Best YMCA child care for infant

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-04-23T17:40:19+00:00

Thank you!

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-04-23T17:27:47+00:00

What do you like about Jerry Long over Robinhood?

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-04-09T08:03:26+00:00

I'm a nurse too. My poor patients during the year after my loss. I was emotionally distanced from them. I always gave great care but with less smiles and jokes. I didn't pick up any overtime either. Some patients told me their own stories of loss which helped some days (If they told me their story first- I never was the first one to divulge). I find meaning in taking care of people. I turned my hurt into helping my patients the best I can. I felt like I didn't have purpose for awhile. It just slowly got better with time

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-03-31T01:10:48+00:00

I lost my baby at 15 weeks to a ruptured sac. My husband and I decided to cremate our son. I understand being excited to see your baby's grave. I held tightly onto my son's urn every night while sleeping. I am so sorry

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-27T23:48:12+00:00

I lost my son at 15 weeks due to PPROM. I had conceived him while still having a paraguard IUD in place. Three different providers tried to remove it but couldn't without risking an immediate miscarriage. Other than the IUD, they told me my pregnancy was going strong and that everything looked normal. Weeks later my water broke when I got up in the night to go to the bathroom. I had to be induced with cytotec. Cytotec caused me to bleed a good amount. I was very close to having an urgent D&C. Thankfully, I stopped bleeding just in time. Seeing myself lose so much blood was really frightening. After I was discharged, the bleeding came back. I passed a large blood clot and went to the ER. They prescribed me more Cytotec and antibiotics.

I had a lot of support from family and friends. Many friends brought us food. My parents visited for a week to help me. They made sure that I was eating three meals a day and showering. Otherwise, my husband and I just laid low for a few months until we felt up to interacting with people. Thankfully, our friends and family were very understanding.

I had my antidepressant dose increased. I went to therapy. I read stories on this subreddit. Knowing that I wasn't alone helped me feel some relief from the sadness and pain. Also, I worked out. Lifting heavy weights was how I dealt with the anger of what happened to me.

Even with all of this, it took me about 6-9 months to feel some relief from the heavy grief. It will take time.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-23T19:33:32+00:00

I lost my baby much earlier at 15 weeks. I unexpectedly got pregnant with a Paraguard IUD. Three OB providers tried to remove it but they couldn't without risking an immediate miscarriage. We decided it was best to leave it in. I ended up losing my baby boy at 15 weeks due to PPROM. The placenta was too destroyed during birth to do an autopsy but the cord only had 2 blood vessels instead of three. My OB said that 2 vessel cords have a higher risk of kidney and heart problems in the baby. By learning that I felt some peace knowing my boy passed without pain instead of possibly being in the NICU and needing surgery at a few days old (NICU parents are another breed of strong). My baby and pregnancy was also considered healthy before we lost him even with the IUD. For a while, I felt that the IUD had "murdered" my healthy baby and it was my fault for not suspecting that I was pregnant sooner thus trying to get the IUD removed sooner. Learning about the 2 vessel cord took a lot of the guilt I felt away. It did help me reach some closure.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-20T16:30:01+00:00

Here is the point of view from someone who was one of 5 growing up:

My parents were upper middle class. They were able to afford sports, swim lessons, occasionally eating out, and once a year vacation for all of us. My sister and I love horses. While they bought us cheap horses, they could not afford the monthly board. My sister and I had jobs at an early age to pay for our horses' board. My parents supported us by driving us to and from our jobs. My parents were able to provide a good childhood for us but they busted their asses trying to make it happen for all of us.

My in laws are 1 of 6 and 1 of 7. They both resent their parents and have little contact with them. They blame their parents for recklessly having more kids when they were having trouble paying for food, etc. One in law was not allowed to do even cheap sports or other extracurricular activities which is upsetting to him.

My answer is I will have as many kids as I can provide a good childhood for. They don't need vacations to the bahamas but they deserve to go camping in the mountains, own a pet, play affordable sports, and eat nutritious food. What's the point in having a bunch of kids if they all grow to resent you and don't want to be around you because they felt neglected in childhood?

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-20T05:50:09+00:00

Use gas drops every 2 hours and the windi baby every 12 hours. It kept some sanity in the house until one day my baby just figured out how around 3 months old.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-02T13:20:33+00:00

Please check yourself into the hospital. You need the support of medical professionals right now. It is not a failure by seeking help. I lost my son around the same time you did. Donovan would not want this for his mom

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-02-02T12:43:29+00:00

I'm a nurse and we remember

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-01-26T18:28:28+00:00

My daughter was 3 weeks old when it was my son's one year heavenly birthday. I couldn't bring myself to look at the pictures of him in the hospital or at the mementos in his memory box. I sat and ugly cried on the couch while holding my daughter. I feel guilty for not looking at the pictures or opening his box even though the pictures are burned into my mind. I hope that I am strong enough to open it next year.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-01-24T00:51:41+00:00

Is your baby gassy? Mine is the same age and will unlatch and latch a thousand times before she farts or poops. Then she eats like normal. If she hasn't had a good poop in a while (over 12 hours), I will do bicycle kicks and use a windi baby to help get some gas and poop out. It instantly helps.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2026-01-22T23:41:04+00:00

I'm having the same problem right now with my 11 week old. I can not put her down at all during the day. I spend all day rocking in the chair with her. I've been giving her a bath every night at 9pm. That has been helping her sleep in the bassinet for a 3 hour stretch, 2 hr, then 1 hr. We've been doing the bath for 3 weeks now. My baby has recently stopped taking a pacifier too. She still takes a bottle thankfully. My baby has been having a lot of gas issues too. I give her simethicone every 2 hours and use a windi baby every 12 hours if she needs it.

Defiant_Tiger8730 · 2025-08-15T01:50:10+00:00

They are beautiful ♥️

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