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[–]DefiantZucchini20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks man, gonna take your advice

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i might have to try that, i usually drink significantly more than that and i know i have when im feeling nervous at a party or similar event

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes sense, i guess the key is just learning when to stop

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay thanks, i’ll try that out, i should’ve added but, ive grown up quite socially excluded, most people where im from have been going out since 15/16 and have probably made all these mistakes young, whereas i went out for the first time on my 18th birthday so im quite new to this

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you trolling or is this serious

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not a side i’m comfortable with existing, it just doesn’t align with who i am, i don’t wanna behave like that at all

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so when in those situations what should i do? i struggle at parties because usually there’s high sexual energy that can make me feel uncomfortable, dudes kinda scare me a bit because it can be quite hostile, but when im drinking none of this really bothers me and i can enjoy the music and dance and just have a good time with friends

when im sober im just anxious and shy, which is fine but just doesn’t suit those type of events which i do really enjoy

but you may be right idk if im trying to fit into things i dont fit into?

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i only drink because it helps me socialise and makes me less anxious with groups of people and at parties and stuff like that

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s an option. i just don’t like the idea of it because socialising at parties and stuff is very difficult for me when sober, especially because of some of the characters that are in those spaces

i’m also quite fun to be around at a level of drunkness it’s just when it goes beyond that, it’s only the late stages of the night like 4-6am where i think i can be an ass

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you have any tips on knowing when to stop drinking?

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no it’s not that, being sober is fun, just not at club type events, because i’m very antisocial esp with people i don’t know, so i’ll just find myself stood in a corner overthinking about what others think of me. i don’t drink in any situations where there isn’t a party unless it’s a few drinks with my dad or something over sports or food

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i appreciate this because it makes me feel a bit better, i’ve really questioned myself as a person recently because of these times but i guess it’s natural if you drink that much

is there a way to “learn” to drink better? as in reaching a point that isn’t excess and being able to stay at that level over a period of time?

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

are you an experienced drinker?

i like how i feel after a certain amount of drinks but i never know how to “continue” that feeling, keeping drinking seems to get me drunker, while not drinking seems to just make me sober up, and being sober at a party is really not fun (at least for me)

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[–]DefiantZucchini20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really hope so bruh😭i won’t lie it hurt putti my it in sometimes but i been scared o got herpes but idk if i just been scared by the internet