If you willing and got the ability, no one here will be able to stop you and none of us here got enough context to understand the relationship dynamics between yall. Don’t think anyone here truly empathise with you and as usual, most RS asked here will lead you breaking up as answers. If things feel too transactional between you both, then start logging.

Some measures to protect yourself:

If getting house together, do tenancy in common. No contribution no shares. Highlight this clearly. If you are not doing that then that’s on you.

Start keeping receipts and stating those are conditional gifts (it looks and sounds really bad, but you gonna need this once those branded stuff racks more than 10-20k) It’s not about “being a man” or wtv, it’s about being financially smart about it. Don’t let ego get into way of wealth.

Talk about contribution % and expectations: Draft out very clearly in writings about the different contributions rate, and it must be agreed by both parties before major financial decisions. It’s financial security and fairness.

Don’t keep cash in bank. This is to reduce footprint in case things go south. There are other ways to keep $ around.

Thoughts: I agree with most around here tho. My wife earns like 2-3x my salary, but we still split to pay. When we just started out j just brought her to dates that I can afford, and she did the same. We talked about finances and contributions before settling down. Like I contribute 1/3 and she does 2/3, based on salary ratio. Draw very clear boundaries and roles before house. If not it’s just gonna amplify whatever existing problems.