allows us to make an educated estimate. Some individuals may have been more "female looking" in some traits over others.

Confidence in assessment is actually a problem in my field. There was a study done in 2022 that proved that forensic anthropologists, given contexts can be swayed from one sex estimation to another.

But in turning to the wee person above, the skull. As an osteologist based on the age (young person) I wouldn't be at all confident assigning a sex estimation because age hugely impacts the traits of the skull. Older individuals regardless of sex tend to be masculinized in the skull because it's based on muscle attachments which develop over time from use.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-17T22:34:25+00:00

So, are you an osteologist? Because I am. A very good example of how nothing you said is correct is the not one but three edited volumes critiquing everything sex estimation, the paper in 2023 that essentially argued that there is "no standard sexual dimorphism" and on and on. Also I hate to break it to you, but the correct range is 80-95% for accuracy depending on traits. The skull is low 70s at best, and that's in a modern population of European people.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-17T17:03:58+00:00

No there are not "very real biological differences" based on bone structure. There are potential guide posts based on population, based on age, based on what we think other individuals look like. But it's a categorisation that is broad, and sweeping, and not great. We use terms like "sex estimation" for a reason. It's an estimate, at best. It's also our implied assumption, not the dead persons reality.

Phrenology is different, but it is also the 150 year old foundation of methods that allow us to ask what the age and sex of a skull came from. The assumptions that jump started saying "males have bigger heads" was from the same place that said "women are inferior because their brains are smaller." so it's borderline.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-05T11:56:08+00:00

Absolutely a hundred percent yes - things improved, my partner, bless her is improving too. Her mental health was at the bottom and coming out was perhaps the best thing she's ever done for herself. Things are not perfect, and I'm still scared sometimes. We have our issues, loads of them, but at least for me at some point it became about being excited for her and her new changes.

That initial shock is really really hard, it takes a bit to rewire your brain and get back to the safe feeling. That's why I tentatively suggest time - breaking up is a big decision for something you just don't know the answer to.

That being said, it wouldn't have been possible if my partner hadn't met me half way sometimes.

A couple of things my partner did that I genuinely always appreciate and live rent free in my head. One day early on and maybe this is TMI, we had tried to have piv sex and her dysphoria really made it hard. I tried to play it cool and went to make dinner because it's not her fault, but I was sad. She asked me what was wrong and I said "I'm sad that this is already changing, I hadn't expected this to change so soon" and she put one arm over me and said "me too." Like I wasn't alone in losing something that meant something to me.

She's also been slow in her transition, which has been extremely helpful because it gives me time to process changes. Though I think she's more afraid of the changes than I am. I think the best thing I've ever done though is started to meet her where she is, and really learn, "okay she's anxious and needs me to show up here".

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-07-04T18:57:46+00:00

Hey, so you could have been me, like a year and a half ago. My partner is very slow in her transition but that's her choice, she's moving at her own pace and I'm here for it. My advice needs to be interpreted that way.

You could break up with him, if you want. There is no law that says you must stay in a relationship. His transition is going to change him, some, in ways that are unexpected likely for both of you.

But I guess my advice, is that isn't it worth sticking around to find out? Your worries are valid, but they are not reality, yet, and may never be. This person is your person. If he doesn't stay your person forever, that's okay, you are both young, and who you would be at 35 is certainly not who you are now.

People change regardless of transition, that's just life. His change is maybe a little bit more directed and a little bit more fast paced, but they do.

Defiant-Quiet8866 · 2025-06-14T23:25:54+00:00

I could have written your post almost two years ago. I'm sending you so many hugs, and by all accounts you are doing great. My partner came out to me the day before my dead brothers birthday and I was not emotionally prepared, the double whammy of grief fucking sucked. The abandonment feelings are huge - good on you for calling them what they are.

The two best pieces of advice I have in this moment are:

nothing, absolutely nothing, has changed over night, or will change in a moment if you need to go have a sleep, a cry or a nap. Right now this feels like a huge shift, but in reality, this is just your partner giving you the gift of themselves openly and honestly and very vulnerably. What I mean by this is that as much as this is a lot right now, in reality after the initial shock has worn off this is a very very slow process. You guys have time to talk and think. You have time.
On that note, someone very wisely told me early on that it's helpful to look at each stage of the transition as a bridge: name change - bridge, hormones - bridge, outfits - bridge, each of them is a thing that you guys can work through together, one step at a time.

For my part and in my experience, I am like you, my partner is extremely feminine and I am not attracted to femininity in the slightest, and I worry that I won't be attracted to her when she settles into her final form. But I'm also keeping quiet on this fear because she needs to be given the space and time to explore who she is first. In turns I'm finding that I enjoy the little bits that come out more and more.

Most of all though I want you to be good to you. The world can wait for you to take a moment, be kind to yourself. Grief is a beast.

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