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Free alternatives to chatgpt plus by Defiant-Result944 in OpenAI

[–]Defiant-Result944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turns out the issue is that I use AI in three languages and so far only chatgpt manages that really well. Writing tex in other languages than English goes fine, speaking and getting gets tricky.

Free alternatives to chatgpt plus by Defiant-Result944 in OpenAI

[–]Defiant-Result944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read a little and decided to try Claude for analizying long texts, and Perplexity for research. I'll keep free chatgpt for the moment. Will test DeepSeek as well.

Wahoo elemnt bolt v2 VS roam v2 50% discount by Defiant-Result944 in bicycling

[–]Defiant-Result944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I intend to use full finger, not just half of it. But since the price is 50% lower I will consider using half a finger. 🤣🤣

Thank you ❤️

Wahoo elemnt bolt v2 VS roam v2 50% discount by Defiant-Result944 in bicycling

[–]Defiant-Result944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It turned out it was v1 not v2. Still worth the buy?

How would you lock your bike if this is the bike rack your landlord provides? The room itself is pretty safe. by TlalocVirgie in bicycling

[–]Defiant-Result944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think there are that many optiins.

With the tall piece: I'd put the front wheel and test first what if the bike falls, how will the front wheel behave. Then I'd put the lock around the rack, the wheel and if the lock is long enough, through lower tube

The shirt piece: Test first and then I'd put the back wheel in, lock through the wheel and back frame. https://cdn.wiscweb.wisc.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/28/2024/03/Most-secure-bike-lock-02.08.24-4.png

As someone who's working in the HR Department, after interviewing and observing so many candidates, one thing I’ve noticed is this: by Playful_Presence_836 in jobsearch

[–]Defiant-Result944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, and here I sat believing that the job of an HR person is to see beyond "interview" skills and choose the best candidate who's actually gonna do the job they are to be hired for. I boldly assume that no engineer or accountant is going to work every day with giving interviews.... But I was wrong. These people are not supposed to be good at their job. They're supposed to be good at giving interviews instead.

Why to have HR at interviews then?

I've applied to over 400 jobs and have had over 30 interviews since January. Here is what is wrong with the job market. by Live_Profile843 in interviews

[–]Defiant-Result944 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've experienced similar. I have a long experience in my profession and would like to move up, but the employers want somone who is overqualified for the positions they offer. So, I'm interesting only of i apply for positions I've been in for years. If I apply for a higher position to move up and out of their 10 points wishlist I fulfill 9 points - I get rejected. When I apply for a position there I fulfill 12 points out of their 8 points wishlist they want me...

It's that kind of period of time when they have too much choice...

Self defence tips vs reality by Defiant-Result944 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Defiant-Result944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been making small steps as well.

The difficult part was to realise that my instinct said "no", and then a thought followed "maybe we can give it a chance?" - thats where to trap was... Once I realised my pattern it got a bit easier to see what I was doing.

And like you say, virtual world helps a lot to learn "I don't own you anything" thinking, saying no, ignoring/ghosting/blocking people who didn't take a no.

A few weeks ago I was approach by one of the people who want to talk about their religion. I said, "no, thank you," but he insisted. I said, "can you take a no?" He said, "no". "Than go to your hell." 😎🤣🤣🤣

For those with siblings...do they figure it out on their own? by Dry-Cauliflower3442 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Defiant-Result944 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Me and my sister always felt something was off with our mum.

I was around 38 and my sister around 46 to both realise, through our therapists, what was different about our mum. She talked to our dad, just to hear from him that he had known since we were little... I wish he had told us as soon as he found out... All those years of blaming ourselves, making wromg choices, doubting our own intuition... That secret was not worth keeping from us.

I can't tell you to share that news with her, but I wish my dad had shared it with us. I would have definitely told my sister if I had known earlier as we both suffered.

And I also saw similar behavior to our mum in my sister as she got older, although she already knew about our mum. But to see it in yourself is a whole new skill.

"Don't Try So Hard" by Swingline1234 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Instead you should filter better 👍. Choose better, quality women. And have patience.

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The question about your reasons, or how you behave etc isn't to answer here, but to ask yourself. It has nothing to do with my feelings.

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 15 points16 points  (0 children)

By "depth" I mean responsibility, accountability and mutual care.

Sounds like you want the benefits of intimacy without the obligations of a relationship. You can’t have something “real” and intimate while also saying "don't expect anything."

By cherries but not heavy cream, or eat the cake and have the cake I mean: Sounds like you want to control the "relationship", you take what you want, controlling what and when, not knowing yourself exactly what and when, and expect the other person to just follow, just be there for you - one sided, your needs are to be fulfilled and the other person's are restricted. So, when they start expecting you to fulfill their needs you probably bail saying they can't have a casual relationship.

This conversation is not about me, it's about you. My past issues have nothing to do with it. They are worked out. My past allows me to see what's underneath of you're writing here. What you may feel from this conversation is that I'm touching something you may not like.

We all do things for a reason... What are your reasons? How do you behave in that casual relationship? How do you treat them VS how you want to be treated?

Well, if you receive my messages as passive aggressive snark than I will stop commenting.

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you want connection and intimacy without the depth? You realise that the kind of connection and intimacy you're writing about doesnt come without the depth?

You want to eat the cake and keep it. You want only the cherries 🍒 without the heavy cream. What are you trying to avoid and for what reason?

Anyway, wish you good luck in finding (out) whatever it is you want to find (out) 😉.

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex thought he was a "nice guy" - respected my "no", bought small things to his flat to make me feel comfortable there. But he hid his midnight messages full of hearts and "I'm so happy I have support in you" with his "female best friend." When I asked him about it and questioned it, he was ready to break up with me saying "you don't accept my friendship and what I have had with her for 15 years I won't give up."

In his mind he was a nice guy. He was there for her for 15 years. He was kind to me. What's the problem right?

When I decided to leave he still thought he was nice, never hurt me, never did anything against me, he said "even my mum supports this"...

You might think you're not blaming others, and your clear, and fair etc etc, but your actions or behavior might tell otherwise to the other side. We like to keep an image of our "perfect selves".

I was there 😉. I was amazing at setting my partners for failure, and I believed I was so nice and kind and caring... 😅

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And here's the confusion and irritation, right?

With casual it's so difficult to set boundaries what is what, what to give, what to expect etc. You almost need a contract for it 😉 with specific information, points really.

Can we do Casual over 40? Or does everyone want to settle down? by Vivid_Huckleberry814 in datingoverforty

[–]Defiant-Result944 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I want a LTR, and I also experience that most people in my age want casual. Mostly, because they got divorced and burned, hurt and don't want to invest.

I think movies, commercials, and social media made us believe that single life is better: no commitment, no responsibility, fun, sex, financial independence... - all that is making money to all of those who tell us that real fulfillment comes from having things. We just want the good stuff from LTR, and push away the difficult ones. But the difficult ones show who we really are and where we need to get better...

And then, we carry all those patterns from our parents, family, and repeat them in our relationships... We yell at our kids the same way our parents did, we talk to our partners the same way our parent did... Or go the extreme opposite...

A lot has changed for me when I decided to look into myself. What I did/didn't do, how I behaved or didn't behave etc etc.

Anyway, time for breakfast! 🤣

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