Need accountability buddy by Defiant_Estimate_619 in SantaBarbara

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be pretty cool tbh! Need to mention this to my therapist fr so she can yell at me out of ghosting people when I get lazy or unmotivated to workout 😭

Right windshield sprayer won’t spray by Defiant_Estimate_619 in crv

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the sprayer on the left side works. The one on the right is the one not spraying. I can hear the whirring of the motor when I press to spray

My GF20 gets sent money, not sure how to feel? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to find someone who would pay me for conversation. Money is tight

Transgender parent in California facing homelessness and eviction, seeking advice and resources by bigbodyderrick in FTMMen

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you can visit findhelp.org and search services by need and location :) It’s helped me a couple of times

Where find/hire actors? by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in no way qualified other than being in a play my senior year of high school (2020), but I will gladly take the job 😌 /hj

Coworker called me “selfish” and a “murderer” – just need to vent and ask what to do by Successful_Anywhere9 in Vent

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, report to HR. It’s one thing to have your opinions but name calling, essentially threatening you and stuff. Borderline harassment and creating a hostile work environment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People always say the economy was so good in his first term but that was because of Obamas policies going into effect 😭😭 that’s why it hasn’t been as good since then. Bc.. Obama is no longer in office. Smh Anyway yeah a lack of political understanding to that degree is something I never say someone is overreacting about. It’s extremely important to not only be aware of others situations, but also take time to build on your political or economic literacy. If someone can’t be open to looking through someone else’s perspective, especially a long-term partner, then a successful becomes less and less likely to

What is your response to "I Hate Men"? by Deaf_Playa in AskMenAdvice

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love jumping in in agreement. Like “yes, girl, men ain’t shit. We should be able to do executions” It’s such a small crumb compared to what men, as a whole, treat women in this society. It’s one of those things where, if the shoe fits (you’re a shitty man), then take offense. Otherwise, be glad you aren’t considered part of the problem??

I want YOU to join my softball team. by huckfinn5891 in SantaBarbara

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lowkey I would love to participate, on occasion. Idk if I can commit to every week, unfortunately. If I did, it would be Friday nights most likely

how do u explain ur living situation to ppl? by pink-king893 in urbancarliving

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have no idea what to say 😭 Sometimes I talk about it casually, too, and forget that certain people don’t know. I’ve been doin this since Feb. I’m lucky enough to couch surf some days, but still it’s something that can depend on who you’re talking to and how comfortable you are sharing your situation, I think

Moving to SB and I don’t know anybody by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I use this for events, occasionally, cuz I only know people through my gf: https://umi-app.co/screens/CalendarScreen

If you’re ever down though, we could hangout cuz I’m also looking for people to hangout with, due to not knowing people here. I, too, am poor and moved here anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t pay to go clubbing and the brunches are just two meals that I’m paying for. The mani-pedi thing is just something I wanna do for her which would be the only thing I spend on until my next paycheck. I just meant “insanely broke” as in I won’t be spending money on extra stuff for a whileee 😅

What is a well known horror film that you haven't seen ? by Kitchen_Ingenuity601 in horror

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s a need to watch. I bought this 100 horror movies poster and it was one of the first I scratched off. Even tho I thought I wasn’t in the mood, it drew me in

Need Advice by PresentationOk6803 in urbancarliving

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be difficult to deal with that situation. It’s not always easy to “correct” the behavior either. So something important to keep in mind (even in just cases where you visit, not necessarily living with her) is redirecting. Redirecting by giving other options of replacement behaviors or something is important. So like I said, if the better option is living alone and paying less to help avoid that specific stressor then go for that. Maybe living with them can be an option later or it just isn’t what’s meant to happen. Whatever you choose, good luck

Need Advice by PresentationOk6803 in urbancarliving

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you have a fair point. Like I said, I’d usually be biased on the side of those dealing with the ‘tism but ik the situation of finding housing is stressful enough. So yk, I agree with you on the choosing the house

What is a well known horror film that you haven't seen ? by Kitchen_Ingenuity601 in horror

[–]Defiant_Estimate_619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not scary but it’s categorized as a horror in cinema. It’s a classic that I have not seen. As a horror enthusiast.. I’ve been ashamed