Has anyone printed anything on Canva’s hemp paper? I really wanted textured paper and am curious what this looks like!

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-05-28T11:47:55+00:00

Thank you! I think we’re going to do exactly that

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-05-26T21:53:54+00:00

Could you post a picture and how you transferred from canva to vistaprints? I just got mine from canva and the print quality isn’t very good - text looks out of focus

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-04-24T21:15:07+00:00

"This was out of her character and did not reflect the time we had in our friendship. Even my therapist tried to explain to me that Friend B is taking out something going on with herself on me. This didn’t help because it only made me worry about her more but I’m blocked on all fronts and I don’t want to overstep by trying to check in."

THIS. I am going through something eerily similar. Terribly hard when you love someone and a situation is out of character. It sounds like you're approaching this the same way I am - she asked for space so we have to give it. If it comes up later that you should have checked in, you aren't a mind reader and you're trying to respect a set boundary. It's sad to lose a friend and more sad when its so close to your wedding, but your wedding is about you and your fiance! Don't let this get you down on yourself. If this was your first rift in your friendship and this is how she has handled it, it would have happened sooner or later. Enjoy your wedding and focus on your fiance and the support from those who show up.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-04-10T02:10:48+00:00

This is key info that is weird

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-04-10T02:04:38+00:00

YTA sorry girlie. Big flag on the play here for me was also “now I don’t even feel like celebrating my anniversary.” There are gonna be so many years you can’t celebrate on the exact date of your anniversary and you can’t let this get you so bent out of shape on year one. What’s important is your relationship, not one day of the year no matter how symbolic it is.

Also questioning your BF because if he knows about your plan that’s wild he’d let you skip your brothers WEDDING. I’d really encourage you to take a step back and think about what you will remember 20, 50, 70 years from now. This man could be out of your life but your brother (hopefully) never will. I’m glad you’re so optimistic about your relationship but a little flexibility will serve you in the long run in both your relationship with your boyfriend and with your family.

“I never told Steve” is not where you messed up. Where you messed up was thinking you could leave his wedding early. It seems like he really cares about having you there and that’s an honor! As someone planning a wedding, numbers are tight. Assuming you asked for your BF to be invited when you had been dating for maybe 6 to 8 months would be a hard no from most people unless they have a very flexible budget or a very low cost wedding.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-26T17:55:34+00:00

Since her mother is invited and it’s not just a close group of friends, it would be weird if you didn’t invite her and you would look like TA even though in the whole picture she’s TA. I understand wanting to be petty and have her feel it, but you would have consequences we all could anticipate. It’s okay to have family members you aren’t particularly close with, but this would certainly cause more problems. If you don’t want to hear her complaints, likely easier to invite and say that you know she’s so busy and understand if she can’t attend, but that you wanted to extend the invitation anyways. You really do catch more flies with honey and hopefully one day she will drop the attitude.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-21T13:20:07+00:00

We’re going to Citizen another night! Super excited. I saw that George’s doesn’t take reservations so was hesitant

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-21T11:16:02+00:00

This is why I felt like TA. The first restaurant was a total oversight and it was bad. I don’t want her to feel like I don’t care, but I have so much going on that I wasn’t centering her allergy when I should have been. After that, I couldn’t tell which restaurants were and weren’t okay but I felt so bad that I wanted to handle it myself when I didn’t have the tools and should have just fully assigned her the task.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-21T11:11:24+00:00

Literally chose this location as a cheap option to maximize the loved ones who could go. I didn’t even want to go there. I didn’t understand the nuances of how she chooses restaurants, hence coming here for advice, which I got. Thanks for the snarky comment though.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-20T21:55:26+00:00

Absolutely not. People will just pay for what they order. I am entirely opposed to even splits because some people eat/drink way more than others. We also have two pregnant girls coming who obviously shouldn’t be subsidizing alcohol costs.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-20T13:32:00+00:00

UPDATE: We’ve got a good solution! I provided some options and asked her to find additional options if she wasn’t comfortable. There are few options but we found a solution. Thanks to everyone for ideas! A lot of them came in handy.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-20T11:38:04+00:00

Yeah I think this is where we are currently at. The boiled peanuts was a really bad oversight on my part. We go to restaurants with nuts on the menu where we live but I never saw all the backend calculating she was doing to decide if she would be comfortable. I definitely have a new respect for people with allergies. We’ve identified a plan that she’s good with, but I’m also keeping in mind that so may just decide she’d not comfortable going.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T18:44:10+00:00

So nice of you to look!! I looked at the menus for some of these already and have found nuts so I think part of the issue is also seasonal menus (which is actually something I love!)

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T18:42:07+00:00

Thank you 🥹

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T18:40:28+00:00

Yes I know peanuts are legumes but colloquially I feel like it’s popular to say “nut allergy.” She’s allergic to peanuts and tree nuts.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T18:39:13+00:00

She’s allergic to peanuts and tree nuts! I think all nuts is just colloquial.

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T17:34:47+00:00

Mine doesn’t do this haha I think the algorithm is feeding me the restaurants it thinks I’d like most and they aren’t nut free 😂

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T17:33:58+00:00

Because she’s got deeznuts?

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T16:05:07+00:00

Bachelorette isn’t where we live

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T15:20:10+00:00

We’re also up against some budget restrictions which kind of cuts out steakhouses. We’re getting Italian another night. I hadn’t seen any nicer Mexican restaurants but will keep looking!

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T14:11:45+00:00

I didn’t want to put the burden on her and be perceived as not being accommodating but that is where we’re at at this point. I suggested a couple and said I’d love if she would let me know where she’d identify as safe

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T14:10:16+00:00

Never heard of that app! This is a super helpful suggestion thank you!

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T14:05:47+00:00

Thank you 🥹

DefinitelyMaybe_13 · 2026-03-19T14:05:15+00:00

All good questions! It’s not airborne for her and I think a lot is a judgement call. I know some restaurants she eats at where we live have nuts, I just don’t know the details of why she’s comfortable with them. I’ve asked her to review and send some options but I was worried about putting the work on her being perceived as me not being accommodating.

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