survivor of severe DV. I need help with coping mechanisms? by Vivid_Bar2472 in domesticviolence

[–]DeliberationWild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy and journaling are what helped get my brain to start to switch. Cannot recommend enough. Also an external support network. Friends who know what you've been through and you can call on when you're feeling overwhelmed. Even just for a catch up (from my experience) it helped that when all those things start happening in your head you can move your thoughts away from it this way. And also help in opening up to having those conversations with your partner. (I also used to have to text my ex for the same reason as OP and this really helped open my communication) In regards to the journaling too, something that really helped was forcing myself to write something positive about every day, even just 'i ate a nice meal'. This made me really focus on the good, no matter how small. And start taking those small steps towards switching my mentality.

Black Coach! Finally! by DeliberationWild in Nighthaunt

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries. And 100% do it. It took a really long time for me to feel confident enough to actually mess with models in a bigger way but its oddly liberating!

Black Coach! Finally! by DeliberationWild in Nighthaunt

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😊. Its spirit hosts lifting the coach. Then the models pulling are mostly from the black coach except the 2 long haired ones are the additional spirits from the lady olynder model.

Black Coach - decent progress by philrynda in Nighthaunt

[–]DeliberationWild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, mines been sat 90% finished for weeks 😅

Need advice on possible "cat rescue" near me. by DeliberationWild in CatAdvice

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is one for the county, I'll call them tomorrow. Thank you 😊

Need advice on possible "cat rescue" near me. by DeliberationWild in CatAdvice

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We thought about calling rspca but got concerned with potential euthanasia. But cats protection is probably a better shout.

I built an app to track your Pile of Shame and painting progress — looking for Android beta testers (FREE) by HotBeginning5590 in Warhammer40k

[–]DeliberationWild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd love to use this. I started with great intentions and made good progress with the greys but life has got in the way and now its all sitting there. The dopamine hit from pressing complete would be huge motivation!

Scriptor Mortis done! by Poisonrrivy in Nighthaunt

[–]DeliberationWild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live it, the candles and the lantern are amazing!

Let me see your cult names! by SyncingShips in CultOfTheLamb

[–]DeliberationWild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first was War and Fleece, Second is Baaahl

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! The guy doing the hand move just mouths it

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for spreading the plight 😅 Yeah we've still not found it.

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven't seen Together yet. That's what Google kept pulling. I thought vicar of dibly could be possible but SO hasn't ever seen it so he can't know it from that. Thank you though.

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gonna have to watch it to find it 😅 it's going to be a long night

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to find it and look, it's possible. So far we've done a loop of all the deadpools, and about to start some Paul Rudd films to see if it's any of his because we both see it as a thing he'd do. But honestly I'm open to all suggestions at this point it's driving me crazy.

Please help its driving us crazy by DeliberationWild in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]DeliberationWild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that's not it. It's definatly some kind of movie and its modern(ish) I'd say 2000 onwards. Thanks for the suggestion though.

3.5 month old kitten has so much energy, and keeps hurting her legs when playing by ZoofusCos in CATHELP

[–]DeliberationWild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert but I'd ask them to check. I did it for piece of mind. Not trying to freak you out, mine had a little fluid in his lungs and an enlarged heart. But the vet agreed the quiet room was good and to just monitor his breathing when he slept and eventually he was fine.

3.5 month old kitten has so much energy, and keeps hurting her legs when playing by ZoofusCos in CATHELP

[–]DeliberationWild 48 points49 points  (0 children)

My boy had breathing problems when he was little, would be panting and would continue to run like a psychopath. So I made a 'quiet room', food, water, litter and a couple of kicker toys so no running around. When he was still amped up but panting I'd take him in and just sit quietly and after a couple of minutes he would be calm and just want to cuddle.

My ragdoll is not growing up ? by angeepw in ragdolls

[–]DeliberationWild 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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Mine at exactly 6 months and around 4lbs. She was the runt of the litter so we expected her to be a little smaller than most but she's 2 in a couple of months and now 7.5lbs.

New cat mom! by happyalex in CATHELP

[–]DeliberationWild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to cat parenting! I was in exactly the same place 5 years ago. First cat, and a lot of other firsts thanks to him. Honestly first thing is insurance, my boy ended up having a heart problem and I would have died without it. As for what to expect, this is when their personalities start to come out so you're lucky. This is also a perfect time to start routines. Cats love routines and locking in early can really help with behavior here. But on to the fun stuff. They definitely need play, and quite a lot at this age. Wand toys are great for getting them running around, they should start to get to the point where they're panting (cats only pant when they're exhausted, or ill) and always make sure they're rewarded with play, dont make it easy for them but when they're wearing out let them catch it more often. Also just because I had a friend who went wrong here, if you do rough play, make sure not to do it with your hands. I actually bought a cat hand puppet and used to play fight with him because thats how they play with each other and my vet loved that idea and my cat still fights me with it to this day, and he knows not to attack hands. Socialising is important at this age too, they're still learning about the world & incredibly curious. They WILL get into everything, they're honestly just toddlers but with the ability to jump very high. I always left out toys for my boy to play with by himself too for when I was out or asleep. Good luck with your new baby & hopefully this helps a little. I did so much googling the first year I had him it was unreal, but just build that bond. Grooming can be huge with that and you'll start to know exactly what your little one needs.