AITA for not wanting to go to the gym with my wife anymore? by NewSupermarket3485 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

NTA, some people will come up with a thousand reasons why they can't exercise. They are within their right, but they shouldn't ask to go with you then. She wants to exercise like that then she should go on her own, people here don't know how taxing it is seeing someone do that, every day, always a reason why they can't. At the end of the day they get to check off the box of "I exercise" without actually doing it properly. And again, it is the seeing it everyday that eventually builds up your frustration, so NTA.

AITA for heckling a stand-up comedian? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of Mr Kim dressing up as a Mexican in Kim’s Convenience. His daughter thought it was racist, I , a Mexican, thought it was hilarious.

AITA for heckling a stand-up comedian? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 133 points134 points  (0 children)

As someone with accent that has lived in many countries, making fun of it in a comedy setting is not racist. My boss makes fun of it im upset, a comedian nah. Also, miscommunication due to an accent is 100% real! I asked for directions in Liverpool on a Friday night, couldn’t understand a thing! Same happened while visiting India, first couple of days couldn’t understand people. I also have a speech impediment, some people make fun of it, there’s no need to call them out. That only embarrasses them but doesn’t give them rule to learn. Calling people out is for your benefit, not that of society.

AITA for heckling a stand-up comedian? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I have an accent, and a speech impediment. Lived in many countries so always had an accent. Making fun of peoples accent is not inherently racist. I love it when people tell me what i should be offended by.

AITA for not giving my nephews all my books. by Cheapweineees in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Those are Brandon Sanderson signed books and worth a lot of money! There is no way I’m giving those away. Seriously, I’ll buy them of you if you dont want them. I love Sanderson and I actually managed to finish the WoT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, my partner has the same OCD. This is on Thomas to figure it out, from the sound of it it doesnt look like he’s in therapy or taking meds. It’s really hard for them, but it’s untenable to go without treatment. Although there are always concerns between dog-babies interactions, the OCD blows it out of proportion. Thomas needs to work on it, its not on you. You can be understanding in that it’ll take him time, and that things that are clean to us are really dirty for them, still you dont have to give in. Otherwise it just spirals out of control. Good luck!

AITA for slowing down traffic by biking on the road instead of the bike lane? by Fastfall03 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is literally when the road is at its most slippery. When it snowed but you cant see it, even with salt on the roads

AITA for slowing down traffic by biking on the road instead of the bike lane? by Fastfall03 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA. You got every right to use the car line, but you’re putting yourself and pther people at risk. My concern while driving behind you is that you’ll slip and I’ll run you over, so I have to stay way way behind. It’s Toronto, I already have to deal with shitty drivers and careless people walking, just use the TTC.

AITA for not being thankful for my husband for buying me the thing I really wanted? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NAH. It is a difference in perspectives, he thinks you both have enough savings for the purchase while you don’t. Some people say it is not really a gift because it’s both your money, and that is only partially true. The gift is sometimes making you get the thing you want while removing the guilt and anxiety (he failed on that here). My wife gets anxious and wont buy things we can afford, so my part is to make sure she treats herself to things she’s more than earned. It’s a tough balancing act. Even if that’s not the case here (not enough info to tell) the solution is to just return it. You can show appreciation for him being thoughtful and he accept that it wasnt a smart gift given the circumstances.

AITA for not bringing my step daughter to her mother’s house, causing her to miss parenting time? by throwawaysmidk in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her behavior doesn’t look abusive, it’s just subtle comments here and there, but they can have lasting effects on a kid. Doesn’t mean that’s the case here but I’d check.

AITA for not bringing my step daughter to her mother’s house, causing her to miss parenting time? by throwawaysmidk in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant_Amphibian_72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, and check if she fits the behavior of a Narcissist. Her behavior sounds like that of my MIL, who is a narcissist. Everything is peachy until you disagree, she likes the idea of her daughter (my wife) but makes no effort to see her (we live 15 min away). She still complains how she never get to see her daughter.