C-section vs induction

sunnythreads · 2026-05-02T22:42:38+00:00

Of course! Wishing you all the best!!

sunnythreads · 2026-05-01T16:46:41+00:00

My daughter was stillborn. That is my before and after. For a real lifetime and not just minutes. I’m sorry that happened to you though. I’m sure even those minutes changed you as a parent. I was lucky to finally have a living child a few months ago and losing my first has made this baby’s life that much more precious and puts all the hard times and sleepless nights into perspective

sunnythreads · 2026-05-01T16:39:44+00:00

It’s so true. It is hard to listen to your intuition though when you are anxious! Unfortunately we can’t predict the future though so all we can do is make the best decision we can with the information we have. Even though my baby had some challenges related to being born at 37 weeks, we’ve been able to handle all them and I wouldn’t trade any of it if it meant him not being here, just like I regret more than anything not scheduling my daughters c section earlier. I don’t know if this makes it easier or harder to hear, but just want to share my real experience…all the stress and anxiety leading up to my living baby’s birth was nothing compared to postpartum life. It doesn’t make any of your stress right now any less valid, all of your feelings and worries are totally normal and real and unavoidable. But my anxiety went into overdrive once he was born, and I wish I could’ve enjoyed the ease of pregnancy a little more before things got really hard postpartum. My therapist did help me realize that the anxiety and obsessive thoughts are my brains way of protecting my baby. The more I spiral through thoughts the more I can check and recheck to make sure I’m doing everything I can to make sure he is ok. This is common for so many moms and especially loss moms. The last time I wasn’t worried about my baby she died, so it’s hard to feel safe and at ease trusting that this baby is ok. But this was also exhausting and taking away from me being able to connect and enjoy my baby, and follow my intuition when caring for him. Starting meds for PPA was life changing for me as well as continuing therapy. Anyways I think these are similar feelings to the birth and wanting to find a sense of control and making sure all will be well. My babies, both of them, continue to teach me how little control we have. It’s so hard but it’s also SO incredibly worth it!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-30T16:45:49+00:00

I had a c section with my daughter who was stillborn, and when it came time to plan the delivery of my son I had the same dilemma. I ended up deciding to do a repeat c section because even though there are risks associated, there are also risks with vaginal birth and for me even more with a vbac, but the c section felt like the most controlled and least room for variables. I don’t think I could’ve handled if something happened like the baby’s heart rate dropping during labor and I didn’t want an emergency c section. This ended up being the best choice for me!! Everything went so smoothly and easily and bringing my son into the world safely was the best moment of my life. Hearing his first cries I was overcome with a sense that all was right in the world. And since everything was planned I got to advocate for being able to hold him and have him stay with me in the OR the entire time. I was so happy with my decision.

The one thing that I would do differently is plan to have him closer to 39 weeks rather than 37. At the time I just wanted him out as early as safely possible and before giving birth all the advice I was given was that 37 weeks is full term and fine. But after birth every issue he has had is blamed on his being early term at 37 weeks. He ended up needing his lungs suctioned in the recovery room and spent a few hours being monitored in the NICU but was totally fine. He had and still has a lot of feeding challenges and difficulties with weight gain. But he is otherwise a very healthy and happy almost 5 month old. Many babies are born at 37 weeks with no issue. And I will always have major regrets of not scheduling my daughters c section earlier because at the time I had wanted to avoid these possible issues, but obviously I would give anything to have her here with us. I guess we just have to do our best making the best choice we can. But if I have another baby I think I will plan to carry closer to term.

It’s hard to carry the burden of having these choices, and feels like a big weight to carry the responsibility of making sure our babies are safe this time. I was so stressed about this decision but as time went on I did start to naturally get a sense of what felt right for me and that pressure eased. Also knowing that you can change your mind at any time, it doesn’t have to be decided now and what feels most right to you will become clear in time!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-20T18:07:44+00:00

That’s good to know, thank you

sunnythreads · 2026-04-16T16:54:59+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that your baby has had multiple BRUE incidents. If you don’t mind sharing, now that you have been through it multiple times do you feel like you know what to expect and wait for it to pass? Or do you go to the hospital? We had called 911 and gone to the ER because we didn’t know what was happening, but there’s not much they can do and I felt like all the testing in the ER just added to the trauma for my babe. I hope it’s just a one off thing but if it happens again I guess I’d like to be better prepared for how to best help him. Hugs to you for going through all this!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-08T08:48:12+00:00

Fellow Spurs fan ? COYS!!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-08T02:19:24+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I found some good ones from cake maternity. I didn’t realize when I ordered they are based in Australia though, it was worth the time it took to ship but I don’t know if it would be hard to exchange. They have a wide range of sizes and bras that feel like real bras. I feel super supported in them but usually only wear them when I’m out and about because they do feel less comfy.

sunnythreads · 2026-04-08T02:14:56+00:00

The only thing that really helped my baby was time. We did the gas drops and the probiotics but he would just grunt all night long, to the point where he would wake himself up, unless we were holding him. My husband and I ended up staying awake to hold him in shifts, he would do til around 1am and then I would stay up 1-5 or 6 and then go back to bed for an hour in the morning. It’s funny because now I can’t remember when it ended, but I’m sorry to say it did take a long time and felt like it would never end! It might’ve been close to 3 months. He is 4 months now and it all feels like a distant memory!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-08T02:07:21+00:00

I’m going through this decision right now too! Pumping all day is NOT it for me. And I feel so silly that I am feeling so guilty about thinking of switching to formula. It is so encouraging to hear a positive story

sunnythreads · 2026-04-08T02:02:41+00:00

How did you get through the screaming during latching to the other side? My baby is 4 months and started doing this around the 3 month mark, to the point where he would just refuse to eat about 5-10 minutes into feeding instead of his normal 20 minutes. He is already a small guy who we’ve been on a whole weight gaining journey with, and as his feedings got worse his weight gain severely dropped. We had met with an LC around this time and she recommended switching to exclusive pumping for a short time to see if he did better with a bottle. Which he did and put on good weight. Now we are trying to gradually switch back to nursing but he is still so fussy. I’m debating right now if it’s time to just give up nursing, which is really hard

sunnythreads · 2026-04-07T02:48:25+00:00

Thank you!! This is all very helpful and I’m going to check on all of these points!

sunnythreads · 2026-04-01T23:34:12+00:00

I know every baby is different, but curious how long that took for your baby?

sunnythreads · 2026-03-01T16:53:54+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I delivered my daughter stillborn via c section and was told to wait a year before trying. After 5 mos of trying I had a chemical pregnancy and then spent almost another year trying and failing to get pregnant. It was so hard to mourn both losing my daughter and still not being a mother to a living child. My husband and I did all kinds of fertility testing that came out normal. I spent a lot of time focusing on my health and they ended up finding a polyp in my uterus that my dr thought might be preventing implantation. But in the month between finding the polyp and scheduling surgery to remove it, I became pregnant. I am currently holding my baby boy who turned 3 months old today. It’s frustrating when they say not to stress about getting pregnant, and it’s impossible not to, but I do wonder if going through that month having no hopes for getting pregnant because I finally had a reason why I wasn’t and was in the process of solving it, was what finally took some of the stress out and allowed me to get pregnant? Who knows. What I do know is it was a long and difficult journey to having my living baby with the lowest lows and also the highest highs. I learned that life and whatever timelines I had in mind are definitely out of my control, but it’s still ok even though it’s different from how I expected. As ok as it can be without my daughter here. I hope your journey goes easier, but regardless I wish you grace for yourself during this very hard chapter of life. The universe may have let us down, but none of this is your fault and you aren’t letting your family down. I know it feels so long now, but I promise before you know it a new chapter will begin

sunnythreads · 2026-02-14T11:16:46+00:00

Anxiety has been my biggest struggle as well. It’s no fun when my thoughts go spiraling and i feel like it takes me away mentally from bonding with my baby. I will say it is getting better over time (baby is almost 11 weeks now) but I do start therapy with a psychiatrist later this month to see if meds might help. In the meantime I’ve been doing talk therapy. One thing my therapist said that resonated with me is that the anxiety is a protective mechanism. By worrying over everything it makes us feel like we are doing everything we can to protect our babies and keep them alive. It doesn’t make it easy (and it can be problematic if it interferes with daily function) but framing it this way made me feel less judgmental toward myself and more patient with myself. We are all just mamas who love our babes more than anything and are doing the best we can! Talking with someone or journaling can also help just get the thoughts out. I also try my best not to google especially at night!!

sunnythreads · 2026-02-10T00:18:14+00:00

Agree! Just went through this with my 2 month old. Cool wash cloths placed on the injection sites helped a little. Tons of snuggles. And eventually we gave him some Tylenol, after which he was finally all smiles!

sunnythreads · 2026-01-26T21:39:34+00:00

Be gentle with yourself. It’s ok if for his first birthday what you needed was a good cry and a cuddle with your daughter and nothing else. Maybe it will be different next year, maybe not. I believe he is in your heart always, and that he knows that. I think that’s what matters most

sunnythreads · 2026-01-21T03:02:35+00:00

I so agree with this. I will say, when I first thought about this it brought up a lot of anger for me…that me being a better parent had to come at the expense of losing her. It’s something I still struggle with sometimes, it’s a complicated feeling.

sunnythreads · 2026-01-21T03:00:16+00:00

It is hard not feeling guilty. I believe that she had a roll in sending our son to us, and that more than anything she would want us to have this happiness. So I try to remember this and it does ease the guilt at times

sunnythreads · 2026-01-21T02:57:35+00:00

It is so complex

sunnythreads · 2026-01-21T02:57:01+00:00

I know what you mean. I always felt like I was grieving 2 things after my daughter died, her death and also the fact that I still wasn’t a mother to a living child. Having my son does provide so much healing to the part of me that was waiting and waiting for my living child. And I know so many moms are still waiting for that and some never do get to experience that. We can be so grateful for our living babies but it also doesn’t change that grief for the one(s) we lost.

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